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[–] 1luv8008135@lemmy.world 83 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Me: I need to leave this community. What if these memes are just making me think I have ADHD when I don’t.

Also me on literally every meme that’s posted here: haha, hard rel8

[–] BeigeAgenda@lemmy.ca 14 points 10 months ago (2 children)

All these ADHD memes have several times made me think if there's a light version?

But from what I understand everyone can experience ADHD "symptoms" from time to time, but people who are diagnosed with it have symptoms that are several orders of magnitude more intense.

[–] FlihpFlorp@lemm.ee 10 points 10 months ago

I’m gonna sound like a broken record here but my favorite thing is:

Everyone pees but when you pee 60 times a day you go see a doctor

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[–] Sagifurius@lemm.ee 51 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (12 children)

I'm more than a little convinced ADHD isn't really a disorder, society is the issue, and this personality/brain type is actually beneficial in simpler societies.

[–] SuddenDownpour@sh.itjust.works 12 points 10 months ago (1 children)

When it comes to neurodivergences that aren't strictly universal negatives (for example: anyone would agree that DID is terrible, while modern autism advocacy strongly opposes any sort of "cure", and even assimilation as opposed to integration), you can easily find the case that they work great as complements within larger groups. Having an autistic dude fascinated by working materials may result in your tribe being the very first one in the area that gets obsidian spears or composite bows, even if he isn't a very good hunter otherwise.

The problem comes when an industrialized, profit-obsessed society attempts to standarize social customs, goods, living spaces and so on while individualizing responsibility for every aspect of your life despite plenty of its factors being outside any one person's control. Perhaps you'd have a lot to contribute to society if you just had certain unusual accommodations, such as a very quiet house or freedom to set your own working hours, but companies in the contemporary market economy hisses at people who don't fit like cogs in a machine, and having a house with very specific conditions is outside the reach of a lot of people. Perhaps you do even manage to find the means to become a very productive member of society despite the odds being stacked against you, but because the specificity of your situation means you barely have any negotiation power in the labor market, most of what you produce gets appropriated by someone who isn't very smart, but has some capital and better "people skills".

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[–] wizzor@sopuli.xyz 10 points 10 months ago (2 children)

To an extent, it is also beneficial in today's society. Hyperfocus and fast context switching can be assets in some jobs, if the downsides are not too great and that can depend on the job and colleagues a lot.

But yea, I can imagine it has been more of an asset in a different time.

[–] Sagifurius@lemm.ee 9 points 10 months ago (9 children)

I used to work in a particular trade, and i noticed unlike most i worked with, i worked faster and more efficiently as the day went on, by 11 am I'd be right in that hyperfocus groove and my helpers just had so much trouble keeping up. They took advantage of that on occasion, like they could tell me it was quitting time and I'd believe them, an hour early. That only worked twice.

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[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 9 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Absolutely, most parts of neurodivergence is evolved to be useful for "wild" humans, hunter-gatherers. Like gee i sure wonder how it might be useful for people living in tents in the wildnerness to have a dude who just cannot go to sleep before 2 in the morning..

Apprently court jesters were historically generally autistic people, whom the rulers kept around because they wouldn't sugarcoat stuff and acted like a bullshit detector. Might be pretty handy for a tribe to have some people who'll speak up when they think the leader is being dumb.

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[–] DillyDaily@lemmy.world 8 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (2 children)

There are certain aspects of ADHD that would be disordered in any societal structure.

I have been so hyperfixated on something that I have been completely oblivious to my own body's signals. As a result I have had accidents, developed UTIs, ended up in the ER with electrolyte imbalances, and dislocated several joints.

ADHD and joint Hypermobility are closely linked and while more studies are needed to understand exactly why and how, a lot of people with ADHD also meet criteria for Hypermobility spectrum disorders. In my case, I'll be focused on a task and I won't realise I'm clenching my jaw too firmly until the sudden sensation of undeniable pain sweeps over me and I realise my jaw has dislocated. Or ill be struggling with transitioning from a task to a rest, even though my knees are in agony, I can't seem to force myself to stop.

