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I've heard of this concept of turning sexual energy into productivity. It has never worked for me. If I'm feeling horny, it just distracts me from doing other things. I've never been, like, cleaning my house and been like "thank god I have this RAGING BONER right now! I'm SO PRODUCTIVE!!!"
If I am any more productive when I don't have regular sexual partners, it is almost certainly purely becauss I'm not... spending time with them. After all, jerking off is way faster than texting, going on a date, coming back home, and boning all night long.
I think it comes down to finding the specific activities that allow you actually channel this, which are likely different between folks.
I mostly hear about it in terms of physical exertion (working really hard at the gym, sporting particularly hard, whatever) or artistic expression. Dunno that cleaning your house does it for most people (though it might for some, particularly if you go hard and fast enough that it meets the physical exertion criteria).
Trying to find stuff like that for myself - not because there's anything wrong with a daily jork, but because a weekly to bi-weekly jork is fucking awesome.
To each their own, quite certainly.
I focus more on being regular than being highly productive, to be honest so what follows may not apply to everyone. I consider writing a good page every single day of the year, all year long without exception, will get me a lot farther than, say, writing a chunk of those pages here and there when I feel like it or when I have a bon... furious desire to write them (I seldom have any 'furious' anything regarding writing or anything creative, but I have the habit of doing it every day). That single daily page, most of the time, will also require a lot less editing afterward (not even mentioning the dreaded complete rewrite when they're complete garbage)—lazy-me talking, here.
What I wanted to say was that this energy trapped in (sexual) frustration one can learn to use it, but this really needs to be learned as it won't happen out of the blue, as a a real fuel tank/battery one can use everyday to do actual (creative) work on the long run. Not to burst out some piece of art in an intense moment of... exaltation ;)