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What if it were 100? Or 1000? or 10000? or 100000?

At what point do you ask questions?

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[โ€“] tko@tkohhh.social 1 points 47 minutes ago

If I have a $10 bill in my wallet, I would give it to literally anybody who asked me.

[โ€“] whaleross@lemmy.world 5 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago)

If I've got it, I'd lend my long time best friends up to โ‚ฌ1000 without question. I would not really expect them to pay it back. I trust that if or when they can they will. If they can't, they can't. People that are not my besties? No.

[โ€“] Diddlydee@feddit.uk 24 points 14 hours ago (2 children)

I'm in England and have no dollars, so the answer is 'none'.

[โ€“] tetris11@lemmy.ml 16 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago) (3 children)

Alright here's a more local analogue: how many chavs would you offer a ciggy to if they approached you in your council flat? 1? 10? 100,000?

If one of them is named Kev and knew your mate's sister, and all but one were wearing Adidas or Nike, would that double or halve your generosity?

[โ€“] Yermaw@lemm.ee 3 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

I used to be able to count it down to the millisecond exactly when a strange chav would ask me for a cigarette.

"In 3...2...1..." "oi mate you got a spare fag I can borrow"

[โ€“] tetris11@lemmy.ml 2 points 10 hours ago

Same. I wasn't even over 18 at the time, and they'd still ask

[โ€“] Diddlydee@feddit.uk 2 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

Happy to say there are no chavs round my way, nor council flats, so none.

[โ€“] tetris11@lemmy.ml 3 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Okay, imagine you're down at the pub, and that actor from GoT comes in surrounded by a horde of screaming girls. He clearly just wants a drink and to be left alone, but can't shake off the fans. The bar stool next to you is free, and you have an expression of utter repulsion on your face to ward off anyone. He's eyeing the seat and your face with desperation. Do you let him sit with you, or do you tell him to piss off to another pub?

[โ€“] Diddlydee@feddit.uk 2 points 9 hours ago

I'm just a customer so he can sit there if he likes. Unless we're talking Joffrey as I couldn't deal with his horrid little face.

[โ€“] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 13 hours ago (1 children)
[โ€“] tetris11@lemmy.ml 3 points 13 hours ago (3 children)

Okay, what about you're at the local chicken shop, and a wean comes in asking if you'll buy him some chips and a coke. You originally say no, but then three of his schoolmates come in too and one of them looks like he's holding a sharpened ruler. How many chips do you buy assuming you want to leave the shop?

[โ€“] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 10 hours ago

As I don't shop at a butcher, my answer is 'none' (/s)

You can find me at the supermarket though

[โ€“] JackGreenEarth@lemm.ee 2 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

I don't eat meat. So I wouldn't go to a chicken shop. So none.

[โ€“] tetris11@lemmy.ml 3 points 10 hours ago

Fine, imagine this: you're at the local Nando's getting their veggie supreme for your girl Suze, when a man in a tracksuit comes at you saying that it's his order and that he'll brap you up if you say different. You notice that his hand is down the front of his trousers, and if he's hiding anything there it's either small or non-lethal. Suze is looking at you. What do you do?

[โ€“] kambusha@sh.itjust.works 1 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

I only visit the kebabi.
So none.

[โ€“] tetris11@lemmy.ml 6 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Okay you're at the local kebab shop, and he asks you whether you want it german-wrap style or in a pitta bread, but not once does he call you Boss during the exchange.

Do you take the kebab without leaving, or do you report him to the police for failure of duty?

[โ€“] kambusha@sh.itjust.works 3 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

Did he add a massive chili on the kebab?

[โ€“] tetris11@lemmy.ml 2 points 9 hours ago

He did, yes, juiciest motherfucker you ever ate

[โ€“] essell@lemmy.world 5 points 14 hours ago

I am also in England.

And whilst I would have no dollars to give, I would definitely have questions in response to such a request

[โ€“] MTK@lemmy.world 6 points 11 hours ago

I don't think I give anything without any questions to strangers.

