Ask Lemmy

people that have more money than they could ever spend trying to accumulate more money

There's a lot of human behavior I don't understand. Used to make me feel like an alien as a kid.

Like the super unhealthy parasocial relationships people think they have with famous people, and more appalling is the way the media feeds right into it. People acting like it's normal to obsess over details about celebrities personal lives is very weird to me.

I don't understand cheating... just break up and then you can fuck who you want. Why does deceiving someone and breaking their trust have to be a part of it? Why is that necessary?

I don't understand how you can be the richest elongated muskrat in the world, so rich you just doubled your wealth, and not do anything to help people who need it. I don't know how he can live with himself. And what I really don't get is that he clearly wants the world to see him as some sort of important amazing brilliant person. So why not do the thing. DO THE THING AND HELP YOU SELFISH FUCK

Don't even get me started with bigotry. It just does not make sense. Why does someone's skin pigment effect people so drastically? Why does the gender or sexual orientation of strangers matter? People need to focus on themselves and mind their business. If someone would like to make minding your business the new fad of 2025 I'm here for it.

Littering is one of those things I struggle the most to understand.

I can somewhat grasp it in extreme cases, like when you’re dealing with something really dirty and there’s nowhere to put it. But I’m talking about casual littering - things like throwing candy wrappers on the ground when you could just as easily put them in your pocket.

I don’t think anyone sees themselves as a bad person. Even when we engage in bad behavior, we usually have some story we tell ourselves to justify it. But I can’t put myself in the mindset of someone who casually throws trash on the ground for someone else to clean up. It’s kind of like walking around and cussing at random people - it just doesn’t make any sense. You have to know that you're the problem.

Celebrity gossip. I'm just not interested in who married who, who's wearing what, who's doing who.

And reality TV, but if ratings are any indication, I'm the weird one on that.

Going to church by choice. That shit is boring.

I've never understood why everyone has their phone out recording at large public events. Surely someone is going to post a video of the event and you don't need to be recording it

Not putting your fucking shopping cart away. There’s no better way for me to explain it than the shopping cart theory:

The need some people have to be part of a group.

I've been "alone" for such a long time that it probably affects how I see things like this, but I just don't get the need some people have. I'm thinking from things like worshipping a politician just to be part of a group to more simple things like needing to insert yourself into a group at work just to be "one of the guys." I've always just done my own thing and never considered myself part of anything, whether friend groups, work "cliques," or whatever. If it was "Tim, Tom, and Tina" I could be friends with all of them, but I never felt like I needed to be, or even ever was part of "their" group. I just come and go as the situation arises.

Some things like politics I obviously fall into one category or another based on my beliefs, but I don't conform or alter my beliefs just to maintain a position within that group.

Going to concerts. It's too loud and it's crowded, I just don't see the appeal.

And while we're at it, dancing. It's unnatural, I tell you!

Preferring looks over functionality.

So many things in today's world are dogshit covered in a pretty wrapper and everyone eats it up. Meanwhile things that actually work well and last get ignored because they're not pretty.

I'm not saying things can't be pretty but you should never put form over function.

Smoking. Let's see, I could pay a ton of money for something that reeks and damages my health and the health of those around me, that once I start I'll become addicted to so I'll struggle to quit even if I want to, or I could, uh, not. Yeah let's go with not.

Hmmm I think I will go with "fandom", or being a fan of something. Like, I enjoy concepts. But there's no universe or product or franchise or sports team or whatever in particular I would consider myself a fan of.

edit hope this counts as behavior lol

How people can be hateful to others because of what their skin colour is, what their sex is, or because they have a disability. In the grand scheme of things our lives are short, so why not spend that time on loving people rather than hating them for things beyond their control which harms no one?

Sport hooligans

Becoming very invested in watching strangers play games for money.

Shitting on weaker people. I mean I kinda do get it, because I had the instinct when I was little. But I very quickly got taught respect by people who refused to be bullied by me.

I guess what I don’t get is … how can people still be doing that as an adult? Have they literally never had someone stand up to them before? Or are they addicted to it, unable to control themselves?

I had the impulse toward evil, but it got beaten out of me really young. It really didn’t take much — just one kid being like “no I’m not doing that”.

Wanting expensive designer clothes/accessories.

One, I hate spending money. Two, I'd worry about ruining them too much to ever want to wear/use them. Three, they just generally aren't comfortable.

The refusal to try something just because it's popular.

Thinking that things they don't enjoy should not be enjoyed by anyone else, and complaining bitterly about people enjoying those things.

Hate. Like I don't understand how someone can hate others for the dumbest shit like race or sexuality or gender. Like, I don't truly hate people easily, and when I do hate them, it's because of their actions and/or words. Hating things/people is so exhausting. Idk how people can carry that shit around all the time.

A group of humans need to pass through a doorway with two doors. The leading human opens one of the doors and passes through the doorway. The next human follows them through the open doorway, and so does the next, and the one after them. The humans bunch up around the one open door, funneling themselves through it rather than opening the other door right beside it.

Then I, the smartest and best of humans, make use of my divine and otherworldly gifts to open the other door that was right there the WHOLE TIME. Truly I am a gift upon the world. Someone should give me chocolates.

(Wo)men screaming when something unexpected scary/frightening happems

Wanting to look rich... Like, who the fuck cares.

I can't understand someone that want to attack another country, go to war, just to take some piece of land. And then want to die for this reason.

People should just learn that you can't get everything they want in life and deal with it in a good way.

A type, true believer office people.

It's all laid out, you have at most 100 years and 50ish healthy ones if you're extremely lucky, and you want to spend more energy then you absolutely have to... micromanaging others and bragging about maximizing your office work output as you eek out a living?

I genuinely find the coworkers that try to drown themselves in corpo kool-aid disturbing. Soulless. I find them as sad and pathetic as they probably find me for my half hearted, clearly mocking impression of corpo culture, as I don't show my true self at work.

Like just.. Why? It's a job. The owner truly doesn't care if you live or die. Stop bragging that you canceled on your family yet again in favor of your "work family."🤮 They think they're setting an example for their coworkers to follow, but I'm just sitting there pitying them.

Wanting to be popular. Wanting to know famous people or worshipping them. Dressing the latest fashion. Participating is all the fads.

I can’t understand how getting in an argument with a family member cannot be solved by explaining my side then listening to their side so everyone’s on the same page. I think this is why it’s sometimes said women want someone to listen whereas men want to solve the issue. I cannot understand not trying to solve the issue. If I think I was right or logical then I want to explain it but I also want to hear the other party and arrive at a middle ground then hug. That never works and I cannot get it.

Eating boogers!

Why!? Like sure, kids do it but they also eat sand and basically anything they can put in their mouth.

But why would you do it as an adult?! You can pick your nose and the fling it away, or even wipe it on a wall like a psycho, but eating it?? I guess at least it's keeping the environment clean?

Breeding