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One teacher allowed girls bathroom breaks without a question but not guys and we thought it was bc girls can't hold pee in since they don't have dicks.
If you can't tell sex ed doesnt exist in this part of the world
Hell that's not even sex ed but anatomy ig
Don't be silly. It's because most of them don't have balls, the place where pee is stored, so it goes right through them
Wait, whatβs the reason?
Every so often, girls need to release evil demons within them or else they'll be consumed by hellfire. Everybody knows this.
This explains everything. The reason I never saw her after the first date is because she was consumed by evil demons βΉοΈ
Period flow can happen without warning, and even if there is a warning, it's not usually something that girls are comfortable enough with to want to announce the reason in front of a classroom.
I learned in college (from my nurse girlfriend) that if a girl is taking antibiotics that it invalidates her birth control pills for the month and you need to use condoms until after her period.
Spread the word, brothers.
That's not really true.
Sure it's true for rifampicin and rifabutin (and maybe one more similar one). But those are used to treat TB.
All the standard ones you'd take are fine for birth control.
Edit: Thanks to some people who are more knowledgeable than me on the topic, there are some others, or secondary effects you should consider.
Moral of the story: if in doubt ALWAYS use more contraception. Best to be safe out there.
According to Mayo Clinic, penicillin and amoxicillin also can make birth control less effective. But most other sources agree with you. I wonder if it's relatively new information that those antibiotics don't affect it or what.
I am a medical interpreter and until like three months ago I didn't know that women had clear fluid secretions on the regular, as in as a normal part of their life monthly cycle. No one, not any gf nor my actual gf or any friend had told me that. I hadn't heard about it anywhere, either on the news, on small talk, on jokes, on serious conversations, on sex ed, nowhere. I was in wonder not because of the fact, but because of how little info about it there is until I got the info in my job, and even there i hadn't heard about it before nor after. It's so weird for something so common to be this quiet.
You know what's extra fun about this?
Those secretions bleach underwear. That's right, my cute black panties are all inevitably doomed to have a white spot in the crotch over time!
I kept reading and hearing this and since it doesn't happen to me I thought something was wrong with me. So I'd like to add that according to my gyn it's also perfectly normal to not have this happen!
And this is how I found out lol
I'd almost say the same thing about the fact that ballsacks "breathe" constantly. It's easily confirmed by just looking at them when idle, but nobody talks about it and I never read anything about it until I just... Looked at my own balls for a few seconds and realized they noticeably expand and contract at a discernable speed.
That's just their idle animation. Supposedly, if they desync, it's like a yo-yo until they catch back up
That the vagina is way lower than a lot of people depict it. A lot of my anatomy exposure when I was younger was hentai, and it turns out hentai artists donβt really know where the vagina is either. The ones that put the vagina as the little sister of the belly button on the woman desperately need to look up their Year 9 health book.
Ah yes, the first time you reach your hand into a girls pants expecting to find things where your penis isβ¦ and you get nothing, and you try to play it off casually but in your mind your freaking out thinking sheβs a real life Barbie doll.
So true. I had some real surprises when I first got to explore the anatomy of an actual girl, despite having had reasonably good sex ed in school. Not that I got my information from hentai though, that just wasn't a thing at the time.
Believed this until I was like 16 and so did everyone else in our school.
A girl did anal and got pregnant and since it was anal that got her pregnant she was gonna poop out the baby. Funny thing is I was part of the group conversation that started this rumor and STILL we all believed it.
since it was anal that got her pregnant
Umm...you might still be missing some sex ed info.
I had a goth girlfriend who unexpectedly turned into a conservative Christian and wanted to stay a virgin. I was a horny teen and was βwell what about analβ and she said oh no, she could get pregnant because of seepage
It is technically possible if semen gets out/around the anus and then gets accidentally wiped towards the labia.
If, after puberty, you can't easily retract your foreskin over the head of your dick (it also shouldn't hurt), you have a very unhygienic problem called phimosis.
It can be self cured with regular stretching but sometimes you will need a doctor to prescribe a steroid cream to assist with this, the worst cases can require circumcision.
I had this problem until I was 19. I couldn't retract the skin because it was so painful. I had a very short frenulum so I couldn't even masturbate. I went to a doctor, he said I should circumcise. DO NOT circumcise your skin. There's a much simpler operation where you just cut and remove the frenulum. I learned this from Google, the operation lasted 15 minutes and my recovery was extremely fast
Yes, someone I knew had this. He actually bled because of his foreskin ripping when he lost his virginity when he was 30 or something.
