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No, I haven't talked to anyone outside of my family since I graduated high school and I have no way to contact any of my other relatives, assuming they would even help.
As for the documentation, I don't even know how to obtain some of the required documentation. For example, one of the requirements from what I've read, is two documents from different sources that are on an "acceptable document list" proving that I have a street address. I've looked at the list and it's mostly legal documents from sources that I've either never heard of or have no legal way of obtaining.
where i live we can usually get an utility bill or tax addressed to the house by mail.
it seems strange that you need oddball documents? have you called or directly asked them by email or texting them or something?
A utility bill would be one of two I need but my parents pay the bills online, so we don't get physical bills anymore. I also haven't tried calling them because I already know that they are just going to tell me to look at their list of acceptable documents.
don't your parents have your birth certificate? or do they accept the printed digital version? can't you sneak there and attempt to get registered anyway, i'm sure you can explain the situation and there is some sort of exception.
i'm stumped, but that's nothing short of abuse and you should definitely look into this ASAP cause it will make your life very hard.
I've previously mentioned that I'm pretty sure I have access to my birth certificate but if you read the list of requirements on the link I gave you, you'll see that it only covers 3 of the 5 (technically 6) requirements. I do have access to my SSN card but that still leaves the fifth (and sixth) requirement unfulfilled. As for sneaking out, I tried that multiple times over the years and every time I was escorted back home in a police car before I could even get to my destination. I can't even go to the grocery store on my own without having my parents calling the police on me.
The main reason why my parents are like this, is because I was diagnosed with autism back in middle school. Ever since then, my parents (and really my entire family) have started treating me differently.
And it's like, I'm not even trying to get a job or a bank account. I'm okay with not having them, what my issue is, is that because I'm limited to using "beer money" sites and apps to be able to buy things, I'm very limited as to where and what I can buy. I used to be able to buy pretty much anything I wanted to if I put in the work but then Swagbucks changed their policy so that you now require an ID to do pretty much anything on their website. I still have access to and use InstaGC but there's only 3 websites that I use and can actually use with the gift cards they offer. I also use Bing but that's both even more limited and extremely slow to earn enough points to actually buy anything. Every other app/website I know of is either not worth using, a scam or I'm hesitant to use because I'm starting to have trust issues with these websites and apps.
And seeing that America is slowly turning into a second Nazi Germany, I'm not optimistic for the future of these websites and apps.
aren't you older than 18 though? can't you just say you are not lost to police? not even your sister cares? are there not any ngo's you can call that will help you out?
see, the thing is i'm just stumped your government makes it so hard for you to id yourself and be an independent human being, this should not be that hard and there must be stuff you can do about it. you are already in nazi germany and didn't notice, motherfuckers treating you like an actual removed.
and mind you i'd be treated by my family about the same, for similar reasons. i was bit in the ass for letting them do much milder shit to me and am still paying a big price for it. please figure out how to get the fuck out of this house and family because you are gonna get fucked big time for it.
i wish i could be of any actual help, but i'm halfway around the planet from you. i'm sure you can plan something out though.
Here's the thing, I have no idea what my parents tell the police because, if I try to explain my situation to them, they ignore everything I say and they start speaking louder while acting like their about to pull their guns out on me. I don't know if they would try to shoot me but I'm not about to find out.
And as for my sister, I don't even talk to her anymore. It just seems like she hates me for some reason. For example, the last time I talked to her was when I asked her if I could use her old laptop because it's been sitting in the basement for several years and I don't like leaving tech unused if I know I might be able to use it. She never answered my question and just said "Why the fuck do you want that? Get out of my room.".