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Its the dumbest fucking advice I've found since everything is centralised and run from head offices but they dont seem to understand thats not a thing

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[–] Aceticon@lemmy.dbzer0.com 37 points 4 days ago

Because that's how it worked for pretty much everything back in the day when your chances of getting a loan from the bank depended on the impression of trustworthiness you projected on the bank manager when you asked for it, rather than some obscure algorithm running in the bank's systems that didn't take in account any feedback from an actual human.

Amongst large companies automation removed humans from the loop, at least at an early stage, so now your machine processable input and/or information about you extracted from some other sources about what you've done so far, matching whatever the algorithm is configured to favor is all that matters. Sure, beyond that you'll almost certainly end up with a person making a final decision (for hiring, not for bank loans), but you first have to pass that big initial automated hurdle that's supposed to separate the wheat from the chaff.

Amongst other things this has killed "being judged as having potential" as a way to get a foot on the door, unless you have a high score on a metric supposedly correlated to it such as good grades at a supposedly elite university, since unlike "impression" such metrics can be mathematically evaluated and compared by algorithms.

Mind you, when looking for work in smaller companies that haven't outsourced their hiring, impressions still work since your first point of contact is going to be a person whose opinion counts rather than an algorithm or a person too low on the pecking scale for their judgement to be taken in account.

[–] Alenalda@lemmy.world 27 points 4 days ago (2 children)

You can get into a lotta places wearing a hard hat and reflective vest while carrying a ladder.

[–] Corkyskog@sh.itjust.works 9 points 4 days ago

Or a clip board with some technical papers on it, in case you don't want to lug a ladder.

[–] HobbitFoot@thelemmy.club 3 points 2 days ago

Good clothes used to be expensive and a signifier of wealth. Someone who could wear a suit likely had money and someone who had a fashionable suit likely had more money. Over the past generation, as clothing became cheaper and large parts of the richer segments have up on dressing well, the value of wearing a suit dropped.

Wearing a suit is still valuable in some circumstances, but nowhere near as much as before.

[–] Postmortal_Pop@lemmy.world 226 points 5 days ago (6 children)

My dad was a big believer of this when I was younger. Finally I humored him and had him drive me around town as I went into every buisness ask for a paper application. I printed and stapled 30 resumes for the trip, got dressed up, on the way into town he was so smug about how I was finally "really trying to get hired". Four hours later, we'd been to nearly 50 businesses, I'd gotten two paper applications and only 16 of my resumes were accepted. Everyone else said to apply online or "we only hire through the temp agencies". My dad for his part took it way harder than me. I think he actually realized that's not how it works anymore because he never suggested it again and took me seriously when I said I'd been putting in applications online.

[–] marighost@piefed.social 65 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Congrats on getting your dad to change his mind, even if begrudgingly.

There are so many people in his generation that simply do not understand what this job market is like, what navigating Indeed or LinkedIn is like, or how people apply for those jobs anymore. Very little human interaction happens applying for jobs these days.

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[–] sopularity_fax@sopuli.xyz 61 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (3 children)

The part that gets me is they surely cant have had any recent success with it. Like, the first time they ever get to following their own advice in the modern day, they inevitably realize its bullshit. They voted and used their positions or authority in society to literally make it so that wasnt a thing that would ever be possible after them, shareholders dont care for opportunity or paying to train anyone or giving any rando a chance anymore

That would conflict with all the big cash payoffs

[–] TrojanRoomCoffeePot@lemmy.world 52 points 5 days ago (4 children)

Have you heard the expression 'pulling the ladder up after themselves' in relation to Booomers, and the housing/labour market?

[–] Cassanderer@thelemmy.club 4 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (2 children)

Blaming the generation for losing to the 1972 biz roundtable plot would utterly condemn our own as things are getting way way worse right now.

Their and our sins were not stopping a ruling class power grab.

We need to organize. They are organized.

[–] TrojanRoomCoffeePot@lemmy.world 3 points 4 days ago (1 children)

1972 biz roundtable plot

I'd appreciate some illumination on this point, having never heard anything about any specific business reorganization in '72? America specifically, or was there some kind of global shift that I'm not recalling?