We were on holiday with a group of friends at the time, we shared cabins in groups of 6. One morning we came downstairs and there were sheets hung up in the living room. We asked what happened, he said he had a nosebleed and bled on the sheets. Later we found out from the girl he was with they wanted to have sex, he was a virgin and when they tried his foreskin tore and bled all over everything. Of course by the end of the week everybody in our extended circle knew.
They wound up married, even though they were 10 years apart in age (she was 20 at the time, as were most of our group, he was the older brother of someone in our group). Now he's a fat lazy fuck without a job and the wife has to take care of their two kids, the house and has a job. They still married though, even if the wife's complaining about him all the time. So all's well that ends well I guess.
She should have realized he was lazy since he didn't even bother to retract his foreskin.
I had to explain to a girl that no, we should not have sex while you have a UTI. She was in her mid 30's.
Sometimes you're just in the zone man. Consequences be damned (pls dont do this this is not real advice)
The hymen is not normally ripping at the "first time", but these myths come from brutal men that have no compassion and dont know how to make both people horny.
Breaking a hymen when you first have sex is indeed a myth, but so is the idea that sufficient arousal will prevent tearing every hymen.
Hymens come in all sorts of shapes and sizes and elasticities. They can tear from many things but most people with hymens are quite likely to experience minor tearing or bleeding the first time they have sex. That's especially true if the hymen is particularly large or thick and if you haven't torn it before the first time you had sex.
That's the last myth, even if breaking a hymen was a real thing required for sex, it doesn't say anything about virginity because many girls tear it in childhood and puberty from a variety of activities as innocuous as swimming.
https://flo.health/menstrual-cycle/health/period/what-is-hymen-and-how-it-changes
at 17yo I thought my circumcision scar was a birthmark and I didn't know you had to have sex at least once per pregnancy
parents, please tell your kids where babies come from and what all their parts are supposed to do, and don't circumcise them either
Until about halfway into my teens, no one told me that periods were painful, or involved behavior altering hormone releases. I thought my sisters were becoming moody & rude for no reason. I was generally aware of the concept of periods, but not of the broader effects. I feel I might have been much more sympathetic had I known.
If you're on hormonal birth control, you don't need to have monthly bleeding cycles. The sugar pill part of most hormonal birth control pills, was added so as to not scare people when their bleeding disappeared.
https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/birth-control/in-depth/womens-health/art-20044044
I learned this so late....
The primary purpose of the sugar pill is to maintain the habit of taking a pill daily.
The Team that Invented the Birth Control Pill - The Atlantic
He told Rock to have his patients stop taking the pills for five days each month. Their hormone levels would return to normal, their symptoms would ease, and they would have their periods. Rock liked the idea. It would make the pill seem more natural, like a scientific version of the rhythm method.
So yes, your right, the sugar pill was added to help people count the 5 days of no hormones correctly.
But the only reason for the 5 day hormone gap in the initial recommendations was to make users feel more natural, and not think they were pregnant.
Though the history is fascinating, always worth a read!
I did not understand orgasms or realize I wasn't having them with my partners until I finally did have one. π I genuinely didn't understand that it could feel that good until it did.
Another win for abstinence-based sex ed in rural America!
Ever meet a true fedora-tipping gentlesir that insisted that feeemale orgasms can't exist because there would be no biological purpose to them?
They're out there. 
That is a win in their perspective. For those types, sex is something a woman lets her man do to her. Her pleasure is not even secondary, it isn't even a consideration.
Mine was "Not all women like being touched the same way". As in, some women can't reach orgasm from penetration alone, but some do. Some want direct pressure on their clitoris, some do not. And this all makes sense, not everyone likes the same things.
And that is, for me at least, where the fun is. I like to figure things out. I like to see how stuff works. And women are pretty awesome. What would be a better evening than figuring out exactly how to pleasure someone, through communication and experimentation? I'm still finding ways to push my wife's buttons 14 years later.
well my sex ed consisted of a man who would later that year get fired for hitting a student telling us that premarital sex will result in pregnancy and then having us perform a play I can only describe as racially charged about the subject
after being fired he went on to become a far right politician
I'm a woman and didn't know we all grew breasts until I asked about my own.
Let me just say here how much I appreciate the sex ed I got in school.
I'm talking life-size cross-section models of a human torso that you could take individual organs out of for closer inspection.
One thing we still didn't learn much about is how wildly different periods can be for different people, I very much appreciated a friend explaining this to me.
I didnβt understand the concept of a climax until it happened. The first time crankin it I remember mid way through thinking βI donβt get it, so if I keep doing this it just keeps feeling better and better infinitely?β When it happened it was one of the most stunning moments of my life.