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[–] DerArzt@lemmy.world 87 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (3 children)

Skirts yes, crop tops.... Listen I know me and this gut was made for balancing a pint of Häagen-Dazs while on the couch, not crop tops.

[–] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 17 points 1 month ago (1 children)

This gut was made for faking touches on the trackpad while I try to write code on the sofa

[–] user224@lemmy.sdf.org 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Disable the trackpad, problem solved.

TrackPoint supremacy.

[–] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 7 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I love the nub, but this is a Surface on which I installed Linux out of a combination of spite and a desire to actually get some work done.

I also solved the issue by shedding those extra 20 pounds I had somehow managed to pack on

[–] polysexualstick@lemmy.world 9 points 1 month ago

A male friend of mine is on the bigger side and he looks absolutely fabulous in crop tops

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[–] introvertcatto@lemmy.blahaj.zone 60 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

Aren't skirts and dresses supposed to give proper ventilation for your dick?

[–] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 58 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Well, that and hide more knives on your body.

[–] SARGE@startrek.website 24 points 1 month ago

An important feature that shouldn't be overlooked.

[–] Elgenzay@lemmy.ml 29 points 1 month ago

I think the Scottish figured that one out

[–] TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone 59 points 1 month ago (6 children)

Let's get some shit out of the way here.

  1. your chub looks great in a crop top, I swear. Start believing it, others do.

  2. your chest/belly hair looks great too

Alright, with that business out of the way, proceed.

[–] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 13 points 1 month ago

Hashtag free the dad bod

[–] bownage@beehaw.org 10 points 1 month ago

Yaaass free hairy bellies :3

[–] festnt@sh.itjust.works 8 points 1 month ago (1 children)

what about leg and arm hair? do they look good too?

[–] TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 month ago

Yes oh yes they do.

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[–] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 50 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Eveyone should be cute and pretty :3

[–] Roflmasterbigpimp@lemmy.world 27 points 1 month ago (2 children)
[–] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 21 points 1 month ago

Wrong, you arent just trying. You are cute and pretty :3

[–] shani66@ani.social 11 points 1 month ago

We'll get there!

[–] djsoren19@yiffit.net 40 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (6 children)

Need more places that sell crop tops and skirts in men's sizes :( most of the places that do are selling fetishwear that's kinda poor quality. Also, I personally hate ordering things online, and prefer being able to try clothes on in a store before I buy them, but that is very heavily discouraged for people who look masc.

Edit: Just so other femboys know, there is one brick and mortar store you can absolutely go to; your local queer thriftstore! If you don't have a local queer thriftstore...idk man that's a sign to move in the current political climate. My post is more just saying we need more.

[–] CreateProblems@corndog.social 14 points 1 month ago (2 children)

So I'm a woman who loves shopping. But I'm a very short woman and I prefer to shop from the petite section - for most stores, petites are only offered online, if they're offered at all

So I do a LOT of online shopping and returning. I would also prefer to be able to try things on in stores before purchasing, but a lot of times I literally don't have that option. So essentially I try stuff in the privacy of my own home. I prefer to shop online from stores in my area and then return in-person, but a lot of places offer free mail returns too.

Point is, if you're returning women's clothes to a store, no one needs to know they were ordered for you. Maybe you're shopping for your wife, maybe she's disabled so she can't get out and shop for herself, or maybe you just love buying her presents. Nothing is stopping you from lying to cashiers if they asked - but usually it's just "was anything wrong with the item" and you just say "no it just didn't work out/didn't fit her/I ordered two sizes and she's keeping the one that fits."

The best stores will list either garment measurements or suggested physical measurements for the sizes they offer. If you know your own measurements, this should help you make informed decisions until you get to know your sizes at various brands (...and even then, it will still vary widely! 😏)

Looking at women's plus size options may show you options that are more accommodating of broader shoulders, etc.

[–] angrystego@lemmy.world 8 points 1 month ago

Now I imagine being a man pretending to be shopping for my wife, saying it just didn't fit her, while the cashier is looking with suspition at the skirt I'm wearing.

[–] djsoren19@yiffit.net 7 points 1 month ago

Oh don't get me wrong, I know my sizes and have places to shop online. Femboy apparel is also a rapdily growing market, and I try to keep fresh with new sites.

