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[–] frenchfryenjoyer@lemmings.world 33 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (2 children)

Lemmy's far less toxic than Reddit and actually does something about bigots/hateful people too

also you don't get banned just for saying Luigi lol

[–] Knock_Knock_Lemmy_In@lemmy.world 5 points 3 days ago (2 children)

You get banned for random views though. In particular lemmy.world is heavy on the censorship.

If lemmy gets more popular then corporate influenced mods will appear.

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[–] ramenbelly@lemmy.zip 10 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Belly full of ramen, couldn't give a fuck about Reddit

I like you

[–] happydoors@lemmy.world 25 points 3 days ago (3 children)

From what I’ve experienced, it feels toxic in a bizarre liberal, Linux-nerd white knight kindof way. Which I think almost wraps back around to not being toxic at all and just feeling friendly in a passive aggressive way? Like going to a computer convention held on a hot, sunny beach. Sure, every here mostly agrees and likes the same geeky stuff but we can easily be too cranky about it, one way or another. Lemmy seems way more likely to engage in real conversation in comments and not just one-line jokes than Reddit. People seem more passionate about their hobbies or viewpoints. More likely to help if asked directly and detailed in response. It’s a cool place!

[–] match@pawb.social 20 points 3 days ago

Their filthy neckbeard echo chamber

vs

our glorious neckbeard echo chamber

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[–] treadful@lemmy.zip 84 points 4 days ago (5 children)

Fairly different hivemind here, I think. Still annoying at times but for different reasons. Individuals seem more likely to engage on a topic though. Maybe without instantly thinking you're their enemy.

[–] Today@lemmy.world 24 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

It took me a bit to understand this. I was so used to expecting negativity that i thought non-negative comments were being sarcastic.

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[–] hightrix@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

It is the same.

Big communities suck.

Small communities are great if you are part of the in crowd, if not it sucks.

Mods suck.

Admins really suck.

The content is the same, just a day behind.

It is the same.

Yet we scroll and enjoy it.

[–] BingoBongoBang@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago (2 children)

I joined, hoping that it is way less censored than reddit. Is that the case? Nowadays you can’t say shit in the “social platforms” if it hurts someone. I want to be able to say what In think and read what others have to say even if it hurts my feelings / views.

[–] ameancow@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

I want to be able to say what In think and read what others have to say even if it hurts my feelings / views.

I promise you, after two days moderating an actual large discussion forum, you will implement sweeping rules about who can say what about who. The only places people enjoy chatting anymore are places that are moderated.

We can complain about youtube and facebook taking down messages critical of power or corporations, but places like Lemmy are managed by people. It's not censorship, it's going into someone's house and abiding by their rules. It's a whole other topic if what you want to read/say is popular enough that you can find someone's "house" that centers around that topic and is also large enough to have meaningful interactions.

And if you're looking for debate, that shit is dead.

The fact that every community is now insular and bubbled echo-chambers is a result of human tendencies, we gave people total freedom on the internet and instead of using it to learn more and include more people in more conversations, our instincts turned the place into a curdled honeycomb of walled-off communities which were ripe for the plucking by corporate interests.

[–] BingoBongoBang@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That’s very unfortunate. I deleted my Facebook account a decade ago because it was flooding me with superficial stuff from people that i didn’t care about. I stopped using Twitter as soon as Musk bought it, it was shit before that too. Deleted Reddit a couple of days ago because it is impossible to say anything that the moderators disapprove of. Maybe lemmy will be the next thing to delete

[–] ameancow@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

I think a big problem is we aren't really sure what we're looking for in social media. We see things that give us satisfying dopamine boosts and want more of it, but also feel the hollowness of it. It's exactly like eating processed carbs when you're starving. You end up addicted with cravings for more even as the stuff you're consuming makes you sick.

I was there for the start of it all, I've seen the space evolve over the decades. I was out in the pioneering days championing free discussion and moderating huge communities. I love reading someone debating an idiot more than anyone arguably, I get the same sense of satisfaction seeing groups connect and share great ideas and jokes.

But I also know the pleasure gained from that kind of community is as contextual as it is fleeting. We are not the same people we were when we first read some chain-post replying in stupid memes until it got so absurd we're laughing so hard we can't breath and we're waking up our housemates. We're just not "that people" anymore. Even the younger people now are living in a different time, we are so desensitized to imagery and text on a screen that it won't ever have the same impact on us, but it doesn't stop us from looking everywhere for a hit of the ol' drug.

[–] ouRKaoS@lemmy.today 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I want to murder-death-kill someone every time I see/hear "unalive".

[–] BingoBongoBang@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

You would have been banned on Reddit for inciting violence… wish i was kidding. Kudos

[–] iconic_admin@lemmy.world 13 points 3 days ago

People seem nicer here in general.

[–] LibertyLizard@slrpnk.net 43 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (3 children)

Similar but distinct. Much further left for one thing.

Also, the average level of tech knowledge here is off the charts. Like I feel like a caveman and in my office I'm the one people to go through for help. Never felt like that on Reddit.

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[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 48 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (2 children)

It feels the same as when I originally got on Reddit 15 years ago. Not so much the culture of Reddit 10 years later, and definitely not at all like Reddit is now.

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[–] BotsRuinedEverything@lemmy.world 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I've been trying to figure out if there are fewer bots here. I think there are. If there's any substantive difference between the two that's it.

