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What has your experience of death taught you? (lemmy.nz)

submitted 8 months ago by ChewbaccasClitoris@lemmy.nz to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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[–] stackPeek@lemmy.world 3 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

How to accept and let go of someone. I lost my dad very early in my life. It was sad, and unexpected, and to this day it does feel like I lack a father figure (hope this doesn't sound weird, English isn't my first language). But, I realize, there's no use excessive crying over someone's death. It's not like I can change anything about that. I learned quickly it's better to leave the past and move on.

If you ask me whether I miss him or not, I do miss him. But, really, it's not something I can control.

[–] Mango@lemmy.world 3 points 8 months ago

Protect my doggo. She is stupid.

[–] co209@lemmy.world 2 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

Oh, I just had a near death experience! Ran a stop and almost got hit by a bus; would've hit me right on the ribs! I've had another crash before where a powerline pole fell over my car, right next to my head.

My experience? Life didn't flash before my eyes. I was just very scared at the moment, and was anxious and upset for a few hours after. It's definitely going to change how carefully I drive moving forward.

Otherwise, I've seen a lot of patients sick, dying or terminally ill, working as a physician. It definitely affected the way I see life; I try to care less about what other people think I should be doing and instead act in a way I think is right. I am happy and satisfied that if I die I will be thought of fondly by most people I've interacted with.

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

That consciousness is eternal. That each of us will live until the end of the universe and possibly beyond. Alone.

[–] UrPartnerInCrime@sh.itjust.works 1 points 8 months ago

We are the universe experiencing itself

[–] Doof@lemmy.world 2 points 8 months ago

Life is random, and meanness and cold. No matter who you are, death comes with no bias. You have to make life worth living in the now because I have seen the regret and pain in the eyes of the dying far too many times. Also be nice to your kids.

[–] Late2TheParty@lemmy.world 1 points 8 months ago

WHY IS NO ONE PAYING ATTENTION?!

I didn't even know I died. I just... woke up. I'm so happy to be depressed and to admit my faults and to make my friends laugh. There is a Multiverse where I don't do that.

[–] shit_of_ass@sh.itjust.works 0 points 8 months ago

letting your hamster ball roll down the stairs isn’t good

[–] masquenox@lemmy.world -1 points 8 months ago (20 children)

My experiences with death has cured me of any atheist delusions. There's a damn good reason they say, "there are no atheists in foxholes." It's not about whether you believe this or that to be real or not real - that is irrelevant - it's about what matters in those horrible moments people experience true mortality before they go. It's not pretty like they pretend it to be in the movies, and armchair philosophizing doesn't mean squat to people then.

[–] Enkrod@feddit.de 3 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

People react differently, sure, some will call out to some higher power even if they don't believe, if these call-outs are part of their vocabulary. I certainly say "oh god" a lot, even though I'm a very vocal anti-theist and strong atheist. But they do not necessarily beg a higher power to safe them because they actually believe, but because in distress reaching for help is human instinct and our theism infused culture conditions us towards "god" in such situations.

I'm not proud of it, but in distress I did call to god for help. But hey, I was 11 years old and just had my fingers crushed to paste, I was in shock and not thinking and at no point did I actually expect help.

None of that is belief, as soon as peoole regain their senses, they discard it. Just like wounded soldiers on a battlefield don't actually expect their mothers to show up and safe them, yet still call out to them.

Belief needs conviction and irrational panic behavior tells us nothing about conviction but a lot about ingrained childhood experience and familial as well as societal indoctrination.

[–] masquenox@lemmy.world -4 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I’m not proud of it, but in distress I did call to god for help

Doesn't sound like the actions of a "strong atheist" (if such a thing can or should even exist) to me... just sounds like bog-standard human behavior.

But hey, I was 11 years old

But you've left all of that behind, right? You're a big, strong, rational main character now that will never be put into such a vulnerable situation ever again, right?

None of that is belief,

Perhaps it is and perhaps it isn't - and that probably isn't even relevant.

as soon as peoole regain their senses, they discard it.

When I cease to be hungry I stop eating - that doesn't mean I reject the concept of food.

Just like wounded soldiers on a battlefield don’t actually expect their mothers to show up and safe them, yet still call out to them.

In other words... atheist reasoning only works as long as everything is comfortable and non-threatening? It offers absolutely nothing to those in distress?

I'd say that's a big, gaping hole in said reasoning.

Belief needs conviction

So does non-belief, apparently. At least, that's what the narratives I hear from atheists seem to suggest.

[–] Enkrod@feddit.de 3 points 8 months ago (1 children)

You want a drink with all that straw, man?

[–] masquenox@lemmy.world -3 points 8 months ago

Depends... is it big enough to fill the giant gap in atheist reasoning?

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[–] stoy@lemmy.zip -1 points 8 months ago

I am to my knowledge still alive, meaning that I don't have any experience with being dead.

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