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Personally, I find it endlessly frustrating and even terrifying to be in the passenger seat with a driver who jumps in the car and immediately goes.. Then worries about Seatbelts/Radio/AC/Mirrors/Plugging in Phone/etc etc while driving.

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[–] st3ph3n@midwest.social 101 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Motherfuckers who turn their head to talk to others in the car while they're driving. Keep your eyes on the road, dumbass.

[–] Obi@sopuli.xyz 47 points 1 week ago (2 children)

In movies sometimes they do it for freakishly long, obviously because the car isn't actually driving or because it's sitting on a trailer. It's become a trope, some films parody it.

[–] Nasan@sopuli.xyz 13 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Lloyd's first conversation with Mary in Dumb and Dumber. Should be required viewing in driving schools.

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[–] ptz@dubvee.org 76 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Tailgating, weaving through lanes to pass other cars and get to our destination zero seconds faster, fucking around with their phone. General "bad driver" stuff.

[–] Drusas@fedia.io 63 points 1 week ago (1 children)

My husband regularly continues accelerating toward the vehicle in front of us while said vehicle is braking. He also tailgates. It's terrifying and I rarely let him be the one to drive.

[–] dingus@lemmy.world 11 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (3 children)

Granted I'm a lifelong loner but...how do you deal with this? I don't know for sure, but I don't think I could ever have a partner who drives so egregiously dangerous. Not only is it dangerous, but it also indicates a severe lack of empathy for other human beings. I don't know how I could reconcile a severe lack of empathy in a partner like that.

I guess it depends. Does he tailgate out of aggression or because he's not paying attention? Not that one is necessarily better than others, but the intent is different. One just implies stupidity while the other implies lack of empathy.

[–] weariedfae@lemmy.world 11 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Not the one you're replying to but my SO was a terrible driver and still has issues. At first I brought it to them calmly but over the years it turned into nagging. That being said, their driving has improved significantly. Much safer than it was but they still get mad at other cars who were being oblivious. They also admitted they have problems seeing at night so I always drive at night now.

They're aware I have a problem with their driving and it is a source of contention in our relationship but not enough to break up over.

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[–] noxy@yiffit.net 57 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Not allowing enough flashes of the turn signal before turning or changing lanes. I aim for three blinks minimum, usually four. One or two blinks just doesn't seem like enough opportunity for other drivers' busy eyes to see the indication.

[–] A_Random_Idiot@lemmy.world 28 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Oh god, tell me about it.

I know someone who gets absolutely red hulk faced full of rage because the cars beside them wont let them over.

But the problem? THey dont understand that the goddamn indicator is to INDICATE THEIR INTENTIONS to the other drivers... So they don't turn the indicator on at all, until they are in the middle of changing lanes, while screaming adn cussing up a storm about "entitled" drivers who wont let him over..

And trying to tell him to turn on the fucking turn signal so they know he WANTS to get over is like trying to explain pi to a brick wall.

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[–] thisisdee@lemmy.world 18 points 1 week ago (5 children)

My husband when changing lanes would wait until he has space, then indicates while turning. He thinks that if he indicates too early, other drivers would intentionally close gaps and not give him way

[–] dingus@lemmy.world 15 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

In my experience, people do sometimes do what your husband says. Not everyone, obviously, but a lot of people really are shitty. So I get that to a degree.

A thing I do actually is that when I'm the first car sitting at a red light and my intention is to turn right, I actually explicitly do NOT use my turn signal. I use it in every other scenario except this one. Because I've found that if I use it, I run into the occasional asshole that decides to blare his horn at me for not immediately turning right and getting into an accident with oncoming traffic. When they don't know whether or not I'm turning or going straight, they don't honk at me like an asshole.

It's not that I never make right turns on red, it's that I just like to make sure it's safe to do so. I watch oncoming traffic and check the crosswalk for pedestrians. If there is an obstruction to view of traffic (happens occasionally at certain intersections), then yeah I just wait for the green light. But inpatient dipshits don't give a shit because it took them an extra 3 seconds to get to the grocery store.

