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[–] chronotron@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

i'm going to buy a 5090

[–] ace_garp@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

6 hour baths.

Phone in zip-lock bag.

Bottle of red water.

Add more hot water when it cools.

Once or twice a year self-care.

[–] HubertManne@moist.catsweat.com 12 points 2 days ago

I am lazy every minute I can be now. Almost all my freetime is now just decompressing. The height of this is a hot bath that goes for well over an hour.

[–] grasshopper_mouse@lemmy.world 24 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I chose not to have children. Apparently, to some people, this is considered self-indulgent. Those people can fuck right off.

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[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 8 points 2 days ago

My mornings are indulgent because my days are busy.

No alarm to wake, husband wakes me gently.

Sex every day.

Coffee for work, often from the Cuban place up the street, and slow commute in by e-bike.

I also buy fancy cheese because I love that stuff, and have a large collection of liquors, liqueurs, and some wines, I don't drink every day and honestly don't drink enough to bother with anything I don't love. Less and better is the way.

[–] AquaTofana@lemmy.world 18 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Oof, this is rough to admit even anonymously as someone who cares about the environment:

I really like the feeling of being both hot and cold at the same time, so when the temps finally drop in my area, I like to crack the window open beside my computer and then sit with a space heater. Sometimes when I drive to work in the winter, I also like to crack my windows and have the heat blasting.

[–] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 6 points 2 days ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Its so good. I'll do ya one better: AC blasting full volume while under 4 layers of blankets at bedtime + 1...3 cats

[–] AquaTofana@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

Plus multiple cats

[–] Mushroomm@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I'm a winter window down driver too. Drives my passengers nuts even though I have the heat cranked lol

[–] AquaTofana@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago

My people!!!

[–] FeloniousPunk@lemmy.today 15 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Lunch. Even though I work from home, I have a standing rule to never eat in my office. Never. I always go to the kitchen or dining room, and take my time.

[–] undefined@lemmy.hogru.ch 5 points 2 days ago (2 children)

This is actually a great habit my wife and l do. We don’t eat on the couch, we actually have dinner at the table (though admittedly yes, we’ll still watch the TV sometimes from the table).

It just feels so much better. The last time I visited my family (out of state) and we were eating something, I brought my plate to the table and everyone else went to the couch, and it just felt kind of dirty to eat there.

[–] blackn1ght@feddit.uk 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I absolutetly hate eating from the sofa, I don't know how people do it regularly.

[–] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago

Its 2 luxe for u

[–] Postmortal_Pop@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago

In our house we do both, but each place has a dedicated food list. Comfort foods, fast foods and lazy foods can be eaten in the living room, it feels gratuitous to eat pizza rolls and veg at the table, but it's an easy thing to eat and watch a family show with. Proper meals, fancy meals, long noodles, and soups are all table food. Watching a show over a plate of braised chicken with seared acorn squash takes away from the presentation of the plate and lessens the experience.

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[–] TokenEffort@sh.itjust.works 13 points 2 days ago

Every way possible. If I'm working, then I'm spending, and I'm buying that nice thing. I save 1.5 weeks worth of everything every week so I'm way ahead of rent, utilities, subscriptions, and groceries. I can take days off in peace. If I want fancy Japanese food then I'm getting it. I spent a third of my life expectancy locked away living a mediocre life so sad the best thing about it aside from video games was eating a pop tart when I was 5. I'm living the rest of my life the best way possible.

[–] tissek@sopuli.xyz 11 points 2 days ago (2 children)

I've started to appreciate myself a "little bit" more in the mirror. Not saying I've started noticing narcissistic tendencies. But I'm allowing it as I'm in the best shape of my life. Have I kissed my biceps goodnight? Y'all know I have.

[–] meyotch@slrpnk.net 6 points 2 days ago

Yay! Isn’t it great to love your body? I have discovered a whole new side of myself with fitness. Hell, no, I am not embarrassed at liking what I see in the mirror as I finish that burpee!

There are few things in life one can say they truly earned and a fit, strong body made through dedication is one of them.

[–] Fleur_@lemm.ee 4 points 2 days ago

I have appreciated myself more than a little bit in the mirror lmao

[–] dingus@lemmy.world 17 points 2 days ago (6 children)

Well I just ate a buttload of cookies

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[–] LucasWaffyWaf@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Weed.

It's becoming a problem for me, actually.

[–] serenissi@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

How? Are you getting addicted and facing withdrawal if discontinued? What problems do you think it is causing?

[–] LucasWaffyWaf@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I mostly use edibles, since I prefer those over smoking. Use 'em enough and your tolerance can get sky high. Combine that with poor self-regulation (common in us folks with ADHD, IIRC), and a traumatized past you want to hide from, and overuse became considerably easier for me.

