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So I just discovered c/womensstuff, commented in a thread that took my interest and got a somewhat abusive "eff off" comment from a mod with added sarcasm.

I then saw it's "women only". This is the only community I know that bans based on a protected identity of a person, e.g. in the UK, it's illegal to discriminate based on gender, sexuality, religion etc.

How does everyone feel about this for Lemmy communities?

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[–] Nibodhika@lemmy.world 6 points 2 months ago

I would agree with you but I don't think women are marginalised in my society.

Then you don't agree with me, and you should look closer at your society, it's easy to overlook how certain groups are marginalized if you're not part of them. I recommend you read some posts in some women only communities (instead of trying to tell them how they should feel) to see the sort of thing they have to go through.

I get where you're coming from, on paper our society treats women equally, there are no written rules or outlandish inequalities, and some of what feminist complain is not even real, such as the gender pay gap. However that's not the same as saying there aren't any inequalities nor that it's even comparable. Yes, men do have issues in our society; Yes we need to address those; No, we shouldn't laugh at me for opening up about their issues; Yes, men can have safe spaces where they talk about their issues without having women judge them for it. And all of that is the same for women, there are lots of ways in which our society treats women as inferior and if you can't recognize that there's really nothing else to tell you than "pay more attention", but there's no worse blind that those who don't want to see, so I'm sure there's nothing I can tell you that will make you stop and listen and look around, talk to your mom, sister, or some women you know and trust, listen to their stories about that time their boss slap their ass or their ex-boyfriend forced himself on them, or even the time the creepy guy started following them around.