Ask Lemmy

That I was as socially confident as other people seem to be, I don't care if it's all a facade, I want to be able to use the facade.

I wish I was a dog for real.

To not procrastinate.

I wish I was happy. Not even all of the time, just some?

I wish I were less anxious/self-conscious. It's weird because outwardly almost no one knows that I am. I'm charismatic and easy to talk to, a natural leader in the workplace (I've managed now at every job I've held) and I'm a loving and supportive father. But deep down I'm still self-conscious as hell. I experience a lot of spotlight syndrome and I feel like I dress frumpy, walk weird, etc. I have a lot of social anxiety and think every situation/confrontation is going to be a worst-case scenario. Had to take 5 weeks off of work for a stress fracture and allowed myself to believe leading up to it that my (typically supportive) boss was going to be angry or petty or challenge me over it. He was extremely supportive and told me to just take the time off and not to worry about putting out the fires at work.

I don't know how I conditioned myself to be like this. Probably a side-effecting of growing up fat and all the self-hate that came with it. I got rid of the fat a lot time ago, but I don't think that shit ever really left me. Fortunately my daughter does not share my lack of confidence. That kid is miles ahead of her peers and I'm so proud of her.

Be able to draw fast. I'm hilariously slow at drawing 😂

I wish I was more Christlike.

No matter what you believe about Christianity, you can't deny that He is a pretty good role model.

I wish I was worth peoples' time.

I'm great, so I wish I had more money.

I sometimes wish I could be social without feeling mentally and physically drained.

Wish I could negotiate and haggle, I just don't want to, it doesn't feel good to me. I'd rather accept or refuse the offer and move on.

I wish I didn't have an addictive personality. I just wanna be a casual heroin user, is that too much to ask for? I don't want to sell my mom's TV for another hit rather have a job and pay for my own scores. Ya know responsibly

Wish I wasn't depressed and anxious so I could do what normal people seem to do normally every they meanwhile it takes me a week if I have better episode.

Good health. But alas.

I wish I was more disciplined/focused.

Fitness/athleticism.

Not having any signs or traits of being neurospicy

I wish I was persuasive

I wish to know, what free will even is, and how it could be possible.

I wish I were more handy or had the mindset for tinkering and doing mechincal repairs. I lack the focus and spatial awareness to look at something, diagnose the problem, and effectively repair it or jury-rig a solution around it.

Patience.

Everywhere I go people meander like zombies whether it’s walking, driving, shopping, etc. I can’t figure out why people are soooooo slow, do they have nothing to accomplish? It constantly puts me off, but it’s probably because I moved to a big city in the west (US) coast.

Normal joints

Mine are slightly misshapen due to genetics and this causes more frequent strains and injuries. It's a ticking time bomb for me needing really expensive surgery :(

Someone made an offhand comment that I would be an otter if only I were more laid back.

And honestly, that made me kinda wish I could be more relaxed and chill. Everything just seems to important and stressful and difficult and intense to me... I wish I could just turn that all off and just let things happen to me as they come rather than fearing and planning for the future.

I wish my relationship wasn't so very, very, very, very bad. And I wish I could be independent financially and not trapped as I am.

You honestly have no idea how bad it can get. Don't ignore red flags.

I really struggle to answer this even though I have this constant feeling of something being wrong. I've been quite lucky with genetics and the things I've wanted to change that can be changed I pretty much already have.

I guess there are two things I'd like to even further improve on:

• I'd like to care less. I like myself the least when I get emotionally captured. I'd like to just be able to let it go and be teflon where nothing sticks.
• I'd like to naturally want to read more.

Beauty

That I had all the energy needed to do things that make me happy. I have a lot of commitments that are more important but less fun than my hobbies. Every time I have to deal with those, it saps my energy for fun things.

I wish I would be less of an hypocrite.

Bigger tits would be nice. They’re not small, but I’m a boob girl and so it’d be nice.

I also wish I was better at selling myself and developing professional skills quickly.

Athleticism and the ability to be sufficiently social.

I wish I liked to study. It would save me a lot of trouble.