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"Oh here we go. Why do I keep posting honest takes on things instead of getting a feel for the general vibe and blindly agreeing with the majority?"

More like a resigned sigh and wondering which comment pissed off the tankies this time.

Nah, I like seeing big numbers in the notification box. Monkey brain likes big numbers going up. And it feeds my validation, that my comment is important enough for people to respond to.

You guys are seeing big numbers in your notification box?

Nope!

Sometimes I'll be super active commenting and posting on lemmy and it actually gains traction and the next day I'm like "what have I done?!"

Most I’ve ever had is 1-2. Guess I’m not that interesting.

Hi, I just wanted to make your inbox go bling. You didn't mess up and I hope you have a nice day.

Hell no.

The reason I post here is to discuss things with people like things.

Not necessarily anxiety, but yeah usually my first thought is, "Oh shit, what ignorant thing did I say now?"

Humblebrag.

Coming from reddit where I used to post on big current affairs subs there isn't really anything comparable here.

I comment to put my opinion across and also to be challenged. It takes me a long time to change my mind on something but it's only by hearing opposing views that it ever happens. In the meantime I generally enjoy defending my position and that's what I'm here for. It's a different perspective from yours but if a bunch of people disagree with me I don't think that I'm "being corrected" I think "my correct opinion is in the minority here."

Sometimes I do get a feeling of "here we go again", that's all

Who cares what people on lemmy think about you or your opinions? I'd rather hear your honest opinion I disagree with than hear you agree with everybody else

Yup. Usually don't get much replies between checking, so if it's more than 2, I worry. Probably doesn't help that I have done the thing where I accidentally say something that a reasonable person would interpret quite differently than my intended message and reasonably got dogpiled because of it.

Just to mess with you, I’m tempted to write a dozen comments with no real content… but other than that: i think it’s quite normal. Floods of negative reactions are more likely than positive ones, and more feared. In the other hand, Lemmy is a pretty chill place and, even when I got negative reactions, they were still cordial.

All in all, we are social monkey, and we care a lot about our social capital. That used to be the difference between survival by and death in nature, and we are still rooted that way. Even if we are accruing social capital with anonymous internet users we will likely never meet in person

Lol sorta. For me, I run official accounts in these sorts of circles mainly because I despise modern corporate social media platforms, I'd still be on newsgroups if it weren't so much work lol.

So, I do enjoy seeing notifs, mainly in the hope (like every other boring ass economist) that I get to have some dialog on an interesting topic.

I would have to post something that people interact with.. I'm not that kind of person. I usually get none to one reply to stuff I post, I think the highest mine has ever gone is three. I also couldn't keep up with it.

I like that you've shared this so we can all bond over the same anxiety.

Depends on what instance or post I have commented on recently!
Was it .ml and there's many notifications? sigh
Some meme I commented something I felt was witty? weeee

Not worried exactly - but aware that I probably said something factually incorrect and now dozens of helpful people are lined up to set me straight.

I never got big numbers there. Maybe because I don't write posts much and only comment.

I say relatively controversial shit(not to troll--things I actually believe in) quite often. I've gone since gotten used to lists of disparaging comments. It's better to take it as an interaction dopamine hit

The point is to be controversial. While we still can be.

Why the fuck would you post this? It's wrong and you're wrong and you're a bad person and you should feel bad! Fuck! Fucking fuckety fuck!

Someone disagrees with me.

Someone is pointing out an error I made.

Someone is arguing an exception to prove me wrong.

I made an agreeable statement.

In that order of priority.

Just replying to bump your unread inbox message count.

Yes, especially since I'm an asshole and there's no option to disable inbox replies for comments on Lemmy (so I can't just hit and run). Nearly gives me an anxiety attack every time.

I cringe actually, because sometimes you get troll comments or condescending response like "akshually, or this is not that or this, and you are,,," so I end up just putting them as read all and not respond

Lemmy needs the "disable inbox replies" feature for comments imo. Although lately I see mostly polite disagreement.

I do, and not only on Lemmy, but also Whatsapp, Teams, email etc. It's the fear of screwing up and/or missing out, and a wave of anxiety combs over me when I see a number >0. I've been talking with my therapist about it, there are reasons and methods to overcome this...

No

It's like a box of candies...

Surprising constructive discussion or did I clumsily step on someone's ego again?