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I'm trying to make a move myself and am curious what worked and how well it turned out.

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[–] flamingo_pinyata@sopuli.xyz 68 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

A company was willing to sponsor my visa and pay for relocation costs. Was it worth it? In some other world it might have been, but the way it went for me - absolutely not.

If your entry point into a society is work, make really really sure you will like it. "Culture fit", despite all the criticisms of the concept, is more important than ever. And make sure the initial social circle you fall into is conductive to your mental wellbeing.

In some ways it's like being born. Your starting point matters. Anything you achieved previously doesn't matter since your entire support system will be gone.

[–] ook@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago)

All you say depends heavily on where you came from and where you went, but also what job you got. Which is quite clear from the post and yet you mentioned nothing of that.

[–] SigmarStern@discuss.tchncs.de 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] Underdone1157@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

and they were never seen again

[–] flamingo_pinyata@sopuli.xyz 7 points 16 hours ago

Well, not much else to say. Actually a lot more to say but to a therapist. I made some really bad choices in life, and suffered the consequences. A rags to riches to rags story.
Giving more specific details would go into doxxing territory.