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[–] Kaiyoto@lemmy.world 29 points 6 days ago (2 children)

Something that interests him other than fascism. Idk why that has anything to do with a gift. A gift is there to show appreciation and love, not to manipulate their pov.

[–] Jimmycrackcrack@lemmy.ml 5 points 6 days ago

Yeh, this is a weird question. Kid has to know he's going to be accepted by his own Dad and still be able to make up their own mind on things. Hopefully when they've more fully developed they might sway a different way but acceptance from their Dad shouldn't really be conditional upon it.

[–] Skates@feddit.nl 4 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

I know, right? You can just get something else he's interested in. Like OP, maybe the kid likes antiquities, you could get him some from Benito Mussolini's 12000 piece collection in the Colonial Museum. Or maybe he likes art, you could buy him one of Hitler's paintings.

[–] LaLuzDelSol@lemmy.world 21 points 6 days ago

So, what makes you think he's been taken in by fascist doctrine? Are we talking, "he thinks Dave Chapelle is funny and rolls his eyes at wokeness" or are we talking "defends hitler at the dinner table"? I ask just because I feel like some very liberal/leftist people can be pretty jumpy about things that are ultimately harmless. Additionally he might just be doing/saying things to act out and get a rise out of you. You're not gonna fix that by making him read "white fragility" or something.

As far as gifts go I agree with many others in suggesting something that will make him interact with other worldviews in the real world. Maybe you can get him into a hobby that is shared by people across many different socioeconomic backgrounds like basketball or martial arts or travel or something.

[–] shatteredsword@lemmy.world 16 points 6 days ago (1 children)
[–] And009@reddthat.com 2 points 6 days ago

Second this, communism go brrr

[–] Kayday@lemmy.world 7 points 6 days ago

As a lefty who received "gifts" from her conservative parents, let me suggest giving the gift separate from a major holiday. Something I wish my parents had done that could work as a gift of sorts for you would be to take your son out for coffee or breakfast. Nothing fancy, preferably not busy. Talk to them about why they think what they do. Don't combat them, just try to understand. Ask them if they would be comfortable talking more after you've had time to think about what they said.

"Hey [child's name], you know that we have strong beliefs about certain subjects. We feel we have good reasons to believe the things we do, but there are smart people in the world who disagree with us. You are a smart kid, and that is reflected in the way you look for answers to problems that the way you have been brought up to think hasn't offered a solution for. It would mean the world to your mom and I to know out son better, what are some things you've thought deeply about recently?"

[–] Horsey@lemmy.world 8 points 6 days ago

Gen Z men that fall for the machismo of "hustling" just can't conceptualize the amount of financial difference between them and their idols. Get him something he can work towards making a hobby and hope that you can talk to him about why he thinks the way he does; listen and try to empathize and offer him an alternative solution to what he has forged for himself.

[–] steeznson@lemmy.world 5 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I'm a millenial but one of my most conservative friends has parents who are total left wing hippies. Sometimes kids end up rebelling or defining themselves in opposition to certain aspects of their family members.

[–] tiredofsametab@fedia.io 4 points 6 days ago

And sometimes, kids get less conservative with age. I did a u-turn in my mid-20s and am probably the furthest left in all of my family.

[–] KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

unironically, some books on philosophy and more broad political sciences.

Assuming he isn't the stupidest person in the room at any given time, some good reading on philosophy and sociological structures (politics) will be interesting.

Don't ask me for recommendations, there are better places to go, and im sure a few people here will have good recommendations.

education is the single biggest thing preventing people from being more educated, funny how that works really.

[–] Noel_Skum@sh.itjust.works 0 points 6 days ago

First question: when you use the terms “liberal” and “fascist” do you mean them in their original sense or as they are currently employed in US English?

[–] Pacattack57@lemmy.world -1 points 6 days ago

Maga hat and the tshirt with Trumps mug shot or the picture after he got shot

[–] IDKWhatUsernametoPutHereLolol@lemmy.dbzer0.com 191 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Doing political stuff for Christmas is one way to ensure you have a nazi kid forever. Just ignore the politics, give a normal gift. Love will conquer all the hatred that he has. Good luck.

[–] dream_weasel@sh.itjust.works 5 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

Normal gift, yes.

Love conquers all? This isn't a Hallmark movie, yo. Have a chat after Xmas. If you have the presence of mind to see your kids supporting shit we literally fought wars over, you don't pat them on the head and say "ah it'll be fine".

Be a good parent; talk to your kids.

[–] rayyy@lemmy.world 21 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Love will conquer all the hatred

Not only that, but the hatred on the right will consume them. Sit back, lay low, don't participate and let the fools burn themselves. Opposition will only give them targets to blame for their failures.

[–] Clinicallydepressedpoochie@lemmy.world 6 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

Being conservative depends on you being fearful rather than empathic. The fast way to get people to turn from conservatism is promoting behavior that is focused on doing good for others and providing an environment where someone might not have as much external stressors triggering a fear response.

[–] daggermoon@lemmy.world 130 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Ignore all the joke answers here. It seems insensitive given the subject matter. He's probably lonely and feeling left out. If he has siblings it's all the more likely. I was an alienated teenager who was in a place similar to your son I think. I eventually realized I and many others we're being used to further the agenda of some unsavory fucks who wanted to send us back to the 1860's. Try to show him how much he means to you. Let him know you care about him. Just don't drive him away, Show some love and compassion and he'll realize he's drinking the kool-aid eventually I think. Hope this helps, good luck!