I'm just a weird romantic. I like the nostalgic idea of going to a mall with friends, trying on some clothes, and buying maybe one thing. There's a lot more issues with buying things physically in general now, beyond just my niche. Finding a mall that doesn't scream "beached whale" is tough nowadays, so it's just longing for a simpler time.

I'm also kinda an asshole speaking from a place of privilege, because I live in a place large enough to have a queer district where I can thrift. That's basically Femboy Aeropostale. I just think it would be cool if there was a chain that catered to femme attire for men.

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[–] __nobodynowhere@startrek.website 30 points 1 month ago

it's okay to be attractive

If only I could

[–] nsrxn@lemmy.dbzer0.com 23 points 1 month ago (1 children)

everyone talking about kilts is in the wrong thread. this is about wearing skirts.

[–] AnarchistArtificer@slrpnk.net 20 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I think kilts can be a good gateway drug towards skirts

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[–] earphone843@sh.itjust.works 23 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I'm about to start wearing my kilt in the rural south. It'll be interesting to see how it goes.

[–] voxthefox@lemmy.world 14 points 1 month ago

Wore mine down in Texas a few months ago, albeit it was to the rennaissance festival. Got some weird stares at the stops on the way though haha

[–] caboose2006@lemm.ee 6 points 1 month ago

I took a DNA test and found out I'm mostly Scottish (family always said English and Polish) so maybe I will too.

[–] weker01@sh.itjust.works 22 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (4 children)

So presenting masculine is not attractive?

I dunno why but I'm somehow bothered by the post on an emotional level. I do not want to accuse anybody, it's primarily my own issue of course.

The first thing I thought of was transgender men getting told to present feminine. I think nobody should be told how they should dress.

I know it's a meme and I am taking this a bit too seriously.

Anyways skirts are cool and can be cute and feminine like in the op or cool and masculine like a kilt. It's a very versatile garment everybody could wear more often.

[–] homura1650@lemmy.world 13 points 1 month ago

I think of this as analogous to the movement to get women to wear pants. It's not that we wanted them to present as masculine; it's that we wanted pants to stop being masculine and start being just clothes. Basically all masculine coded attire became androgynous, but almost no feminine code attire did.

It's not like skirts are inherently feminine either. There are plenty of examples across cultures and time of it being perfectly normal for men to wear them.

[–] not_IO@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 1 month ago

calling skirts + crop top attractive is not the same as calling only that attractive. i hope this helps you make peace with this post

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[–] yuri@pawb.social 17 points 1 month ago (2 children)

skirts are some of the most efficient and comfortable clothes and it’s honestly bullshit i can’t wear them without being called slurs

[–] Retrograde@lemmy.world 13 points 1 month ago

The Scots have known this for centuries 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

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[–] MonkderVierte@lemmy.ml 16 points 1 month ago

Don't need a skirt for that.

[–] Hadriscus@lemm.ee 15 points 1 month ago

ngl skirts sound pretty comfortable

[–] Leah96xxx@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Ok but I actually want that skirt... where can I find one?

[–] Caitlyynn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 month ago (1 children)

If you're from the eu, I'd suggest looking on emp

[–] Leah96xxx@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Sadly I'm no longer in the EU... (Thanks Brexit.......)

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[–] cybermass@lemmy.ca 13 points 1 month ago (3 children)

To be honest I feel very attractive when I'm wearing a nice suit and tie.

But I wear comfy clothes, joggers and hoodies, because it's comfy. Most guys don't give a fuck about looking good.

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[–] rabber@lemmy.ca 11 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I don't think anyone wants to be looking at my gut

[–] yuri@pawb.social 13 points 1 month ago (1 children)

there are folks who would sexually objectify your gut, don’t even play with me dog

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[–] OmegaLemmy@discuss.online 10 points 1 month ago

just be Scottish already

[–] vaultdweller013@sh.itjust.works 9 points 1 month ago

I will beat you with a 2x4 if you try taking my baggy clothes from me.

[–] SaharaMaleikuhm@feddit.org 8 points 1 month ago

Only if I get somebody to bend me over.

[–] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 7 points 1 month ago (4 children)

I don't have enough ass to look good in a skirt.

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[–] Undaunted@discuss.tchncs.de 7 points 1 month ago (4 children)

My thighs rub against each other and get very sore when I wear my kilt. I always need to wear some kind of trunks/briefs with longer legs underneath to prevent it and it totally ruins the freedom and ventilation aspect :(

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