ADHD is also inherently linked to circadian rhythm disorders, and while yes, delayed sleep phase disorder is only truly a disorder if you're forcing yourself into a 9-5 lifestyle, ADHD sleep issues are more than just the shifting of the phases. A lot of people with ADHD will describe the sensation of sleep as being "passing out", because of the way our brains (fail to) regulate dopamine, the way serotonin and melatonin is secreted to create drowsiness is also impacted.

I don't get tired or sleepy, I get headaches and blurred vision and spasms in my back, and then I know that I can fall asleep if I lie down. I take sublingual melatonin tincture (I find it works better than tablets) and it's such a strange phenomenon because about 15 minutes after I take it I feel my eyes are heavy and my body is calm and my mind ia slower, aka, sleepy. I don't experience that without the help of supplements.

And sure there's the argument that you "people with ADHD used to be on night watch duty", but sleep deprived people make shit guards. If I'm not physically able to fall asleep until I'm "overtired", and if being tired makes my ADHD symptoms worse, then I'm no good for anything.

It's also not like hyperfixations are a super power (God I hate that way of framing things) I can't choose when or why they happen. If I could, I'd be good at just job, instead, I'm loosing all sensation in my feet because I'm stuck in a fixation trying to pick at the skin on my thighs because I spotted one single ingrown hair while I had my pants down sitting on the toilet. Now it's 40 minutes later, my alarm is going off in the other room, and I'm frozen, unable to transition away from this task.

ADHD is a spectrum, and for many people there are strengths, but it's most definitely a disorder and for a lot of people, even if we lived in the most utopian ADHD friendly society, there are still internal issues to face.

For the record, I am unmedicated and always have been due to a heart condition, so maybe my view on the condition would change if I had different treatment and management options available to me.

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[–] Snowman@lemm.ee 8 points 10 months ago (2 children)

You're not alone in thinking that, and there are some studies which seem to agree.

[–] Sagifurius@lemm.ee 13 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

I was reading your study, and got to the part where they said it is hard to empirically test this theory because of limited genome whatever, and it crossed my mind Africans don't carry the neanderthal DNA Europeans do, so i looked up if ADHD was more common in either race and it apparently is much more prevalent in white people. Yeah correlation isn't causation but it is interesting.

[–] Snowman@lemm.ee 16 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I haven't done too much research into ADHD (which I don't have) but if it's anything like autism (which I do have) then it may well be that it's just massively under diagnosed in people who aren't rich, white, boys. I know they aren't the same but that's certainly the case for autism, and there is a high rate of co-occurrence between the two.

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[–] xkforce@lemmy.world 7 points 10 months ago

Thing is... you cant magically fix society with the snap of your fingers. And theres stuff you NEED to do that you dont want to even in a star trek style luxury space communist utopia. eg. I have to use reminders/timers to do things like take medication, drink water, chores etc. There isnt really a way to "fix" society so that that is no longer true. I have to take medication. I have to drink water. I have to wash my clothes and clean up after myself. Everyone does.

ADHD is probably akin to a tribe. One that arguably has its advantages like hyperfocus, creativity and sensitivity to emotions (empathy) but it is at the cost of a tremendous amount of inertia when it comes to doing stuff and executive dysfunction that requires you to compensate for.

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[–] MystikIncarnate@lemmy.ca 49 points 10 months ago (7 children)

I hate explaining ADHD to people because it's a completely unintuitive disorder. It's like "I'm easily distracted" yet at other times I'm completely incapable of tearing my focus away from something. I have continual thoughts of things unrelated to my current focus, and other times I can't think of anything at all, I just can't hold on to any thoughts. I'm fidgety, almost all the time, but I can sit still and drive a car on the freeway for several hours with absolutely no issues.