[–] Cassanderer@thelemmy.club 3 points 4 days ago (1 children)

The major Business Leaders huddled up and made a long game plan that included infiltrating unions with organized crime, corrupting both political parties, capturing Regulatory Agencies, changing economic measures like the inflation rate to understate it which truly has been their biggest coup that is not even recognized by most of the population, also the unemployment rate only counting people collecting unemployment insurance Etc, capturing the Judiciary and stacking judges and prosecutors with their hand-picked groomed candidates from the Federalist Society type organizations. Fomenting the fear of the other and creating a police state to set Americans against each other, and so forth.

Fixing elections deserves a mention as well although I do not know if they explicitly worked towards that at that time but definitely gerrymandering type stuff.

Their biggest goals were to get rid of the New Deal programs like Social Security, but all of them, unemployment insurance, disability, workers compensation, to go back to the good old days when the old or injured or handicapped would be thrown out in the street to beg and or die.

[–] TrojanRoomCoffeePot@lemmy.world 3 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

I'll be damned, I've been reading about the tendrils of this scheme for decades. What's the skinny on its main organizers, are they explicitly identified as members of any particular named groups in a more specific than general way?

Edit: Nevermind, there's a literal Wikipedia entry, they get zero points for their organization naming skills.

[–] Cassanderer@thelemmy.club 3 points 4 days ago

I don't know if the Wikipedia even has the specific info on that part of it, it is still an ongoing organization. And there have been other sort of subsequent meetings where they have further refined their machinations but that was the Genesis of it as I understand it.

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[–] Jimmycrackcrack@lemmy.ml 11 points 5 days ago (1 children)

They probably did have recent success with a variation on the theme. While they're likely old enough and established enough now that they're not having to walk around to retail businesses off the street and attempt to get a job like they did when they started out, this approach likely helped in more recent times in their career in the context of promotions or switching to a new job in their same field or at a similar level in a new field. They might have succeeded in getting that new job or promotion in large part due to their social connections and direct interface with the right people just like they're advising you to do, except in their case it's now at the higher level, which is probably one of the few places left where showing up at the right time, having the right manner and air about you and dressing nicely actually still makes the difference. The tactics wouldn't work on their own, they still needed their credentials and connections and experience to get that far in the first place, but it probably helped cinch the position. Now they're trying to give practical advice to someone just starting out and for them those tactics genuinely are still helping even if they're not the sole factor in their success and when they cast their minds back to when they started out it helped a lot then too. With this experience in mind, in their shoes, it worked way back when, and it still works now at the higher level and the youngster you're earnestly trying to help doesn't have much else going for them since they're starting out so of course they should at least do this and if everyone else is applying online then this alone will make them a memorable candidate for putting in the extra effort and place them ahead of 90% of the pack.

In reality, it doesn't really work that way, the processes are centralised, the people physically in the office or location don't really handle this themselves so they don't care what you were like to talk to or how you dressed because it's not their decision and the way the jobs market is, the employers have the leverage and there's way more people looking for the jobs than there are jobs so it's not going to be practical to have them all turning up in a suit because they want to be remembered and they prefer to streamline the process rather than deal with people directly.

I totally see why it would seem like sensible advice to someone who started working when these simple steps were a marker of basic competency and motivation and for whom it now continues to matter to this day. They're just insulated from the way the situation has shifted.

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[–] Tollana1234567@lemmy.today 16 points 5 days ago

also he might not realizing before AI, they were using Software to screen out peoples resume, or keep peoples resume just for the sake of weeding out people. and many listings purposely have no plans of hiring at all.

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[–] SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world 32 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (4 children)

Because life was literally that easy for them.

If they had a pulse, they usually got the job

You were guaranteed if you also dressed like the fancy people on television.

[–] Cassanderer@thelemmy.club 8 points 4 days ago

The world has changed for sure. They still have their positions but how they got them no longer works. The pay no lomger buys either.

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[–] Nemo@slrpnk.net 105 points 5 days ago (2 children)

They believe that because that's how it used to work (and still does in some industries). That's their lived experience.

