What's wrong with you? Are you OK hun?
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I browse through the federated list, and see posts from all instances I haven't blocked. Sometimes I'll comment, and one time I got feedback it was a women only instance. I blocked that one, since it wasn't for me. I never see community rules (they're in the sidebar, I know), and besides, if I have to read the rules each time before commenting, I might as well give up on lemmy.
So, probably I'm not paying attention, that's what the fuck is wrong with me.
I apologize for the shitty behavior of other men.
That being said, how do you feel about men reading those posts on women only communities, if they don't reply, comment or vote?
They're looking for a way to feel persecuted, probably.
Like OP doing currently?
OP is complaining, but doesn't appear to be otherwise showing signs of that, and men being outraged women don't invite them into everything is a real phenomenon I've seen around.
That being said, yes, shittyness is evenly distributed between genders.
men being outraged women don't invite them into everything is a real phenomenon I've seen around.
You got an example to share with the class?
Becuase at least around fedi I never seen it but I have seen this same style post on here within last few months.
No, I don't catalogue them, lol. You'll have to take/ignore my word for it.
Going "hey, weren't we supposed to be equal" is understandable. Not paying any mind to reasons given why they're not allowed in whatever group and then making it a huge grievance to pursue shows the issue goes beyond philosophy.
It just seems odd we are having this discussion about behavior that nobody can link up on this platform.
I am sure somebody some where did it, no doubt but OP presents it as a current issue worthy of notice and discussion but fails to provide any receipts to support this claim.
If somebody is making a huge grievance on fedi about it. I would like to see the thread.
your anecdote is cute, but i get reports from the women-only sub daily and it sure as hell isnt only guys not paying attention
That's a trust me bro?
dude, believe whatever you want to believe.
the fact men are jerks in the context of this thread is not an unknown and quite well established across the internet.
Again... Show me a comment where somebody is a jerk in this thread.
You make unsubstantiated claims and expect the audience to just accept it? That's not how discourse works, that's an echo chamber.
at no point did i say anyone in this thread is the issue.
i dont care if you dont want to believe mod reports. not my problem.
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