I was just upvoting while noticing the insane upvote count. Very good to see so many like-minded people. Also fuck those who downvoted.

True and fantastic (especially if your community/family are/were hateful bigots!), but one should still strive not to be a potty-mouth. It's crude and unbecoming, idk, at least to me. It's the equivalent of being a bit stinky (or very, depending on how much one swears) IMO: sure, it might not be immoral, whatever, but you could make the smallest of efforts and not offend my senses... 🤷

Nice sentiment, but where shitpost?

... honestly, I don't think anyone has ever explicitly said to me (especially growing up) to not use slurs - you just don't use them bcs they obviously harm people, basic empathy & stuff (if the greed of just living in a better society isn't enough).

... but there sure have been a fucktone of folk telling me not to use some arbitrary "bad words" they deemed vulgar. No logical reason given, just random societal oppression.

A couple of nights ago I was in the car with my 8 year old daughter and Killing In The Name Of by Rage Against the Machine came on... my instinct was to skip to the next song, but then I thought "No, this is a song she needs to hear" because if she has questions she knows that she can ask.

A couple of songs later, it was Closer by NIN... I immediately skipped to the next song.

I will insult people for how they dress, specifically people who were clothes with Confederate flag shirts. I once saw someone with a confederate flag shirt that said "Try burning this one" my grandmother saw me staring and told me no. Yes I was working out the logistics of how to set someone on fire, I took the shirt as a challenge.

My grandparents on my dad's side used to make jokes that were funny when I was a kid, more concerning when I got older, and especially concerning as their dementia set in and they began outright stating people's races in the jokes. In the years since their passing, it's made me wonder what their beliefs on racism were, even though they raised me to never judge anyone by their race and that race will usually be a factor in how people are treated in the real world but should never be a factor in my personal interactions with anyone.

But those jokes had been weighing kinda heavy on me in recent years. I know they had dementia, but was this possibly at the core of their beliefs?

I recently heard a story, unprompted, from a family member who was present when my dad was in high school or college, in the '70s, and made an off-color joke . Apparently my dad said that a car with a poorly done paint job "looked like a Mexican car." Without missing a beat, my grandmother punched my dad in the jaw with a right hook and yelled, "WE DO NOT MAKE DEROGATORY JOKES ABOUT PEOPLE FOR THEIR RACE!" My grandmother was always known for how passive, playful, and gentle she was, especially with her kids.

Turns out grandma was not only adamant about race sensitivity, she was kinda a badass. And the jokes I thought were possibly racist were truly homophone humor about regional dialects and not about people's nationality.

Many golden age pirates were actually kind of like that

Big multiethnic crews. Lots of gayness, transgressive gender identities, liberatory politics. It was extremely punk, but with very very slightly better music and substantially worse booze.

Do de have a im14andthisisdeep equivalent community on Lemmy?

Just because we're pirates doesn't mean we don't have standards! Fucking YARRRGH me mateys!