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[–] Tujio@lemmy.world 17 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Turn signal before brakes is my golden rule.

[–] gamermanh@lemmy.dbzer0.com 13 points 1 week ago

I fucking loathe the dickheads who slow down (some slamming on their brakes) IN THE LANE before suddenly turning their signal on as they pull a full 90 degree turn, rather than just signal early and coast while moving over into the turn/suicide lane

So much traffic caused by such basic garbage driving

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[–] Sterile_Technique@lemmy.world 43 points 1 week ago (8 children)

When we're first in line at a red light, and the driver starts doing shit like check their phone.

Wife does this and it drives me nuts - unless it just turned red, you fucking stare at that light so you can GTFO the second it turns green.

...then she gets annoyed when I say "light's green" when it turns while she's distracted. -_-

[–] thisisdee@lemmy.world 23 points 1 week ago (1 children)

My husband got a ticket/points on his license doing that and that stopped him.

[–] Nasan@sopuli.xyz 14 points 1 week ago

I wish they enforced that more in my area.

[–] Toes@ani.social 12 points 1 week ago

No tolerance for that. Yank the phone from their hand and scold them like a child. That's ridiculous.

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[–] Marighost@lemm.ee 40 points 1 week ago (2 children)

My father in law brakes incredibly late. Consequently, he brakes very hard. Drives me (heh) insane, and causes me to reach for the oh-shit bar and the ghost brake every time.

[–] GeeDubHayduke@lemmy.dbzer0.com 14 points 1 week ago

Add in hysterical, blood-vessel-throbbing shrieks at the person in front, and you've just described my mom's driving. It's terrifying to ride anywhere with her.

[–] AA5B@lemmy.world 12 points 1 week ago (1 children)

My ex gets distracted easily. She always hated that I would ghost brake, but I can’t help it when she’s not reacting to the stopped car in front of us

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[–] 1D10@lemmy.world 36 points 1 week ago (5 children)

My ex would try to maintain an exact speed by slightly ecxelerating then let off the gas over and over, just tap tap tap on the gas. 100 miles of tiny lurches.

[–] Cenotaph@mander.xyz 20 points 1 week ago

I've had uber drivers who do this in an electric car. If you thought it was bad in an ICE, lemme tell you. With that instant torque its a vomit comet

[–] Ersatz86@lemmy.world 18 points 1 week ago (4 children)

This right here. I’ve known two drivers with this exact habit. Spectacularly infuriating.

Just let me out right here. I’ll walk.

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[–] superkret@feddit.org 35 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Driving digitally. Gas and brake pedals are analog controllers, not buttons.

[–] tdawg@lemmy.world 12 points 1 week ago

ffs people with lead feet need to read this

[–] Grimy@lemmy.world 29 points 1 week ago

Tailgating and driving fast in parking lots. Some people just do these out of habit, it drives me nuts.

[–] sheridan@lemmy.world 28 points 1 week ago (4 children)

Twice I had a Lyft driver (the same one both times) try to sell me a vacation timeshare. It's really awkward being trapped in a car having to hear a sales pitch.

Also, generally don't like when Uber/Lyft cars are heavily scented to cover up the smell of smoke. Makes my skin itch.

[–] st3ph3n@midwest.social 15 points 1 week ago

I hope you gave him a shit review.

[–] dejected_warp_core@lemmy.world 14 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Timeshare (and MLM) salespeople are well-known for their ability to attract and then box-in a potential client. Delivering a pitch while in a fast moving car? That's next-level diabolical, even for those people.

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[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 28 points 1 week ago

Convsersely, a passenger who takes off their seatbelt when I get close to their destination.

[–] LostAndSmelly@lemmy.world 28 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Entering an intersection before they are sure there will be enough space to clear it.

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[–] pixelscript@lemm.ee 27 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (3 children)

People who know damn well they have a right turn coming up in fewer than 30 seconds, but are perfectly comfortable riding that left lane until the last possible second before they violently swoop cut across all lanes of traffic at once to make their turn.