It's like, for every symptom I have of the disorder there's always a "but sometimes" caveat that is present. It's just a nightmare to try to make someone understand especially when they've never struggled with the disorder or anything like it. It's a complete conundrum.

[–] anarchy79@lemmy.world 13 points 10 months ago

I have no problem staying committed to a task when my life depends on it. For all other cases meh.

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[–] kool_newt@lemm.ee 36 points 10 months ago (4 children)

What if I don't have ADHD and just smoke entirely too much weed? Currently working on figuring this out.

My next will be: Maybe I'm just a douche and don't care about others enough to remember what they tell me. But I do care, I think.

[–] Thorny_Insight@lemm.ee 22 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (2 children)

Welcome to the gang. The natural follow up question then is that if it indeed is weed then which is worse; the ADHD-like symptoms or living without weed.

I've heard about many ADHD'ers unknowingly treating their symptoms with weed. Weed is especially addictive for us because it helps us feel better. Atleast in my own case it allows me to have long uninterrupted trains of thought. Like instead of the same thought just looping around it actually starts moving forward logically.

[–] kool_newt@lemm.ee 7 points 10 months ago

which is worse; the ADHD-like symptoms or living without weed.

Good point! I've made my decision, now where did I put my bong?

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[–] Slakeindagrass@lemmy.ml 15 points 10 months ago (3 children)

Hahaha - this is my train of thought too! Didn’t smoke for the month of November as an experiment. Started dreaming vividly, but no improvement in my awake state.

I’m assuming a 1-month break probably wasn’t enough for my brain to re-build neural connections… but how long of a break is! Maybe I’ll try again?

How are you ‘figuring this out’?

[–] kool_newt@lemm.ee 10 points 10 months ago

I've had an almost identical experience, stopped smoking last year for less than a month. Terrible dreams that left me exhausted during the day, and if anything worsened ADHD symptoms. I'm also thinking it wasn't long enough but it sure is a tough experiment.

Figuring it out just meant I'm trying again now.

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[–] dangblingus@lemmy.dbzer0.com 11 points 10 months ago

This honestly is so validating to know that other ADHD havers are extreme self medicators. Blazeit.

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[–] prettybunnys@sh.itjust.works 36 points 10 months ago

Oh. Good. I’d gone a few minutes without doing this mental check, thank you for putting it back in there for today. 🫠

[–] chocosoldier@lemmy.blahaj.zone 31 points 10 months ago (1 children)

i was diagnosed early in childhood. my parents chose to believe it was fake and more than once actually pleaded with me to explain why beating me senseless every other day didn't make the behavior stop.

[–] agent_flounder@lemmy.world 26 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Fucking hell sorry your parents were abusive monsters.

[–] chocosoldier@lemmy.blahaj.zone 22 points 10 months ago (5 children)

oh they still are, mom likes to work "subtle" transphobia into every single conversation so she can act like a victim when I point it out, and my dad told me in so many words to go fuck my freeloading self for wanting to crash his guest room and stop being lazy and sensitive when I found myself unemployable and facing homelessness after moving to be closer to family after my wife took her own life and my living situation fell through. good christian folks you know?

[–] TopRamenBinLaden@sh.itjust.works 9 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Damn that is so fucked up, and I am so sorry to hear that. That family doesn't deserve you. I hope you find your true family someday.

[–] chocosoldier@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 10 months ago

I am very lucky to have landed in a lovely and accepting community where people truly care about each other, and as a bonus the landscape is jawdroppingly beautiful, so at least a there was a good outcome at the end of it. The US South is no place for anyone who isn't cis, het, white, male, nominally "Christian" in a way that would absolutely shock Jesus of Nazereth to his core, and neurotypical, and it's mindblowing to me how much better my general mental state is just for being away from that culture.

