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Hi. On reddit, there's a subreddit, called r/dirtyr4r where you can find an FWB or sexting partner. I have yet to come across a decent alternative with something similar, though. The ONLY good possibility is lemmynsfw but it doesnt have dirtylemmy4lemmy.

Does anybody here know a good alternative with adult personals/dating?

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[–] StrawberryPigtails@lemmy.sdf.org 14 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Fetlife is the only one I can think of.

[–] Sir_Kevin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 3 days ago

FetLife is not intended to be a dating site.

[–] sinewyshadow@lemmy.ml 6 points 4 days ago

Ive had some luck on there but not much

[–] solrize@lemmy.ml 13 points 4 days ago (1 children)

dirtyr4r = robot for robot? On Internet 2.0, it's bots all the way down.

[–] sinewyshadow@lemmy.ml 6 points 4 days ago (1 children)
[–] solrize@lemmy.ml 7 points 4 days ago

That's what they want you to think ;)

[–] AdamEatsAss@lemmy.world 11 points 4 days ago (3 children)

I am here for all requests. Just send me pics and $200 I got you.

[–] ramble81@lemmy.zip 7 points 4 days ago

Username checks out.

[–] TwoBeeSan@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago

Eating ass gets a bad rap. Thank you for doing your part.

[–] sinewyshadow@lemmy.ml -3 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Im not sending you money. Politely fuck off.

[–] BuboScandiacus@mander.xyz 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

You are no fun

People won’t want to text you with that kind of attitude

[–] Breezy@lemmy.world 4 points 3 days ago

Hence why he needs help.

[–] daggermoon@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago

Wouldn't it be "kindly fuck off"? Never heard your version but it's got a nice ring to it. I could see it taking off.

[–] communism@lemmy.ml 6 points 3 days ago

You could probably start a lemmy community like that and people might start using it. I've seen some people advertise their onlyfans on mastodon but otherwise not really seen much by way of porn on the fediverse so idk if people would use that community.

I imagine the limitation is userbase because if only eg 30 odd people use it, you probably can't find a partner for your niche weird fetish on there.

[–] apotheotic@beehaw.org 7 points 3 days ago

If you're queer, Lex is great, but don't use it if you're not queer (it is explicitly for queer folk) Feeld works, made some good connections there Pure is pretty good for what it is

[–] Arkhive@piefed.blahaj.zone 7 points 4 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Feeld is a half decent dating app for this, but I really hate suggesting a platform that still tries to rope you into a subscription by praying on insecurities around not getting many matches. But it seems like people are pretty open with what they are looking for, and it’s a pretty diverse platform.

[–] Nikls94@lemmy.world 5 points 4 days ago

I mean technically you could do your own fediverse instance and put some ads on Reddit. I bet there’s one or another lemming in that community who’s willing to help you set it all up

You’re looking for Feeld