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I think Matt Damon’s wife was a waitress or bartender? They met while she was working

As a normal person, we have higher standards.

A lot of these replies are framing it as meeting someone out in the wild, but that’s not how most modern dating works. So, another reason why the pool is limited is that s lot of celebrities these days are on the dating app Raya.

There’s a strict application process where you have to demonstrate that you’re financially successful, physically attractive, and in some way notable. It started off exclusively as celebrities but now you can also get in if you’re, say, a c-suite executive at a large firm or own your own high-value tech firm. You also pretty much have to live in LA or New York if you want to match with anybody.

There are all kinds of rules, too. You’ll get banned for like if you take a screenshot in the app or publicly identify someone that you know is on the app. You’ll even get banned for publicly mentioning that the app exists too often.

Because of that it’s difficult to confirm who is on it, but it’s rumoured to be incredibly popular amongst celebrities. Keirnan Shipka in an interview once declared herself to be “Raya for life”.

These days most people meet people through dating apps. And the app that most celebrities are on is deliberately very exclusive, to the point where a middle-class person absolutely would not be allowed on it.

Yes, but not you

Does Dolly Parton and her husband count? They were married before she was famous, and he always stayed behind the scenes.

If you follow any tabloid or celebrity magazine, especially during award season, you’ll see celebrities that aren’t single but they don’t mention the person they came with. They simply aren’t that notable.

One of Liz Taylor’s husbands ran a construction company, I think? Can’t remember the details. There are a handful of current stars dating or married to people in finance. Amal Clooney wasn’t exactly “famous” before she got married.

It happens, but like any relationship, you have to run in similar circles in order to meet before any relationship can form.

Famous people tend to have somewhat closed circles around them because fans can be crazy.

Lana Del Rey married some random gator boat tour guide

Isn't Keanu with some non-descript old grey-haired Grannie? Not diggin nothing, that's cool!

It happens. There's not typically a lot of attention drawn to them because it doesn't sell tabloids to show pictures of normal people. But in all fairness to those that really don't, it's gotta be very hard for a few reasons. A) they don't spend a lot of time meeting and socializing with normal non-rich people by the nature of their work and the culture of their industry. B) It can also be challenging for anyone to deal with and relate to such different life styles and dynamics. Celebrity, wealth, public opinion... how does a working guy or gal deal with all of that from a significant other. Not easily, I'm sure. Especially if the relationship is new.

I've seen it occasionally where they'll marry a makeup artist or stage hand or something. Sir Patrick Stewart's wife is a theater actress, IIRC. But I can't think of many cases where some A-Lister married somebody they saw sticking shelves at the Walmart.

Far as I know, Snoop Dogg's been with his wife from long before he was famous, faithful the whole time. Ex-wife pointed that out 20-years ago, admired him for it. Looks like the same woman after all these years.

Yes but they needed to be at least 24.

Plenty I'm sure, but its not as news worthy.

And part of its the social circle they are in. They work with other actors/actresses and their social circle is going to be limited due to the time/travel requirements of the job.