[–] amino@lemmy.blahaj.zone 35 points 5 days ago (1 children)

it definitely didn't work that way for Black boomers

[–] Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 67 points 5 days ago (3 children)

Maybe not in general, but it IS the reason that if you look at photos of the million man march, they're all dressed up. Reason being, they were afraid any media coverage would paint them as degdnerates, thugs, and vandals. It's much harder to paint that picture if they're marching in unison wearing 3 piece suits, and their sunday best.

This in the middle of the summer when that was wildly uncomfortable.

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[–] PP_BOY_@lemmy.world 24 points 5 days ago

This. I work in un-unionized trades, which is arguably the least changed career since the time of the Boomers, and this advice does still actually apply

[–] Dead_or_Alive@lemmy.world 14 points 4 days ago (2 children)

It depends upon the setting and what you want. Showing up to a McDonalds shift in a suite and tie trying to get the CEO job. Not so much.

Showing up to your first office job and meeting with your bosses in a nice polo or button down shirt and slacks looking professional, yes. It signals you are eager and want to succeed. Which will go a long way.

Of course you still have to put the work in. But your boss will be more likely to give you more training/work/promotions if they know you want to learn and work over someone who doesn’t give a shit.

[–] BoxOfFeet@lemmy.world 17 points 4 days ago (1 children)

No, they aren't talking about for an interview. They are talking about going in someplace in a suit and asking for a job. My mother insisted I did this when I got out of college. It only took a few receptionists looking at me like I'm crazy to be reaffirmed that this was a dumb idea. Even places that did have openings told me to apply online.

[–] IndridCold@lemmy.ca 4 points 4 days ago

They are talking about going in someplace in a suit and asking for a job.

I'm GenX. In my entire working career over the years I've seen random people come in off the street, CV in hand, looking for a job not advertised. Not one of these people were ever hired.

Actually, now that I think of it. One guy was. My friend worked for a porn shop in the 80s that had video peep booths in the back. It was his job to clean these booths. A homeless guy came in looking for a handout and my friend hired him to clean the booths for a few bucks a day. Dude would come in every day and spend 10 minutes wiping spooge off the floor.

So I guess if you aspire to be a cum cleaner, this technique might work.

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[–] IdontplaytheTrombone@lemmy.world 26 points 5 days ago (2 children)

That's what they did the last time they searched for a job. It used to work.

[–] Clathrate_Gun@lemmy.zip 11 points 5 days ago

This.
It’s old advice that used to work, and it worked very well.

[–] innermachine@lemmy.world 3 points 4 days ago

It still kind of works in some industries. I got my last 3 jobs, and 2 of them "weren't hiring", by walking into the joint and asking to talk to the boss and saying I can start in 2 weeks I juat have to give my current biss notice. In demanding industries, showing up in person makes an impression, another app on a stack of applications gets you nowhere. Lots of people apply, few can talk the talk and walk the walk or actually do the work. I the auto industry you show up and impress the foreman or manager with your knowledge and your pretty much in. I know people that work in welding and a construction that this also works for. I also have siblings that are white collar that this absolutely does nothing for. Supposeit also depends on how much of a giant corp you work for, as I never work for monolithic corporations. If I can't meet my boss I can't work there.

[–] TrojanRoomCoffeePot@lemmy.world 60 points 5 days ago (4 children)

Lived experience and/or delusion. Many can't seem to absorb that the labour market didn't stop changing in 19-fucking-73, and it shows.

I couldn't believe how dogshit so much of their advice was the last time I was searching for new work, and how irate they were that I wouldn't take it - because it was useless and/or hazardous to my financial stability in the situation at hand. That coffee drinks-avocado toast shit seemed like satire at first, but some of them actually believe it, and had I been spineless/stupid enough to allow them to push me into the courses of action they were insisting on I think that it might have killed me.

[–] Septimaeus@infosec.pub 14 points 5 days ago (1 children)

“Naughty corporations” made me chuckle, but “I don’t know what the solution is” definitely rang true.

Most boomers actually don’t know where to begin, even though many of the solutions would be a 6-year-old’s first guess, and are actually proven to work, simply because they grew up being told that every single one of those obvious, proven solutions were “socialist” and that socialism was anti-American.