Regular usage at high doses can result in withdrawal effects, since at that point your brain is used to the heightened dopamine levels. Without the constant party of THC in my system I get unbelievably angry and irritable, mostly towards myself, and threats of suicide become more frequent. Makes me wanna pop another brownie to make the self-hatred stop, cause these withdrawal effects can last a while for me.

I'm doing better with it lately, but I'm having to do frequent vibe checks on myself, and I'm working on an extended break right now. I dunno how universal an experience mine is, but boy howdy, I gotta be more careful.

[–] BonesOfTheMoon@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

Cannabis can actually lower your IQ, kick off schizophrenia and depersonalization disorder, and put you in the ER with hyperemesis. Heavy use isn't great.

[–] 200ok@lemmy.world 11 points 2 days ago (2 children)
[–] Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I’m a Fuji gurl 4eva. Juiciest bois.

[–] 200ok@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Bring out the apple bib, Jeeves!!

[–] Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

They’re both amazing tbh

I’m just a Fuji bitch

[–] 200ok@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago
[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Good food can be so indulgent and still healthy. When my kids were little I'd get a small container of raspberries at the grocery and eat them in the car to be selfish with them. Just didn't have much for myself at that point in my life. Those honeycrisp apples are so delicious.

[–] 200ok@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

Raspberries are sooooo tasty!!

[–] GrayBackgroundMusic@lemm.ee 5 points 2 days ago

Specialty coffee. I order whole beans from a roaster I know. It's $20-25/lb. I could buy grocery store coffee for half that, but it doesn't taste anywhere close.

[–] kugel7c@feddit.org 4 points 2 days ago

Coffe is the only physical indulgence I can afford, because the other self indulgent behaviour is not to plan anything, to wake up and choose what I spend my time on.

[–] Corno@lemm.ee 4 points 2 days ago
  • I'm an adrenaline junkie. Skiing, fast go-karting, jumping out of planes, all that jazz

  • I have nearly 2 TB worth of games on the hard drive that I store games on, though ARK takes up a sizeable chunk of that space oops

  • Eating my fave foods. I've always naturally fasted and I don't have an appetite until pretty late into the afternoon, so this is more than a good excuse to make up for that!

  • Clothes shopping. I found a really nice dress the other day and it feels so comfy to wear!

[–] jordanlund@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I was going to say "books" as I have my own library, a little free library for donations, and a comic book room.

But it's really any physical media. Books, DVD, Blu Ray, UHD, Video Games.

Really the only gap is music, I've never been much of a music guy, but for what I LIKE, I go whole hog and get the discography. Beatles, Pink Floyd, Chris Smither, Kelly Hogan, Cake.

[–] technomad@slrpnk.net 3 points 2 days ago

I spend too much on care products, which are sometimes or even often unnecessary. I just really enjoy some nice smells and glittery things sometimes. My newest bad habit are nail stickers...

[–] latesleeper@lemmy.world 8 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Definitely soda, specifically Dr Pepper. My New Year's resolution is to stop going out of my way to buy it. I will likely still have it if it's included in a food combo or given away free.

[–] tal@lemmy.today 4 points 2 days ago

There's Diet Dr. Pepper if it's the calories at issue.

[–] agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works 6 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] sharkfucker420@lemmy.ml 3 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Bonus points for ancient books with some long dead person's annotations. Those are my favorite

[–] 200ok@lemmy.world 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I drink three different types of liquids and they're all just a step above average: nice wine, good coffee, and fizzy water.

[–] metaStatic@kbin.earth 5 points 2 days ago

there are only 2 different types of Coffee.

Good and Great.

[–] OceanSoap@lemmy.ml 6 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Food. I have such a hard time not indulging in it.

[–] undefined@lemmy.hogru.ch 3 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

This has crept up on me as I get older. I worked in fast food a lot when I was younger and would just cobble something “healthy” together on breaks. For awhile I drank Huel all the time because I got burned out on food.

After going vegan I discovered a whole new world of flavor, and a bit before that realized I’m obsessed with spicy food (I grew up in the Midwest with very low exposure to spicy food). Now that I have basically all the material things I want, I really value having an incredible meal more. Unfortunately that’s resulted in poor choices and I’m getting fat.

[–] urheber@discuss.tchncs.de 3 points 2 days ago

every way possible, I do what I want, when it fits me. Even though it will ruin my future, as im still in that phase of life where everything you do determines what kind of slave labor you will be doing later. I just don't care. Also I'm stressed out by everything so I just don't do anything stressful, essentially sleeping and attending school in some capacity that is well below normal. I'm rarely caught doing something I don't want to.

[–] sharkfucker420@lemmy.ml 3 points 2 days ago

I use weed way more than I should

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