Ask Lemmy

I am circumcised since infancy. I’m not bothered by it, but given the choice at this point in life I would not have had it done. In the past I’m not entirely sure. I did not have any boys, but I would not have had them circumcised if I had

Not for one second. Circumcision is barbaric. It can go wrong and often does. US is one of only a few western countries where it is common, and the only reason for that is cultural as you've said (sometimes religion/medical). It serves no other purpose.

As a gay who has experience with both, let me tell you, uncircumcised dicks are also more fun. Some cut dicks also look like they've been mutilated by a drunken psychopath with a vegetable peeler.

I definitely would leave it up to them. It is a very long recovery to regrow that skin if they have regrets or issues later in life.

No

I think its a lot less common in the US these days. My 6yo isn't, and to my knowledge none of the little kids in the family are either. My friend has 3 little boys all uncut

I'm circ, my son is too. It was a mistake, please don't repeat my mistake.

No and We would never even see if anyone was circumcised or not in school

As an American adult that is uncut and was also semi bullied back in the day, don't do it. Let your son decide when it's his decision to make. Now that I'm in my late twenties I'm glad that I never had it done people generally stop caring as we get older. Eventually the benefits start to outweigh the downsides and most of the downsides are just social and not physical. If anything the physical benefits are amazing. Makes it all extremely more sensitive and makes naughty times way more fun. Something like 3/4 of the nerve endings die in the tip on circumcised men. And when it comes to partners it all comes down to preference, which is always a factor regardless of what your junk looks like. My last girlfriend thought it was fun and really enjoyed it, but I've also met someone that didn't like it because he had a bad experience once.

There are two major reasons why people find it gross. One can be fixed and the other is just unnecessary stigma. The most important advice I'd give is about hygiene. Too many men neglect it and have to learn the hard way that you actually have to clean underneath, that's where most people get turned off by it. The other reason people are grossed out by it is because they've never seen it before because it's so uncommon. I say be the change you wanna see in the world. Circumcision is slowly falling out of fashion because we are all slowly starting to realise it's pretty dumb and kind of brutal to do to a kid.

And if it comes to it, it's a lot easier to remove one than get one back. Let them make the choice.

Don't do it man. I live in the US (born and raised) and I'm uncircumcised and I've never in my life been challenged about it. There is zero reason to do it to fit in culturally. And fuck any culture that encourages you to mutilate the genitals of your child.

Don't do it.

Even if it's for your religion, let your kids decide whether they want to be circumcised at the age of 18.

No, not once have I ever even considered it.

No

Considering that so many people are circumsized, and I have yet to meet anyone who says they are terribly unhappy about it, I'll start off by saying that I really don't think it matters either way.

However, I am uncircumsized, and American. I literally don't think about it at all. I was bullied a lot in school - but never about my foreskin. I've slept with a lot of women - none of them have ever cared (the foreskin stretches away when you get hard, you can't even see it).

Focus on giving your kid material resources and emotional support, and on setting a good example of being a happy, functional human. This just doesn't matter

I'm circumcised and it has caused me so much mental anguish and pain. I've done the work of nurturing myself back to a mentally healthy place about it, but I beg you not to put another person in that position if you can avoid it.

Consider that your kid may grow to resent you for the decision to circumcise him. However, if you don’t, and he later decides to get circumcised, it would be his decision. If you circumcise him, it can’t be undone, but he will always have the choice in the future.

Nope, never. Never had a problem with women/bedroom.

The comments here are full of dicks.

No. Very pleased to have all my bits.

Don't. I wasn't until my early twenties, due to failing all other options to treat the worst case of phimosis my urologist had ever seen. It was fine at first, but you lose sensitivity over time. Now I'm struggling to get that back and it's really difficult.

We’re American so from a cultural standpoint circumcision is the default choice

Sounds weird AF, I mean I'm not American, I've heard about circumcision fad in US but i just didn't knew the scale. Internet says the circumcision rates are falling, so maybe it won't have such effect on your son as it had on your friend. My guess is it's easier to keep the head clean without smegma collecting under the.. hood, hence women's preference of foreskinless penises. On the other hand for us uncircumcised people it feels uncomfortable as hell to have glans uncovered, just for it to rub on the underwear etc. my guess it makes the head less sensitive in the long run. Anyway I hope the doctor won't make a mistake during the procedure

Not in the slightest

M atheist (not cut) but if you need Christian reason then

Galatians 5:2

Mark my words! I, Paul, tell you that if you let yourselves be circumcised, Christ will be of no value to you at all.

https://biblehub.com/galatians/5-2.htm

Never.

I also think circumcision is wrong. My friend who is a nurse advocates for it because she has uncircumcised dementia patients who don't adequately clean their smegma but like, come on, you're the nurse and it's your job to take care of them

Good on you for asking instead of blindly following this "tradition", I hope you heed what most people are saying here. Progress happens one personal decision at a time, you can be a part of that

I'm circumcised but against it on principle,and had roughly the same concerns as you in thinking about future sons. This thread is doing a lot to assuage my concerns.

Fuck no.

No, and it's literally not once ever been mentioned between my wife and I in regards to our son. It's an absolute non-issue and it's never been something that's been mentioned with any previous partners.

They say they circumsize because they dont want to have to clean it or it smells. a little funk is okay. i hate the catholic pressure to snip. i wish they didnt obsess over keeping it cute and neat i wish i had the choice.

The head of my knob is way too soft and pretty to ever want it's little party hat to be taken off.

It's so soft and sensitive down there, I don't want it chafing on my grunderpants all day and ruining it's good feels.