Bonus points if that turning lane is swamped with other cars, but their tunnel vision was so deep they don't notice until they attempt to merge, and they become frustrated that they either can't make it, or they have to aggressively steal the right-of-way to force themselves in.

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[–] KokusnussRitter@discuss.tchncs.de 27 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Not keeping proper distance to the vehicle in front or behind them

[–] Slatlun@lemmy.ml 12 points 1 week ago (4 children)

How does a driver choose how close someone follows them?

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[–] obinice@lemmy.world 26 points 1 week ago

When they try to get into the back of the car in front of us.

Drivers seem to forget that they always must maintain minimum emergency breaking distance from the car in front, which changes with weather conditions, speed limit, and the reaction times of the driver themselves.

[–] LovableSidekick@lemmy.world 25 points 1 week ago

Tailgating is frightening, especially when it's very clear that if something suddenly happened ahead the driver could not react without superpowers they don't have.

[–] 1984@lemmy.today 22 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

It's not hard to be a good driver. You can even drive fast. Just blink several seconds before you change lanes, keep a lot of space between you and the car in front, and just don't surprise other drivers in any way.

This includes not breaking hard unless you have to (only when you fail to have enough space in front of you to brake smoothly).

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[–] nucleative@lemmy.world 19 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Accelerate, brake, accelerate, brake, accelerate, brake on repeat when on a wide open road.

Some drivers do this seemingly without being aware and once you notice it's impossible to ignore how irritating the feeling is.

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[–] sem@lemmy.blahaj.zone 19 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Yelling at the other cars the whole trip...

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[–] dejected_warp_core@lemmy.world 19 points 1 week ago

Basically all of the things I see other drivers doing when I'm not in their car.

  • Distracted driving (e.g. phone)
  • Resigning right-of-way in situations that are unsafe, like on highway entrance ramps and inside traffic circles
  • Doing unpredictable things (e.g. quickly weaving through traffic, merging/turning without signaling)
  • Zero clue about safe stopping distance for their vehicle, weight, and speed
  • Cutting off freight, especially at highway speeds
  • Generally unaware of what others are doing around them, only to wind up upset with others, then driving angry/aggressive
  • Driving fast enough to overwhelm the car's suspension and traction (wheels leave ground, springs bottom out)

The last one is particularly nauseating and terrifying if you're in the car.

[–] spittingimage@lemmy.world 16 points 1 week ago (2 children)

From experience I can tell you that I really hate it when the driver is doing ten over the limit then announces unprompted that he's not afraid of dying in a car accident because he knows he's going to be with Jesus.

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[–] then_three_more@lemmy.world 16 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Sitting at 60 in the middle lane, and then getting angry because people are tailgating and both over and under taking. Have some fucking lane disaplin.

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[–] Elaine@lemm.ee 14 points 1 week ago

Tailgating, racing other drivers, quick jerk lane changes, speeding more than ten mph over the limit, last minute braking.

[–] dellish@lemmy.world 12 points 1 week ago

Looking at me when they're talking. I don't care for the politeness of it, just watch the road!

[–] MedicPigBabySaver@lemmy.world 11 points 1 week ago

I do about 98% of the driving. I've been driving an ambulance for almost 40 years. I cannot stand almost everything when someone else drives. It takes a lot for me to relinquish the driver's seat when we are doing more than a 4 hour drive.

[–] user224@lemmy.sdf.org 11 points 1 week ago

Speeding, texting while driving, calling while driving, overtaking cars when there is a solid line, overtaking when you can't fuckin see what's in front (e.g.: overtaking a semi in right curve), overtaking while going like 2 km/h faster, going fast (even if within limit) when there is a fog and road signs warn about animals frequently crossing the road, unnecessarily loud music, strongly-heated car.

[–] Microplasticbrain@lemm.ee 10 points 1 week ago (1 children)

My friend won't wear his fucking seatbelt so the car fucking dings the whole time

[–] otp@sh.itjust.works 14 points 1 week ago (3 children)

I would not be in that car

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