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How do people in cities have fun without spending money at every turn? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) by bridgeenjoyer@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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Any time I go to a large city im exhausted by being charged for doing anything. How do people have fun if theyre poor(the neat part, you dont, probably). And to make it worse many of them probably have a 1 bedroom apartment so its not like you can sit in there all day long (at least i cant).

I realize im still spending money by being in my house out of town, but still, at least things I buy are owned by me, and im not paying someone else every time I want to do anything. If I want to stay at home all day I have tons of stuff to occupy my mind without going nuts.

I figure 98% of lemmy users live in big cities so id like to hear this perspective!

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[–] Bluewing@lemmy.world 3 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

There is anonymity in a crowd. But the noise and odors are a constant intrusion. The sounds of the crowd, the traffic, and sirens is a 24/7/365 thing and it never stops. Nor is there any escape from it as long as you remain there.

My nearest neighbor lives several miles away and people don't really bother each other here. There is nothing but trees between us. Visits are always preceded by a phone call or text.

The silence here would be painful for city dwellers.

[–] stoly@lemmy.world 1 points 11 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago)

It honestly sounds like you've only briefly entered cities in traffic but stayed in one. All that stuff you mentioned really isn't a thing. My condo is very quiet and I have lovely trees filled with birds just outside my window. And I live right in one of the densest parts of the city.