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[–] nman90@lemmy.world 25 points 10 months ago (3 children)

I thought this a couple of years ago, even though i was diagnosed at 5 (29 now). It's funny how i went my whole life thinking it was just the stereotypical adhd is just hyperactivity and laziness because the doctors never really tried to explain how this disorder could affect me. I decided to look it up studf about adhd and am deeply conflicted by how it literally explains my entire life and behaviors even though i thought i had it under control. On one hand im glad there is something that explains a lot of my struggles and medical issues but on the other i feel like my entire personality is just dictated by adhd and that i never really had as much freedom of choice as i thought i did.

[–] Avalokitesha@programming.dev 7 points 10 months ago (10 children)

I feel like the more you understand how your brain works, the more you learn how to work around it.

Full disclosure: I'm not diagnosed, but on a waitlist for ADD - for over a year now and it's not moving, but I digress. I am diagnosed with autism though.

To me it feels like my brain is a wildwater. You can't control it, but if you change the environment around it, you can guide it into useful directions. I'm lucky that by now the people around me have accepted it and are able to laugh with me when I fuck up. We have a lot of systems in place to reign in the worst effects, and the more we get used to it the easier it gets not to fall into traps and not to be unreliable.

I guess I'm working on my skills as a mindbender who tricks my brain into being useful while still allowing it to get that dopamine?

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[–] Empricorn@feddit.nl 22 points 10 months ago (4 children)

Whether you "officially" have ADHD or just the symptoms, it's not your fault. It's your responsibility.

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[–] Daxtron2@startrek.website 22 points 10 months ago (14 children)

It doesn't help that every asshole on the Internet suddenly has a psychology degree to tell you you don't actually have ADHD/autism.

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[–] Phegan@lemmy.world 21 points 10 months ago (5 children)

At age 41, I just figured out I have ADHD, I assumed my entire life that I had a complex set of flaws.

[–] OfTheScarletChorus@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

I am 50. After reading a lot about the subject, I also suspect I am affected - my whole life. Getting an appointment with a psychiatrist to be sure right now. It would explain so much...

[–] citrusface@lemmy.world 7 points 10 months ago (15 children)

Well good luck - Vyvanse has a generic version now and has been working wonders for my 40 year old self... Except for the insomnia tonight.

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[–] anarchy79@lemmy.world 7 points 10 months ago (1 children)

You may still have a complex set of flaws, homie

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[–] Leg@lemmy.world 16 points 10 months ago (5 children)

This is unironically me. I just went through a lengthy diagnosis process that determined I do not in fact have ADHD, despite ticking an alarming number of boxes. I call myself ADHD-adjacent now.

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[–] dejected_warp_core@lemmy.world 16 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

I absolutely love this take and I can relate.

-- humor dissection to follow --

In reality though, it's possible, but Occam's Razor would have us disagree. And a pragmatic take on all that would be: does it matter, especially if treatment and coping mechanisms also work in both cases?

Also, as a fellow ADHD-er I strongly believe that diagnosis is not an excuse; it merely explains how and why. Responsibility still lies with the afflicted regardless, with an ethical responsibility towards others for those that are self-aware.

[–] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 15 points 10 months ago (1 children)

"What if I don't actually have ADHD, I simply share some behavioral issues that make it seem like ADHD because I was raised by parents who did have ADHD and I just kind of adopted it from them?" - Me, like once a week since getting diagnosed.

[–] agent_flounder@lemmy.world 7 points 10 months ago (1 children)

If it helps, ADHD has a heritability of 77-88% according to one study. That's on par with height.

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[–] AeonFelis@lemmy.world 13 points 10 months ago (1 children)
[–] kameecoding@lemmy.world 12 points 10 months ago

Remember watching a video like a year ago about how intelligent people with ADHD do at school and it was like a 17 minute video and it was like the guy was talking about me the whole time, but you know, maybe it's just a coincidence

[–] Poppa_Mo@lemmy.world 11 points 10 months ago (3 children)

I'm not officially diagnosed yet, so this is where I live.

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[–] iAvicenna@lemmy.world 8 points 10 months ago

I don't think I have AD... Hmm I wonder if I should restart that project I abandoned five years ago?

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