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[–] LouNeko@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I wish I would be less of an hypocrite.

[–] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] LouNeko@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I do the things I despise others for doing.

[–] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] LouNeko@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Cutting people of while driving.

[–] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Why do you think that happens?

[–] LouNeko@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

"Rules for Thee but not for Me"

[–] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

There's a cognitive or logical error that this describes. Something about others are judged by actions and outcomes, we judge ourselves by heavily-rationalized intention

Do you think its possible to try evaluating people more on their intentions and demonstrated efforts rather than whatever outcome that comes of it if it seems reasonable they are genuine in their dealings with you?

I feel like when people are given and palpably experience genuine grace and having their dignity upheld, they are usualy more inclined to reciprocate as well pay it forward