No Stupid Questions

Parental unit

One of my friends has a mom and a nom. Works well enough.

"oi! Fuckface!"

my son calls me baba. i've met other enby parents that use the same term. i originally heard it on blues clues lol

"Honored Ancestor" and "Blessed Forebear" are always appropriate.

I'm not nonbinary but my son just calls me Michael.

My friend's father transitioned to a woman but she kept calling her "Dad". Not to invalidate her identity just that they were both happy to continue describing their relationship with that term.

I read the title as a programming question at first...

I’d imagine that this is something that varies from family to family.

Very individualized as per need. Non-binary is an umbrella term for a whole bunch of different situations so what feels right is going to be very different for someone who feels like say a mix of masculine and feminine versus someone who has dysphoric reactions to any and all gender markers. It's going to be different for someone whose identity is more static than say someone who fluidly bounces between extremes.

If you know someone who is non-binary that's essentially just the tip of the iceberg of a whole discussion about how they personally interact with their body or the culture of gender. A lot of people seem to treat it as a full stop third category which can actually be a disservice to a non-binary person because it oftentimes just leads to a lot of new assumptions and frames out some of the ways they could be better treated than just as automatically genderless. I've heard of mixes of Mom/Dad for bigender people, just Mom or Dad for trans masc/femme folk, Completely new words that do not have cultural baggage, or just "my parent". It's not a one size fits all situation.

The words "mom" and "dad" are both derived from baby babble, syllables babies have an easy time making.

I therefore suggest that an enby parent should be a child's wawa

“Commander”

If I were a nonbinary parent, I’d definitely go with “elder”.

Zaza.

so I don't think it would come up with non-binary children

You'd be surprised 😅

Closest Ancestor

I'd say go Borg and be 1 of 3

and what about enby grandparents?

i am not sure, but what i think i read somewhere is "ren" (as in pa"ren"t), so you would go like my ren dropped me to school or something.

My nephew has a dad and a mawpa, but there are lots of options out there. It's wise to choose syllable sounds that babies can easily pronounce.

Probably depends on the kid. In the right house with the right mindset I bet parents could use first names. Otherwise it will probably be a special word to all of them, maybe something the kid calls them one day that sticks.

Maybe the parents will look to the internet or peers for answers and get stuff like "guardian" "my other parent" etc but ultimately the real question you should ask is how a child addresses their two same-gendered parents, maybe there's something to contexutalize there.