That's the goal!! Socializing can be very scary for a lotta folks, but sometimes a "fuck it, we ball" attitude and merely trying to wear the mask of someone much more sociable than we usually are can be a delight.
It doesn't come without pain, but little in life does, so it's good to practice taking a little rejection now and again.
I'm a bisexual party demon fueled by lemmy up votes and this little interaction alone has given me the power to sexually awaken 3 straight people and make 2 people consider poly relationships.
I cannot be stopped and I will never die.
There's a part of me hoping dudes going along with it to aid in the others escape, solidarity style, and he's got some iron clad alibi his lawyer plans to deliver in the courtroom that means they can't convict him.
Well, this kind of way of making new friends might not be for you, and that's okay. It'll be harder to meet strangers if you seem closed off to them, but everyone works a bit differently and not everyone can strike up a conversation with people they don't know. In fact, it seems fewer and fewer people want to do that as the years go on. That's alright.
Mostly, what I mean is that you're not gonna find yourself in this sort of situation if you don't put yourself in it, but you're also far from alone in not thinking it possible or even not wanting it. In my friend group of 40 odd people, there's like 2 people who meet others like this. And they're both dating people who would NEVER imagine of acting that way.
I think it was more common prior to the internet, since I'm not sure how you'd meet new people or maintain relationships without putting yourself in situations where this kinda thing would happen, but I'm 30ish years old so I don't really have a memory of those times.
Picture you're at a bar or event or something. You're a bit bored so you decide to strike up a conversation. Who are you gonna pick to talk to? Be the kind of person that you would wanna speak to. You might find some like minded people.
Looks are far far less important than people believe.
This absolutely happens. You kinda have to have the right attitude and energy to make it happen, but I've had a few flings that lasted a few months because of this kind of meet up.
Let's put it this way. You'll never meet anyone randomly at a bar or public event if you don't strike up a conversation with strangers. Moreso if you don't go.
Importantly, its hard to set out and make this kind of meet up happen. But sometimes if you go out into the world and just act gregarious, it occurs. Sometimes you're that weird guy at the club. That's not so bad, just don't be a creep about it. Sometimes you make a friend for an evening. That's fun in its own right. Sometimes you make a friend that lasts longer than that and sometimes you find something special.
In general, when being more friendly than is expected in public, aspire to be the kind of person someone can come home and say "I met some nice weirdo today..." over the dinner table and things tend to work out well.
It's slow for the business, but busy for me as I finalize plans for the next year, finish off year end reporting and cover the duties of people who take off for the holidays. So it's a lot of extra work, usually alone. I usually celebrate it being over with a trip to a sauna.
This is a photo, not a news article.
I abhor Christmas and it's music, but even I like Mannheim Steamroller's synthy Christmas album
Fun and sexy is a state of being, an attitude, an aura.
Once you learn to embody it, you'll have people draping themselves over you regardless of what you look like.
I mean they're really out there. But there's also mass hysteria of people claiming anything with nav lights in the sky is a drone.
They're flying over military facilities and places owned by the President and the Pentagon doesn't care tho?
It's US shit doing stuff they don't want us to know about so we won't.
For the friend ahuh sure thing dude gotcha 100% no prob bucko