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Dad has recently gotten himself a much younger girlfriend whom he has moved in last month. My bedroom and their bedroom are wall to wall. The fact that they fuck doesn’t make me uncomfortable - so happy for them, but they do it on max volume. No joke. Every night at 11 and in the morning at 6 on the clock. These walls are paper thin apparently.

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[–] guy@piefed.social 9 points 1 hour ago

Either 'I can hear you fuck, keep it down.' or 'JFYI the walls are thin.'

[–] ERROR_100_000_100@infosec.pub 5 points 2 hours ago

Play hentai on speakers 😉

[–] bizzle@lemmy.world 11 points 2 hours ago

Just ask him to keep it down? "Dude I'm pumped for you and all, but I'd really appreciate it if you guys could kick it down a notch"

[–] Lucky_777@lemmy.world 10 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago)

Tell them to play a show with very high volume in the background.

Make him buy you a great pair of noise canceling headphones. You can get awesome headphones for like sub $300. That's well worth it to him I'm sure. And you of course. Win/win here.

Tell him straight up it's affecting your sleep patterns and you need the things above to get past it.

Offer the girlfriend's friends as sacrifice and get yours at the same time.

[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 14 points 4 hours ago

Start coughing loudly and see if they're sharp enough to infer what that means (if they can hear you, you can hear them).

[–] OfCourseNot@fedia.io 10 points 4 hours ago

Well I'm inferring your dad's not a young lad anymore, twice a day is quite impressive even more at 6 o'clock! I think they're a bit in the honeymoon phase, it'll mellow eventually*.

But to answer your question I have two options: -Tell him to lower the volume or pick some time you're not home IF it's your home, as in your dad has come to live with you or you are roommates, or you are too young to live by your own. -But IF it's his home and you are old enough then get your own flat/room or some good headphones and let them enjoy life.

*Or not, I don't know your dad or his girlfriend. Wish them the best tho.

[–] fakeplastic@lemmy.dbzer0.com 118 points 7 hours ago (5 children)

Have loud sex with a woman his age to turn the tables.

[–] athairmor@lemmy.world 44 points 6 hours ago (2 children)

Make it dad’s ex-wife to really get to him.

[–] Yermaw@lemm.ee 11 points 3 hours ago (1 children)
[–] SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago)

I giggled far too long at this

Aww man. You made my day, thanks

[–] Flax_vert@feddit.uk 9 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago) (2 children)

What if he's widowed, not divorced

[–] HobbitFoot@thelemmy.club 4 points 3 hours ago

There's nothing like a cool body on a warm summer night.

[–] mutual_ayed@sh.itjust.works 23 points 6 hours ago

Did they stutter?

[–] sunbrrnslapper@lemmy.world 6 points 5 hours ago

A true power move.

[–] NocturnalMorning@lemmy.world 11 points 6 hours ago

And dont forget to make eye contact with him to assert dominance.

[–] YaDownWitCPP@lemmy.world 17 points 7 hours ago

I don't see another solution.

[–] MelodiousFunk@slrpnk.net 18 points 7 hours ago

This is the way.

[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 7 points 4 hours ago

When you know they're in there, but it's not 11pm or 6am, call up someone on the phone, or cough, or hum to yourself. Just make mid level noises. The point is to get them to realize that if they can hear you, then you can hear them.

[–] BreadOven@lemmy.world 27 points 6 hours ago

The loud part of the 1812 Overture as soon as he's finishing.

[–] Jarix@lemmy.world 18 points 5 hours ago (2 children)

Put some Dio on loud speakers and place them next to the shared wall

[–] shalafi@lemmy.world 4 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago) (1 children)

When dad's going down on her:

HOLY DIVER!

You've been down too long in the midnight sea

Oh what's becomin' of me

No, no, ride the tiger

You can see his stripes but you know he's clean

Oh don't you see what I mean

HOLY DIVER!

There will never be another quite like Ronnie James Dio.

