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I need to tell someone off but I already know I'm going to be close to tears when I do. And I don't want her to see me crying.

And please spare me any mention of how it is okay to cry. That's not why I'm here.

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[–] etchinghillside@reddthat.com 20 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I don’t have advice – because In the past I have also had issues with voice shaking and tears when in emotional situations. No clue if I’ve grown out of it or have just been better at avoiding them.

I need to tell someone off

You might want to reflect on if you really need to. “Fuck off” and walking away is also sufficient. Delivering via a written message is also an option.

If this is a work situation then my suggestions change dramatically.

[–] I_Fart_Glitter@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago

I’m a big fan of the strongly worded letter. Get to write and rewrite until it’s absolutely withering. And no one knows if you cried.