If we are talking friends then probably like 5 until I start wondering why they all need 10 dollars suddenly

[โ€“] jet@hackertalks.com 7 points 12 hours ago

Most of my adult friends or business acquaintances, I'd just give it to them.. if asked in person.

Only once, the second time we will have a discussion about what's going on.

[โ€“] dfyx@lemmy.helios42.de 8 points 14 hours ago (2 children)

In a "no time to explain" situation: most of my friends and family

If they actively refuse to explain: maybe my 2-3 closest people whom I trust they have a good reason for that kind of secrecy.

[โ€“] flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

Explaining what's going on is the price you pay for free money.

[โ€“] CmdrShepard42@lemm.ee 2 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago)

I don't think this is always the case. I was asked by a woman that I was training at work if she could borrow $20 a few months ago and this was my initial response "what for?" Then my brain kicked in and I recognized that it could be for something innocuous like lunch or something else like tampons or other personal items and that it wasn't any of my business, so I told her "sorry that seemed kind of personal" and offered it to her.

If someone asked me for a more significant amount of money, I'd definitely want to know what for, but a one-time request for $20 is fairly inconsequential to me if it's someone I know.

[โ€“] andrewta@lemmy.world 1 points 13 hours ago

Same for me

[โ€“] AZERTY@feddit.nl 3 points 11 hours ago

$10 without question, probably 3 or 4 but they make about the same annually as I do and we constantly pay each other back for meals or group purchases.

Over $20 I'd definitely ask why at the very least.

[โ€“] Vanth@reddthat.com 4 points 13 hours ago

Zero.

If someone I know asks me for money, I'm at least asking them "what's up? Everything ok?" before giving them money.

Then after that, still probably zero because I don't have any cash in my wallet atm. So hopefully I can help in some other way, give them a lift somewhere, cover a meal, something.

[โ€“] PrivateNoob@sopuli.xyz 5 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Well do you mean random stranger people or people in my knowledge sphere?

[โ€“] andrewta@lemmy.world 2 points 13 hours ago

The way it's worded. It's both

[โ€“] Auli@lemmy.ca 1 points 12 hours ago

Three but three specific people.

[โ€“] underreacting@literature.cafe 2 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Everyone I would give my money to would give that reason unprompted so I wouldn't have to ask.

Except kids, they might ask just to see if it works, and then I would ask to know what for.

I don't think I've ever been asked to give away something without being offered a reason, actually...

[โ€“] hitmyspot@aussie.zone 2 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

I suppose you could pose the question differently. Who would you give 10,100,1000 to if they said they needed it but they said no questions asked.

[โ€“] underreacting@literature.cafe 3 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago)

Hmm. Probably no one.

Small amounts are weird to need "no questions asked" and large amounts are too large to give away "no questions asked". Partly for me financially, but mostly because there is a not insignificant risk of overdose if you give our large sums of money to someone being cagey about why they need it.

If they can't tell me what a significant amount of money is for, it's probably because it's something I don't want my money to go to, so I'm not inclined to agree under those premises.

At the least I would need a very good reason for why I can't ask questions ("I'm preparing to vacation as a fugitive, and don't want you to have to testify"), but by then there is no longer no questions asked...

[โ€“] Mothra@mander.xyz 2 points 14 hours ago

Okay I would ask questions for any amount of money unless they tell me first. The people I feel I would easily give money are also the same people who I'd expect they tell me first why- they wouldn't be "hey mothra got some spare 100s?"

To answer your question, I would easily give 10 to about a dozen people or so, 100 to half of them and 1k+ to only 3, and for a very good reason only. I didn't even realize the number of people would halve.

[โ€“] Whelks_chance@lemmy.world 1 points 13 hours ago

I have a handful of friends I've lent around a grand to before, one considerably more than that. With a repayment plan set up, which was followed, but I don't really know or care what it was used for. Avoiding high interest rates on credit cards I assume.