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I did not understand orgasms or realize I wasn't having them with my partners until I finally did have one. ๐ I genuinely didn't understand that it could feel that good until it did.
Another win for abstinence-based sex ed in rural America!
Ever meet a true fedora-tipping gentlesir that insisted that feeemale orgasms can't exist because there would be no biological purpose to them?
They're out there.
I've never understood why "feel good makes men want to do it more" can't be applied to women as well
The way I've seen logiclords explain it, it's because male orgasms result in sperm ejaculation, and feeemale orgasms do not, therefore feeeemale orgasms have no such contributing factor to conception therefore they have no reason to exist.
And their doctor wife agrees with them
That is a win in their perspective. For those types, sex is something a woman lets her man do to her. Her pleasure is not even secondary, it isn't even a consideration.
Tbf, they theoretically would rather men didn't get any pleasure either, and procreation happened by holding hands after praying.
Haha you're not wrong there
How does one not know what an orgasm is supposed to feel like??? Like did you never masturbate or anything (I feel rude saying that, pls feel free to ignore the invasion of privacy).
But also being on reddit taught me that this is smth many women have gone through
In my experience it's women who squirt that are more likely not to know what an orgasm is supposed to feel like. They'll definitely feel good, like edging, then get to a point where it feels like they've overstimulated themselves to the point of peeing the bed and stop. Not realizing there's a "getting over the hill" moment to an orgasm.
We shouldn't have let the religious right gut sex ed