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[–] greenfish@lemmy.world 10 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Lemmy has the 3 day no poop challenge and reddit definitely doesn't, for one thing

[–] nylo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 2 days ago (2 children)
[–] insomniac@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

If you read the user agreement when you signed up, you would know that you’re not supposed to poop for 3 days after signing up. You shouldn’t be posting until you complete the challenge.

[–] greenfish@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] nylo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 day ago

the kbin part of the link is making it not work I think but I did see that post when it was making the rounds!

forgot about it but it is great we're getting some home grown poop knife/swamps of dagobah/jolly rancher/no arms guy/safe stories :D

[–] Clbull@lemmy.world 12 points 3 days ago

Lemmy is full of tankies and Linux nerds. It's a different kind of toxic to what you'd experience over on Reddit.

[–] Libb@jlai.lu 28 points 4 days ago

No ads, no tracking, that's exclusive to Lemmy and I would like it for that alone.

People (aka, in Reddit language, 'content' or 'the stuff we write but they earn money with') are the same everywhere, I mean assholes and nice guys are not exclusive to any platform. There are just a lot less of us here than on Reddit. So, there is a lot less noise.

Plus we have decent filtering tools, so we can even have less noise ;)

Lemmy is tiny compared to Reddit and the niche communities I'm interested in are not very active but I don't care. I will keep posting here and not on Reddit as long as they won't change what I disagree with (which won't happen).

[–] Supervisor194@lemmy.world 31 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Lemmy is how Reddit was in 2010. Size is what degrades the experience, the larger Reddit got the more shit it became. I am hopeful that federation will be the secret sauce that saves Lemmy from the same enshittification as it grows.

[–] Stovetop@lemmy.world 14 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (4 children)

Less alt right stuff here on Lemmy than there was back in 2010, though. Early Reddit was full of libertarian ideals and free speech absolutists, before the consequences of those positions became apparent in the later half of that decade.

It was around Trump's first presidency that half of Reddit realized the other half of Reddit wasn't just memeing, the alt right went to their safe spaces, and Reddit began purging itself of all that was not marketable (good and bad).

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[–] Kissaki@feddit.org 7 points 3 days ago

Systematically the same. Different weight shift (views and interests). Smaller userbase also makes it a bit different, but will become more similar with more users.

[–] TriflingToad@sh.itjust.works 34 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (2 children)

Lemmy tends to not take every sentence like an insult.

for example: On a r/PCMR post asking about GPU shopping I said "ive run pretty graphics intensive games and some LLM/Image generators too. Mine has been perfect, I don't think OP should be super concerned [about only 10gb vram]"
I got -20 votes and a reply "Wow you should tell to AI companies that they don't need 30gb in their graphics cards!"

like OP was literally just a gamer 😭

although,
Lemmy HATES memes with censors in it. And leftist infighting is insufferable.

[–] Ek-Hou-Van-Braai@piefed.social 17 points 4 days ago

I've noticed there is a LOT of hate for AI here.

It's not that black & White, AI can be good for some things

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[–] db0@lemmy.dbzer0.com 21 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Yes, we have way higher percentage of neurodivergent people here and I love it.

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[–] frostysauce@lemmy.world 4 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Everyone on Lemmy is a fed.

[–] xor@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 days ago

Alright, wrap it up boys, we've been made

[–] Krauerking@lemy.lol 15 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (4 children)

I actually think it's way more like 4chan than reddit.

Niche threads are small handful of people every time, people feel pretty safe to get nasty really quick, and wild mix of people thinking it's their safe space full of people that agree with them entirely from anarchists to fascists.
Also likely to see a random porn or furry post.

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[–] CtrlAltDefeat@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 days ago

The difference is the type of people who are drawn to Lemmy are more technical, computer savvy

[–] throwawayacc0430@sh.itjust.works 9 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Less far right dipshits, more tankies, same bullshit rhetoric.

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[–] Deconceptualist@lemm.ee 10 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (4 children)

That's an interesting question and one that's worth exploring. Reddit certainly has been the source of many homegrown memes, common retorts, and witticisms used across the web. But here, you can try switching to Linux. Download various distros for free and try out combinations of release cycle, built-in apps, and desktop environment to find your favorite.

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[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 23 points 4 days ago

It's a child of Reddit.

It grew up learning some good habits and some bad, it continues traditions it didn't start, but it runs it's own household with it's own traditions, and is building upon the values it's learned.

[–] StarlightDust@lemmy.blahaj.zone 20 points 4 days ago (3 children)

I didn't use Reddit towards the end so I might be a bit wrong but overall it feels a lot more likely that you will bump into the same people on here. Its nice that you don't really get your karma farming GallowBoob types.

The misogyny on here seems more intense though even if the mods and admins are more on top of it.

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[–] secret300@lemmy.sdf.org 7 points 3 days ago

Definitely different

[–] Lembot_0003@lemmy.zip 23 points 4 days ago (6 children)

Absolutely the same material, just less density so instead of the instant "fuck you" here we can see an additional "what do you mean by that?!" stage. And less people with ban ability.

Eventually, when our numbers will grow significantly, you won't be able to distinguish this place from Reddit.

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[–] Fubarberry@sopuli.xyz 20 points 4 days ago

Generally the same culture, but skewed towards more tech savvy types and online-centric culture groups. It's a lot smaller than reddit, which helps a lot with the quality of interactions, but I think if it grew enough it would end up very close to reddit culture.

[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 6 points 3 days ago

Smaller communities make a different quality of conversation. What it reminds me of is early Reddit, yes.

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