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I feel like I used to have a satisfactory layout for years but haven't since found a consistently comfortable arrangement. I like to have a fairly thick pillow or two under my head to accommodate my bad shoulder, a pillow between my thighs to avoid chafed skin, and a pillow for hugging - also mostly for my shoulder.

The head ones tend to get distorted really quickly and it's really difficult to find a good hugging pillow.

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[–] baduhai@sopuli.xyz 2 points 7 hours ago

I sleep on my stomach; I have a low memory pillow under my head, and a body pillow on either one of my sides, lifting my shoulder hip and knee.

I don't sleep flat on my stomach, just kinda sideways. I feel so comfortable in this position that when I'm travelling and I don't have two pillows for myself, I prefer prefer to sleep with a pillow just under my shoulder and arm and nothing under my head.

[–] Oberyn@lemmy.world 2 points 10 hours ago

1️⃣ long one of memory foam pellets . Very particular about pillow stuffing material , must hold it's shape so can comfortably rest head on it without sinking . Gone thru some bad long pillows before

[–] serenissi@lemmy.world 1 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

mostly no setup. 1-2 pillows scattered on bed if not on floor, I use them according to hugging needs at that point.

[–] toynbee@lemmy.world 2 points 10 hours ago (1 children)
[–] serenissi@lemmy.world 2 points 10 hours ago (1 children)
[–] toynbee@lemmy.world 2 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Well, in the interest of randomness, please do tell me about your username.

[–] serenissi@lemmy.world 2 points 10 hours ago (1 children)
[–] toynbee@lemmy.world 2 points 10 hours ago

... All right.

[–] BudgetBandit@sh.itjust.works 1 points 12 hours ago

I have that one and nothing more. https://at.tempur.com/kissen/klassische-schlafkissen/comfort-smartcool-kissen-AT83400448.html If it’s too high I use my arm or an edge of the blanket as a pillow.

[–] AnnaFrankfurter@lemmy.ml 2 points 19 hours ago

I tried several pillows made of different materials different brands and everything else. But after all that I concluded the most comfortable I was when I used no pillows.

The big pillow is lying to you. You don't need a pillow for comfortable sleep \s

[–] floopus@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 day ago

2 pillows stacked on each other most nights. Sometimes I just have the one. Very rarely I will have none because for some reason that is whats needed to sleep

[–] SunSunFuego@lemmy.ml 1 points 22 hours ago

big pillow and blahaj

[–] ouRKaoS@lemmy.today 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Body pillow, 3x king size pillows, 2x standard size memory foam pillows, a few square throw pillows, & a 10ft x 10ft blanket.

Pillows arranged into a U shape with my head in the curve. I essentially create a little nest/fort to keep the world away.

[–] toynbee@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Dang, and my kid thinks I have a lot on my bed!

I'm glad you've found something that works. Those 10x10 blankets are huge - and pretty cool. I got my wife one a few Christmasses ago and she's used it on and off since then. I hate folding it solo after washing it, though.

[–] ouRKaoS@lemmy.today 2 points 21 hours ago

I keep another 10x10 in the storage ottoman to wrap up in watching movies. Best thing ever. Apparently there's a company that has a 12x12 now, but I can't justify it (yet, lol)

I have two pillows on top of each other, one stuffed with raw wool, and one made from layers of wool and cotton batting. Which one is on top depends on the season.

[–] unbanshee@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Buckwheat pillow. Nice and firm, cool, and malleable.

I punch out a divot for my head so it has kind of a neck roll when I sleep on my back, or if I'm reading on my side, I punch a divot for my ear so it's not squished against my head.

Had it for like 15 years, I miss it whenever we visit my in-laws in another city.

[–] toynbee@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 14 hours ago)

I tried a buckwheat pillow but found it better for sitting on than for resting my head. Can you not take yours with you to the other city?

edit: s/that/than/

[–] communism@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 day ago (2 children)

One hard pillow as I sleep on my side and need the neck support. And then one bean bag tube type thing to rest my wrist on so that my arm doesn't have to be entirely horizontalβ€”more comfortable that way.

I just use the duvet to go between my thighs/knees.

[–] serenissi@lemmy.world 2 points 10 hours ago

how do you keep the arm with that tube thing? can you give a geometry/sketch/ascii?

[–] toynbee@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Please, tell me more about the bean bag tube type thing.

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[–] molochlar@feddit.org 2 points 1 day ago

I have a similar set-up, except the pillow that goes between my knees is long enough to also hug and then I usually arrange a corner of my blanket on top for extra height.

When it comes to the pillow I rest my head on, I've found that the best possible filling is little memory foam cylinders for some reason. Not shredded memory foam, which I've also tried, but cylinders. They're about the size of a finger except thicker, and make the pillow very adjustable - a concept that I always thought should make no sense since memory foam is supposed to keep its shape, and yet I've never had a better pillow.

[–] TechnoCat@lemmy.ml 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

pillow under my head, pillow between my arms/elbows, and a pillow between my knees. 3 pillows total

[–] vext01@lemmy.sdf.org 4 points 2 days ago (2 children)

I hate my knees touching when I sleep too! What pillow do you use for knees?

[–] toynbee@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

I don't know the brand and the tags have long since worn away, but personally I've found good luck with a "standard" size memory foam pillow. Memory foam tends to get too warm under my head but hasn't been an issue for a knee pillow.

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[–] ZoDoneRightNow@kbin.earth 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I am sleep on my belly but slightly to the side, I have firm memory foam pillows that isn't too high for my head. The second pillow is between my legs with one going under and the other over to support the leg on the side I am facing. I used to hug a third pillow but currently hug plushies.

[–] ZoDoneRightNow@kbin.earth 4 points 1 day ago

Also a weighted blanket year round with an additional blanket in the winter

[–] Admetus@sopuli.xyz 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I'm a freefall sleeper so even no pillow works, otherwise a pilloe has to be flat and manoeuvred under my chest to stop my neck bending.

Freefall sleepers may have a slightly lower life expectancy but I'm like 'meh'. Sleeping is nearly half my life.

[–] toynbee@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

I've never read that term before.

[–] Xaphanos@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I use a bath towel folded twice the short way. Nice and flat for back sleeping. I can make it thicker for side sleeping by folding the end under as needed when I roll over. But I use a CPAP so I don't roll much at all.

[–] toynbee@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

Interesting, I don't think I've encountered someone using a towel long term.

I use a CPAP, too, but toss and turn so much that I think the arm flick to adjust the air hose during the turn has become reflexive.

[–] frenchfryenjoyer@lemmings.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

This is gonna sound stupid but I have a collapsed pillow that's like 10+ years old and I love it

[–] toynbee@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

Nice! I had one of those but I think it eventually decayed too far to keep using.

[–] Jesus_666@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

A good foam pillow under my head, a bit of my blanket between my knees. Sometimes I think about getting one of those knee pillows but so far I haven't bothered.

I won't go back to a down-filled pillow. Those will inevitably stop supporting my head during the night.

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