DharmaCurious

This state needs an enema.

I meant to define what that was in the comment and forgot. Sorry. A gurdwara or gurudwara is a Sikh worship house. Like a mosque/temple/church.

If you have a gurdwara in your area, they often do free meals, almost like a restaurant. Baptist churches tend to have dinners on Wednesdays, and the Hare Krishnas are always good for some heavily dairy vegetarian foods. I wish more people knew this.

I used to do it all the time as a kid accidentally to stop nightmares, but never knew I could do it on purpose, or really control things beyond "make the scary stop."

Then when I learned about lucid dreaming, I started practicing and managed it several times, but stopped when a dream character noticed what I was doing, and tried to murder me for it in one of the most terrifying moments of my life. I'm aware there's nothing supernatural or anything about it, and I understand the science behind it... But I ain't gonna lie, that woman in the bog flying towards me with her feet off the ground, screeching "you don't belong here!" And slamming into my chest, waking me up with phantom sensations of her touch? It scared me straight, and I haven't had the balls to try again. Lol.

Now I'm imagining a planet with a helium atmosphere that's breathable for humans. Best. Episode. Of. Star Trek. Ever. I'm envisioning TOS, super serious scenes where Scotty has fallen near dead, Kirk looks to Bones for some reassurance, and in Mickey Mouses voice Bones mournfully tells him "He's dead, Jim"

... It freaks me out that is exactly my plan that I've spitballed in the shower several times.

That was a fantastic read. Thank you for sharing that!

Oh, completely agree. It's ridiculous for people to fear that reaction, and ridiculous for people to assume something based on a compliment. But it's one of those things that isn't going to change until we all just say fuck it and change it. I'm rooting for gen z to do this. Lol.

Honestly, the solution to this, I think, is to start complimenting other men. Men don't compliment each other because they're afraid of being seen as gay (even if they're not aware of it, it's fully ingrained into us from the time we're children). Breaking that barrier and complimenting other men, and not (openly) caring about that stigma will help other men do the same. Eventually, men will start complimenting each other.

Note, I say this as a gay man, so I'm sort of past the whole humiliation of people thinking I'm gay bit. I understand it would likely be more difficult for a straight guy, because you (they?) have to also worry about losing potential romantic partners if people think you're queer.

Suddenly I've had a weekend like in my 20s, but I didn't have to spend a bunch of money on overpriced cocktails.

The real question is, do I magically end up with a boring, closeted "straight" guy who pumps and runs directly afterwards, or am I just walking home naked? Because depending on how that answers, it's either a weekend from my early 20s, or my vacation to Mexico a few years back.

Honestly, with the majority of the people I've slept with, not so much a bold as just taking advantage of the opportunity. Hell, some of them and I already know each other from group sex, and the the majority of the rest have engaged in group sex in other circumstances. The vast majority are, at the least, okay with random hookups with strangers.

Probably bone. Most of the people I've had sex with, sex has been the only thing we've had in common. If it's everyone I've had sex with, it's going to be a little crowded, but I'd imagine we could all have quite a bit of fun.