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[–] hmonkey@lemy.lol 70 points 1 month ago (1 children)

As a single man I'd skip meals without even realizing, but now we plan meals together and if I don't say anything she will, so I don't miss many meals now

[–] Raiderkev@lemmy.world 26 points 1 month ago (1 children)

It's worse if you add kids into the mix too.

[–] Semi_Hemi_Demigod@lemmy.world 13 points 1 month ago (1 children)

At one point with my kids I’d just skip my normal dinner and eat the Mac and cheese and chicken nuggets they didn’t.

[–] Raiderkev@lemmy.world 5 points 1 month ago

With me it's usually I'm not hungry, and then they are so I have to make them something, but then like u said, I end up eating their leftovers after they eat 3 bites, but I'd otherwise not be eating at all til I was hungry.

[–] jqubed@lemmy.world 46 points 1 month ago

My wife’s a really good cook, okay?

[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 29 points 1 month ago (1 children)

As soon as my partner started cooking all our meals I gained weight. When it was just my lazy ass feeding me, I ate simple things like a sandwich, noodles, or a microwave meal. I have no idea what she puts in the food (it's delicious) but the caloric intake is higher than when I was feeding myself.

[–] witty_username@feddit.nl 28 points 1 month ago (4 children)

Is this correlation related to marriage specifically or can it also be observed in long-term, stable, cohabiting relationships?
In either case, what does this suggest?

[–] catloaf@lemm.ee 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I'd also like to see if they controlled for age. I'm currently on my phone so I'm not when going to bother hunting down the study.

[–] witty_username@feddit.nl 6 points 1 month ago

Age is mentioned as a contributing factor in the news piece so they seem to have at least investigated both marriage and age (in addition to depression).
The news piece doesn't appear to link to any published study. They do mention that the findings will be presented so perhaps a peer-reviewed publication will follow too?

[–] Semi_Hemi_Demigod@lemmy.world 7 points 1 month ago

Anecdotally: I gained 50 pounds when my fiancé moved in, because like another comment said I stopped skipping meals like I did when I lived alone.

[–] angrystego@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago

That people presented with food are unable to regulate the amount they eat in a healthy way.

[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 1 month ago

See my other comment. We are not married. In fact, I started gaining weight before she officially moved in.

[–] JMorningstar@lemmy.world 28 points 1 month ago

In other news, water is wet.

[–] SaladKing@lemm.ee 12 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Yeah, this is currently my problem. We don’t have anyone to help take care of the children. I cannot exercise if I don’t wake up at like 4am (all the gums are closed) and ride my bike. This takes a toll on me however.

[–] IonAddis@lemmy.world 15 points 1 month ago (1 children)

(all the gums are closed)

I don't know why, but I find this typo hilarious.

[–] SaladKing@lemm.ee 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Lmao, meant gyms. Freaken swipe keyboard.

[–] toynbee@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)
[–] SirActionSack@aussie.zone 7 points 1 month ago (3 children)

You cannot excercise your way to weightloss without also make serious diet changes.

[–] toynbee@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago

Perhaps you did not read their username!

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 1 month ago (2 children)

people always say this but like, do you just think 50kg of fat is the same thing as 50kg of muscle?

[–] ChairmanMeow@programming.dev 0 points 1 month ago

It's not, but without a diet change you're unlikely to convert fat into muscle like that.

[–] SirActionSack@aussie.zone -1 points 1 month ago

I don't understand your point. It's possible to be healthy with or without excess muscle. It's not healthy to carry excess fat.

[–] SaladKing@lemm.ee 1 points 1 month ago

The thing is that I am eating very little. I am also almost in my 40s so my metabolism has started to slow down.

[–] peoplebeproblems@midwest.social 10 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Can confirm. Separated a year ago. I'm down 90lbs

[–] Reddfugee42@lemmy.world 8 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[–] peoplebeproblems@midwest.social 2 points 1 month ago

Coincidentally when we met in highschool we were both toothpicks and she was 90lbs and I was like 115lbs.

[–] doingthestuff@lemy.lol 8 points 1 month ago (2 children)

On the plus side, if you have kids they're statistically less likely to end up in prison.

[–] MuAraeOracle@real.lemmy.fan 7 points 1 month ago

👶 Thanks spherical dad 🪐 for keeping me out of prison.

[–] Kusimulkku@lemm.ee 3 points 1 month ago

On the plus side

Heh

[–] zerofatorial@lemm.ee 7 points 1 month ago

Where is the source data for this article? It doesn’t seem to have any associated research document in its contents

[–] ShittyBeatlesFCPres@lemmy.world 6 points 1 month ago

In my experience, when a couple moves in together (ideally on the way to getting married), their thiccness level slowly converges until they reach an equilibrium on being thicc in the britches.

Which can be good or bad. I’ve seen friends get healthier and gain unwanted weight. I’m just a neutral observer. Some people need more meat on their bones. Some people need to hike every weekend instead of drinking a 30 rack watching sports or playing on the computer or whatever. Ideally, a couple adopts each other’s best qualities.

[–] A_norny_mousse@feddit.org 5 points 1 month ago

Well, I am not one of those unmarried men. I'm a really good cook, okay?

[–] nuko147@lemm.ee 5 points 1 month ago

It is only three times more, because they count the unmarried men in relationship. Versus single men i bet the probability is >x10.

[–] CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org 4 points 1 month ago

We've all noticed this, right? Some of it is just age, but my dad ballooned just after he married and I doubt it was a coincidence.

[–] Didros@beehaw.org 3 points 1 month ago

Fishermen return with less bait than they sailed out to sea with. News at 11

[–] avidamoeba@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 month ago

Basically the rule among the average Balkan slavs, across sexes. :D

[–] tacosanonymous@lemm.ee 3 points 1 month ago

Buzz feed tomorrow: You’ll Never Guess the New Greatest Diet

[–] dditty@lemm.ee 0 points 1 month ago

The guy in the picture does not look obese to me, just overweight

[–] werefreeatlast@lemmy.world -2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

When we stop fucking, but keep eating, our bodies have to do something.

[–] Gladaed@feddit.org -4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Why do the unmarrieds be more obese then?

[–] JasSmith@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 month ago

They are not. They are apparently much less likely to be obese.