[–] Clinicallydepressedpoochie@lemmy.world 8 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

Also, should work with him emphasizing that politics isn't really about having a party but before that, having an ethos. At the end of the day you need to evaluate how your ethos aligns with the parties actions, not ideas. I can't believe anyone today is conservative as I had once known them because I know the GOPs actions align only with obtaining power. Unless your ethos is "fuck you i got mine" the GOP offers you nothing. Which also means that you've already got yours. Which, looking at conservatives, I have my doubts. And if they don't have theirs, well then it's just, "fuck you." Which I can understand why a teenager would feel that way.

[–] daggermoon@lemmy.world 3 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Barry Goldwater wouldn't recognize what his party has become. He tried to warn them. He pretty much predicted the rise of Christian nationalism.

"Mark my word, if and when these preachers get control of the party, and they're sure trying to do so, it's going to be a terrible damn problem. Frankly, these people frighten me. Politics and governing demand compromise. But these Christians believe they are acting in the name of God, so they can't and won't compromise. I know, I've tried to deal with them." - Barry Goldwater

[–] Clinicallydepressedpoochie@lemmy.world 4 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

I know almost zero about berry goldwater but know with a stark certainly you will never catch a current conservative saying anything like that. To think, goldwater was probably as prominent a figure as john mccain.

[–] daggermoon@lemmy.world 2 points 6 days ago

He was the Republican presidential candidate in 1964. He ran against Lyndon B. Johnson. He was a very well respected man in the party. I'm not going to pretend he's the greatest politician of all time. I definitely have ideological differences but I respect him for what he fought for.

[–] enbyecho@lemmy.world 108 points 1 week ago (7 children)

A plane ticket. Others have suggested he's bored and I concur. IMO, he needs to be intellectually challenged while simultaneously having his fears assuaged. Fear, I believe, is a key driver in pushing people toward fascist ideologies. Most likely he fears not being loved.

Traveling to countries with very different cultures can be both stimulating and reassuring, especially if it involves some significant challenge - a physical one like climbing a significant peak or somewhere that's just super hard to get to. You can demonstrate that you love and care for him by going with him. Just the two of you.

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[–] Apytele@sh.itjust.works 77 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Specifically try to get him into some hobby or social activity that will draw his attention away from the fasc stuff. Was there anything he used to love, any friends he's drifted away from that you could try and get him talking to again through a shared activity?

Source: am psych nurse. You don't confront / directly argue with delusions and other thoughts related to maladaptive social behavior; you subtly reduce their attractiveness while encouraging healthy human connection.

[–] Doorbook@lemmy.world 28 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Additionally, I would suggest activities that doesn't isolate him further or put him in a group of like minded people. Cooking classes would be nice.

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[–] superkret@feddit.org 60 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Why is his political opinion important for a Christmas present? Just give him something he'd like.

[–] Deceptichum@quokk.au 41 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

And if all he wants for Christmas is an ethnically homogeneous fatherland?

Just stick to socks I say.

[–] superkret@feddit.org 33 points 1 week ago

Just make sure they're white.

[–] Hello_there@fedia.io 49 points 1 week ago (1 children)
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[–] Duamerthrax@lemmy.world 45 points 1 week ago (1 children)

If he's consuming right wing social media, it might be because he's bored. Others have suggested left wing media, but maybe just finding other activities to do would help. These cost money, but maybe camping/hiking, hobby electronics/combat robots, dirt bikes/go-karts, RC planes/drones or metal fabrication are ideas that come to my mind. These are hobbies that have either politics neutral or left leaning communities. If he picks up that you're trying to politically influence him, he'll likely dig his heal in.

[–] Anticorp@lemmy.world 21 points 1 week ago

This is great advice, and combine it with talking to him. My son was into Tate, and then Rogan, and a few others throughout his years. He would tell me about something they said and I would tear it down with logic and empathy, and then explain the right mindset from which to view whatever the given subject was. Indoctrination requires isolation, so keep an open dialogue, and an open mind, and talk them down from the ledge.

[–] Hikermick@lemmy.world 31 points 1 week ago (1 children)
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[–] loomi@lemmy.world 28 points 1 week ago

Voucher for 1 free vasectomy?

[–] bizarroland@fedia.io 23 points 1 week ago

Coal. For some reason Republicans love that stuff.

[–] Furbag@lemmy.world 22 points 1 week ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

Some kids adopt an edgy political identity as a form of protest or rebellion. I can see this being the case here, especially if your whole family is particularly left-leaning. Kid wants to feel like he has an autonomy over his own decision making and that he's not just a carbon copy of you or his siblings, so he becomes a contrarian.

As a teen I was also taken in by extremist political ideology on 4chan, but the thing that snapped me out of that is, surprisingly enough, my curriculum at school focusing heavily on critical thinking and problem solving as essential skills. That's unfortunately not something that can easily be condensed down into a gift-sized package. I'm sure there are some books out there that can help, but I worry that it might be too on-the-nose or that he might just not like reading much to be interested in dry subject matter like philosophy or political science.

I kind of agree with other posters here that taking a family trip somewhere, maybe not explicitly as a gift for him, but as an experience for all of your children, will expose him to stimuli that drastically differ from the way he currently sees the world, which is influenced by a nonstop stream of fearmongering propaganda and a lack of perspective of what a world outside the town or city he grew up in actually looks like.

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