[–] SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 3 hours ago (1 children)
[–] edgemaster72@lemmy.world 2 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

But then they'll just start fucking to that rhythm, everyone knows it's the best song to fuck to

[–] SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 hour ago

Imagine midway in sex being thrusted into silently to that beat

I don't know if I'd be mad or start laughing

[–] TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone 105 points 7 hours ago (2 children)

Don't be subtle. Be direct and frank. "Dad, I don't want to hear you having sex with your new girlfriend and I shouldn't have to put up with it twice a day. Either be quiet or do it when I'm not home." Throw in some imitations of him or her. He should be mortified enough to behave. Better yet, tell it to both of them face to face. That way there can be no confusion between all parties.

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[–] Zwuzelmaus@feddit.org 76 points 7 hours ago (2 children)

Stay respectfully, forget subtly. Say it like it is.

[–] grysbok@lemmy.sdf.org 21 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

Agreed. I wouldn't interrupt their fun, but I'd mention it to my dad some time when the girlfriend wasn't around. I'd send an email or text if I felt too embarrassed/shy to say anything face-to-face. "Hey, Dad. Just FYI the walls are really thin in this apartment and I can hear what you two get up to."

I'd also look into earplugs. Earplugs + bone conductive headphones could be a good work around. I'm a fan of Shokz, but other brands exist.

[–] KittenBiscuits@lemm.ee 40 points 7 hours ago

In fact asking dad to buy new headphones could be a way to transition into that conversation.

"Hey, dad, will you buy me these?"

"Um...why?"

"11 and 6 dad. I need them for 11 and 6. Y'all ain't subtle."

[–] WolfmanEightySix@piefed.social 8 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago)

Yeah, if they don’t care or realise that they’re shagging to loud, they aren’t going to realise if they’re told subtly.

[–] JiveTurkey@lemmy.world 7 points 4 hours ago

Depends on your age and whose house it is.

[–] Fake4000@lemmy.world 60 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

Clap and say bravo at the end of it.

This will send a message.

[–] Flagstaff@programming.dev 1 points 54 minutes ago

"Encore!" 👏

[–] hungryphrog@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 6 hours ago (3 children)

I've been in a similar situation. As another user already said, you should be direct about it. Pick a good time (when they are not doing it) and simply explain that they are loud and ask them to be more quiet.

If you still want to be subtle, maybe try knocking/hitting the wall between your rooms, this will probably be noticed if it's night, and they could realise that they're bothering you.

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[–] nokturne213@sopuli.xyz 32 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago) (4 children)

Play some Gilbert ~~Godfrey~~ Gottfried comedy albums while they are going at it. His voice should kill the mood.

[–] MajorMajormajormajor@lemmy.ca 23 points 7 hours ago (2 children)

Maybe that's their thing and they'll go harder. Don't underestimate the Godfrey.

[–] SeeMarkFly@lemmy.ml 12 points 7 hours ago (2 children)

Play the song "Mama's got a squeeze box" real loud. Over and over again.

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[–] Ediacarium@feddit.org 11 points 7 hours ago

Or maybe just play a laugh track right after they finished?

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[–] Snowstorm@lemmy.ca 15 points 7 hours ago

If you look at this situation from an older mindset, i am above thirty, you would definitely tell them in a very direct and short conversation. Maybe even be playful about making them feel guilty, that’s what most people with more life experience would do.

[–] dhork@lemmy.world 13 points 7 hours ago (8 children)

Do you know if your dad has been snipped? If not, you had better move out if you are able to. Because otherwise you will end up being free child care in about a year ....

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[–] EnsignWashout@startrek.website 4 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

Just tell him respectfully, sometime.

As a parent, myself:

  • I totally don't mind if my kids tell me they can hear me. I appreciate knowing our communication lines are open.
  • I am still going to continue having (probably still loud) sex in the house. Unless my kids fully paying a roommate's share of the costs to run the home, they're still kids, not roommates.
  • I'll probably buy the kid some nice noise suppressing audio headset as a shopping surprise, sometime soon.
[–] AstralPath@lemmy.ca 9 points 5 hours ago (2 children)

This feels like malicious compliance to me. If I was your kid, I'd be pissed if you felt entitled to attempting to assert dominance like this.

This is how your kids start resenting you as they grow up. Consider treating them like they're a part of a family unit that respects boundaries instead of shoving a material possession their way to shut them up. Growing up feeling like an inconvenient burden fucks up a lot of kids in this world.

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