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I used to think of myself as a complete pacifist, but these words haven't left my mind since I heard them:
You think you're better than everyone else, but there you stand: the good man doing nothing. And while evil triumphs and your rigid pacifism crumbles into bloodstained dust, the only victory afforded to you is that you stuck true to your guns.
Of course this only applies to defense, never to offense (especially "preemptive defense"), but I can't really argue against it.
Housing can't be both affordable and a good investment.
Variation of this: Poor people rent, that's how they stay poor.
Art should comfort the disturbed and disturb the comfortable.
Hurt people hurt people.
Choose your rut carefully.
"Know your worth."
I've struggled with self-worth my whole life and I'm finally taking a stand for myself both in my professional and personal life. It feels great tbh.
The expression is usually meant to limit speech and ambition.
I don't take it that way at all.
I've never heard it stated in that manner either, only as a way to make it clear that one should stand up for themselves.
"Know your PLACE" absolutely has the negative connotation though.
We thought of life by analogy was a journey, was a pilgrimage, which had a serious purpose at the end. And the thing was to get to that end.
Success, or whatever it is, or maybe heaven after you're dead.
But we missed the point the whole way along. It was a musical thing, and you were supposed to sing, or to dance, while the music was being played
-- Alan Watts
This kind of question always immediately makes me think of something a friend said years ago when I was still a teen. We were talking about school and education and shit and it was on the subject of asking questions when you don't fully understand something and he said "rather ask a stupid question and be a fool for five minutes, then keep your mouth shut and be a fool for the rest of your life." I think it was something that his mother had told him, in their language, so I'm constructing that statement from memory but it was something close to that.
It's the opposite of... Rather say nothing and be thought a fool than speak and remove all doubt.
Which one a person believes says volumes about how shitty a person they might be.
Does it?
"It is possible to make no mistakes and still lose. That is not weakness. That is life."
-Captain Jean-Luc Picard
The major problem—one of the major problems, for there are several—one of the many major problems with governing people is that of whom you get to do it; or rather of who manages to get people to let them do it to them.
To summarize: it is a well-known fact that those people who must want to rule people are, ipso facto, those least suited to do it.
To summarize the summary: anyone who is capable of getting themselves made President should on no account be allowed to do the job.
Douglas Adams, The Restaurant at the End of the Universe
He may or may not have known it, but he was paraphrasing a fundamental rule of the Baha'i Faith.
It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness, that is life.
You can't help people that don't want help.
Goes for people who are going through mental/physical health problems or substance abuse issues. If they don't want help you have to accept that and be there for them when they do.
I've always heard this as "You can lead a horse to water but you can't force it to drink"
In my language it goes : "Alone you go faster, together you go further".
There's this quote attributed to Rabbi Yisrael Salanter:
When I was a young man, I wanted to change the world. I found it was difficult to change the world, so I tried to change my nation. When I found I couldn't change the nation, I began to focus on my town. I couldn't change the town and as an older man, I tried to change my family.
Now, as an old man, I realize the only thing I can change is myself, and suddenly I realize that if long ago I had changed myself, I could have made an impact on my family. My family and I could have made an impact on our town. Their impact could have changed the nation and I could indeed have changed the world.
There are two lessons here. First - the best way to affect meaningful change is to start local. Rather than spending a lot of time agonizing over national politics, get involved in your community - your neighborhood, your town, your apartment building, even just the house you share with your family. Your community will take better care of you and the other people that you care about than any national government ever will.
Second - ultimately the only person whose behavior you can change is your own. Don't be too harsh with other people when they don't behave the way that you believe they should. Be a more stringent judge of your own behavior.
But temper that with this:
Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much. Or berate yourself too much either.
Your choices are half chance. So are everybody else's.
Loneliness is the tax we have to pay to atone for a certain complexity of mind
Seriously though:
A common mistake that people make when trying to design something completely foolproof is to underestimate the ingenuity of complete fools. — Douglas Adams
"It's not your fault, but it is your problem."
I honestly love and repeat this line way too much
Just because you weren't the cause doesn't mean it isn't something you need to worry about/fix. I learned this one from my high school English teacher when a student was late and tried to get out of it by blaming traffic lol. The traffic was not their fault, but it ended up being their problem.
There’s a variation of this that I like better: “It’s not your fault but it is your responsibility.”
Framing it this way shifts the tone from passive to active; you have a problem, but you take responsibility. It also helps the responsible party set themself up for correcting the behavior in the future. Saying you’re late because of traffic and accepting the consequences is fine, but recognizing that you need to leave earlier to accommodate traffic is better.
I had a teacher who would ask for an explanation, not an excuse. If the explanation started to place blame on someone or something else, he’d just shake his head and say “no excuses.”
It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it
Unfortunately, too many people have been trained to reject ideas or thoughts without first thinking them through. Many simply react to whatever word, expression, or concept triggers them without giving the rest a second thought. For example a brilliant idea can be presented online, but if one word is out of place, the usage of that word will debated instead of the idea.
I love this! And if you find yourself afraid to even entertain an idea, perhaps you're afraid that you'll find it convincing and accept it. We should WANT to be convinced, because that means the different idea holds more merit than our current belief!
'Be Kind; Everyone You Meet is Fighting a Hard Battle'
Sometimes that grumpy old man really is just having a bad day.
Bill Nye: "Everyone you'll ever meet knows something you don't"
My Uncle once told me that the most important thing you can learn is where to find more information.
“Don’t work yourself out if a job.”
My pops told me this after I told him how much more work I had been doing than my coworkers, and how fast I got all of my stuff done. This was like 15 years ago. I immediately started pacing myself, and I’ve since been infinitely less stressed at work.
Choosing means losing a little, said by a teacher in highschool when I was struggling to decide what to do after I'd graduate, still remember it 12 years later
Just because two sides are fighting doesn't mean one side is good (something along this line)
... I don't think it is that profound, but I think about it a lot
I read it as meaning:
The world needs fewer cynics and more skeptics.
