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I remember how creepy it was to see that once the girls in my class got boobs (around 8th grade, 13-14 yo) full on adults would start hitting on them. I recall seeing a few class mates in a local park, all 3 were 13 I think, they still looked like little girls, it's just that now they had boobs and wore bras. So I see these 3 girls, each sitting in the lap of an 18-20 yo dude, and making out...
As a kid I recall seeing it and thinking "wtf is wrong with those guys?"
As an adult I wonder wtf the fuck is wrong with those guys.
If "he's got a car and he's dead mature, like" is your main selling point, you need a better selling point. And to not be a fucking nonce.
In the 90s we didn't even know what a paedophile was. I don't recall even seeing that word before Sarah Payne was murdered.
It took a while for UK residents to get used to this new exciting word.
Hopefully today's kids are a bit more aware...
Oh wow that article's a blast from the past
Gross. Accurate. Took me way too long to understand why my friendβs dad was acting the way he was around 13-17. Decades later and it still sickens me.
My husband kicked me out once he realized flashing his money at 19 year olds worked. The teenagers didnβt ask him to stop playing FIFA and walk his dogs.
What an idiot.
Has he put himself on the poor house yet by spending all of his money to appease the young women he wanted a booty call from?
Because that kind of behavior seems to be rather expensive.
No idea. He gave 5k to one before he kicked me out. What was our house is for sale now though.
Still remember my middle school girlfriend brag about cheating on me and fucking guys that were buying her beer. Would have been nice to get authorities involved if I had anyone to talk to and wasn't being neglected and abused at home. Kind of wild to lose hope in people at the age of 12.
Bad times.
being a girl is scary cuz the moment you turn 13, creepy men are ogling at you
Oh honey, the creeps are sadly ogling you well before 13... Learn to stab.
I accidentally ended up with a very young lady. I know how this will sound, and all I can do is assure everyone that, at least for my part, everything I say is the absolute truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.
I went to college late, I was 23 by the time I applied to college, and turned 24 shortly after starting classes. My birthday is in the first quarter, or so, of the year.
Anyways. I think I was in my second year of college when I met this girl, I don't even remember how I met her honestly; it wasn't a dating app, those things barely existed at the time and I haven't ever used one; I just haven't seen the need... Anyways, everything seems cool, she's telling me she's 17 and has a bday coming up. At this point I'm 24/25, and I'm thinking that's a bit young, but since she's basically 18 at this point, I don't really see a problem with it.... Anyways, birthday happens, Yay, and life goes on. After a few months as things get more and more complicated, as happens in most relationships, I come to find out that her birthday, was her 17th birthday, she was 16 when we met. I'm suddenly very not ok with everything.
It didn't last super long after that. She was also preggo with her exes kid and never told me. The relationship was only like 5-6 months long. She lost the kid, I believe it was a miscarriage, and I'm sad for her that happened, but too much weird bullshit and deception was happening so I called it off.
She wasn't a good person. She's on a short list of exes I don't talk to anymore. Most of my exes I still consider good friends, even if I haven't seen them in a long time. I'm in a stable, long term relationship with a more age appropriate partner, for... Gosh, it has to be 10 years now? Time flies. There's.... 6? ish years between our ages, and we met when I was 30-something.... I'm much happier now. Heh.
This just sounds like you were misled and it was awkward. I don't think you intended to chase young women.
When I was in high school in the 80s it was not uncommon for high school girls in higher grades to have adult men as boyfriends. One of my teachers in fact did it, and got put on leave for a while LOL.
I was hoping that's how it came across, since that's what happened. So thank you for the confirmation.
I've never been much for dating significantly younger women, since they're usually a bit unpredictable. By the time my SO and I got together, we were established in our careers and just looking for someone that wouldn't constantly stir up drama. Our relationship has thankfully been extremely drama free. If there's a problem we talk about it like the adults we are.
I honestly question what one does when you are dating someone when you are 15 and 17 respectively, which is no big deal, but then it becomes 17 and 19? Like you aren't really doing anything wrong, you've just had a relationship. But what's the legal take on that?
I know someone and this happened to her son, and he ended up on a sex offender database because he was 18, she was 17, and she sent him a nude or something and then cried foul to her parents. I just wonder about these grey areas. Believe it or not there is a subreddit for registered sex offenders so they can try and figure out how to navigate the details of life, and clearly some of their crimes are more along those lines than preying upon an actual child. I don't think you did anything wrong, I think you just got misled.
In the instance you specifically cite, depending on the laws in their specific jurisdiction, that can certainly happen. I'm aware that there are laws in some/many areas (honestly not sure how common it is), that I've heard referred to as "Romeo and Juliet" laws. They specifically exempt people from such charges if their ages are too similar.
Of course the specifics are going to depend on the laws in the specific jurisdiction where it happened, when it happened.... But I'm aware such laws exist.
When I was a kid, in 7th grade science, I overheard a boy asking a girl out. She rejected him, he wasn't her type. He asked what her type was, she mentioned a guy she was seeing, and casually mentioned he was 22. At the time, I was thinking this poor kid was woefully outmatched and would never have a chance. A few years later, it dawned on me just how fucked up that whole situation was.
When I was 14 I got turned down by a friend who proceeded to date a 27 year old man.
competing with grown men
competing with grown conservatives. the list is almost to 1500 examples.
Question: Oh, you think conservatives are pedophiles? Give me 1,500 examples.
Answer: (your comment)
This is actually a destabilizing piece of society. Younger men become disaffected when older men, who are better partners, pick up much younger women (I am talking only about adults.). Younger women are then competing with older women for more established men, which can destroy families.
Largely, we have fetishized youth so much that this isn't something that will correct itself. I suppose the standards of beauty can change again, as they always do, but for now we are stuck with a real problem.
In school, when I was 13, one of my friends was "dating" a 19 year old. I vividly remember how cool we all thought this was. Reflecting on it makes me feel sick.
Back when I was 13 I was jealous because the "worldly" older guys got the girls ...but the time I was that worldly age, I couldn't believe how gross the guys looking at young teens were.
Now I'm old and everyone under 30 looks way too young.....as it should.
At college, there were 16 and 17 year old girls with boyfriends in their twenties. Even at the time, I thought that was weird.
At least I never heard about anything younger than that.
I know a guy who ended up in bed with a twelve year old. She didn't look twelve and didn't act twelve. He ended up going in to the military to flee. He didn't have to worry because of course this same girl ended up pregnant in less than a year.
Her story was all too common. She had been abused and trafficked from a very young age and had associated approval through sex. When this all came out her mom and step dad faced no consequences. They went out of their way to try to punish her. She ended up getting court ordered counseling which despite the parents continuing to try to interfere she got better.
She eventually ended up married to a pretty decent guy and they left for parts unknown a few years later. I don't think she was quite eighteen when they left.
The scumbag parents are still around. They are considered fine christians in the community. After all they asked god for forgiveness. Not their victim mind you but god, so its all okay.