That indoctrination was so thorough that these solutions can be put right in front of them, gift-wrapped, with a neon arrow pointing at an easy button labeled “fix that shit,” and they’ll still shrug and say “we’re all out of ideas, maybe ask a billionaire what to do, surely they know how to fix the system.”

And the sad part is that they do and, in fact, already did.

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[–] agent_nycto@lemmy.world 20 points 5 days ago (8 children)

Ok, I agree with you, I do, buuuuut

If someone shows up to an interview wearing pajamas, they are probably less likely to get a job. So you do have to dress up a little bit, depending on what the job is.

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[–] LodeMike@lemmy.today 48 points 5 days ago (3 children)

That's what happened to them. If they were white.

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[–] Flax_vert@feddit.uk 8 points 4 days ago

You need to know someone who works there I find. That way they actually read your CV.

[–] Archangel1313@lemmy.ca 29 points 5 days ago (3 children)

This works for small businesses. Sending them an email will just wind up in spam. But show up in person, and you might get to talk to an actual person. This distinguishes you from some random, semi-anonymous piece of paper or text header.

If you're applying at some gigantic mega-corporation, then none of that matters. They won't have time to see you anyway, and will only look at your application if they specifically asked you to give them one.

Yeah I was going to say the same. Currently work at a small business run by a boomer so if the random person walking in looking for a job happens to catch him there's a 50/50 chance that person will get hired. Bonus if the person looking for work has a degree from a ivy league university, boomers love that shit. I don't know why someone with that sort of degree would be applying for a low wage small business job but the job market is a bit crazy nowadays.

The practice can backfire of course - I've seen the same boomer boss hire other boomers that barely know how to use a computer and then proceed to fail at his/her job spectacularly. It's interesting when you run into boomers looking for work and it turns out they spent most of their career relying on others to deal with the mundane tasks of dealing with email, spreadsheets, etc. So many of them spent their careers falling upwards into management roles until they were laid off/fired/whatever.

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[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 25 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (21 children)

I've never encountered anyone of any age that thinks that. Presentation of yourself is important, but nobody has ever even implied that just looking nice is enough to get everything. It's simply part of the whole equation.

Generationally, the only thing here I've seen disconnected between Boomers/Xers and yoinger generations like my own and Gen Z are that they have a different sense of what looks good or professional. Personally, I like that younger people also hate suits. Suits are stupid.

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[–] BCsven@lemmy.ca 16 points 5 days ago

It does work sometimes because people can ignore an email or phone call, but its harder to ignore a person standing in front of you.

As an example we were contacting a business abut something we offered that we knew they needed.

Emails and phonecalls always got the reply of: I have left a note for the owner and when he has time he will contact you.

After months of that, and us happening to be in their area, we just dropped in unnounanced and asked for the owner.

He engaged with us , asked lots of questions, asked for samples and info. As we were doing that the secretary realized who we were and said something like " oh I've been meaning to have you read their emails and setup a meeting" lol

Too late lady.

[–] Corporal_Punishment@feddit.uk 13 points 5 days ago

The only time showing up in person works in the UK is if you're a teenager looking for part time or apprenticeship work in independent shops/hospitality/mechanics etc.

[–] Melobol@lemmy.ml 15 points 5 days ago (7 children)

It's highly depends on a situation. But generally speaking it does work in a lot of situations.

You want work? Clean up, print a dozen resumes - apply online (if they have a website), then go and show up in the physical location. You will be noticed waaay more than a silent application.

You want to solve a service issue: even with big probiders atnt, T-Mobile there is a chance that a corporate store manager can do something.

Sometimes even between offices it can help if you show up in addition to the regular channels.
Being proactive, clean and respectful can take you long way.

[–] protist@mander.xyz 16 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Fundamentally, it's hard to overstate how much assertiveness skills can help you meet your needs. Just because it doesn't always work doesn't mean it never works. (When I say assertiveness, I mean confidently and respectfully seeking what you want)

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[–] Tollana1234567@lemmy.today 10 points 5 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

with job sites being the primary source of job hunting, you wont even get a chance in most cases to even an interview. and you can just show up to a business with a suit on, and demand to see a interviewer.

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