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Young men are struggling badly, and almost no one seems to take it seriously. A lot of them want to man up - but the message they get from much of the media is to man down. I saw a Reddit thread asking who young boys could look up to as a role model, and the top answer was Aragorn. You literally have to turn to fictional characters to find someone broadly seen as decent.
They gravitate toward people like Andrew Tate (and Joe Rogan, Jordan Peterson, Jocko Willink, David Goggins, etc.) because those are some of the only public voices telling them it’s okay to be a man - and to embrace masculine traits - without apology.
Nick Offerman is right there!
I mean, the problem is that Nick Offerman is too wholesome. Young guys are horny. They need role models who are also horny. But the message that is sent is "it is good to be a man, but only once you are 40 with a pot belly and a wife and kids and no sex drive." Or "it is okay to be a man, but if you want to be horny, you have to be gay". Or "it is okay to be a horny straight man, but only if you are so dumb and mockable as to be harmless."
Show me the man, fictional or not, who is straight, sexual, and not constantly the butt of the joke. Show me an example of where a man wanting to have sex for the sake of having sex - not to get a girlfriend or live happily ever after - is framed as a legitimate goal which should be supported by the people around him, and which is not seen as a farce.
Why?
Why do we have to endorse this as a positive model?
When I was a boy a lot of boys liked to torture animals for fun, I don't understand why we don't endorse that as role model behavior either?!?!
The two issues are out of scale.
Causing intentional harm to innocents is psychotic and a fairly clear indicator that there is something deeply wrong with the person doing the harm. Having a consensual sexual encounter with a fellow adult is not (intended to be) harmful. If anything, we should be making it clear to both young men and young women that it is absolutely fine to fool around, if both parties are adults, give consent, and use protections appropriate to their shared goal (kids/no kids, LTR/one-night-stand, etc.). Yes, it's something that should take a little forethought, but it shouldn't be inherently taboo or shameful.
That is literally Nick Offerman. Not his character from Parks and Rec, but him personally and especially his stand up act.
Rock stars.