Assuming someone’s informed, I think it’s a combination of strong desire for a child, plus greater hope for the future than I have. I don’t think I’d go so far as to say that they “care nothing”. I know people with young children, and they’re certainly very loving parents.

[–] Jax@sh.itjust.works 10 points 4 months ago

I can't see "I'm sorry I had you" being a good thing to say at any point in your child's life.

[–] magnetosphere@fedia.io 4 points 4 months ago (2 children)

As you know, kids are smart - but they’re not mind readers. They might pick up on that regret and interpret it as resentment. That would be bad. Just make sure they know you love them, and be the best parent you can. Maybe things will work out somehow.

[–] toynbee@lemmy.world 5 points 4 months ago

Back when I was still on Reddit, I once saw a post from someone on the subject of having children in modern times. I don't remember the exact quote, but I'll do my best to convey the gist: "I apologized to my wife for having children with her in these times. She said 'never apologize for raising dragon slayers in a time when there are dragons.'"

I absolutely recognize the problems with having a kid in a time when the future is in (very legitimate) question. However, if a real solution to our problems is found, it will probably be our children (or theirs) who do so. Certainly, if no one has any more children, the species has a very definite finale more assured than any other crisis we're currently facing.

I have a toddler, but I worry about their future every day. Anyone who decides to not have kids (for this reason or others) isn't wrong to do so. The dragon slayer message still strikes a chord with me, though.

[–] Fredselfish@lemmy.world 3 points 4 months ago

Oh I tell them I love them multiple times a day.