OK, so you think the opposite is true? It's feminist for a woman to base her identity on who her father is? That women shouldn't bother with any kind of birth control/family planning despite banging multiple people within a timeframe that would lead her to raise a child without understanding who the dad could be?

Because fuck it, we shouldn't expect anything from women, right?

[–] outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Who tf needs a dad specifically? A good parent is a good parent. Adequate adulting is adequate adulting.

If dad, why cum based? The point of having a dad around isnt that he creampies ypur mom from time to time; it's the fact hes a parent.

If cum based, why limit to one? Many cultures have done shit where kids are raised by all the men mom was fucking through the entire pregnancy.

[–] darth_tiktaalik@nerdica.net 2 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

@Skullgrid @outhouseperilous "If dad, why cum based?"

Isn't a sentence I expected to read today but you're right

[–] outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 14 hours ago

You're welcome.

[–] Skullgrid@lemmy.world -1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Many cultures have done shit where kids are raised by all the men mom was fucking through the entire pregnancy.

yeah, and how many of those guys raised this kid? Oh wait.

Who tf needs a dad specifically? A good parent is a good parent.

Are YOU a parent? Because I am, and let me tell you, with TWO people it's fucking exhausting, let alone doing it alone.

Again, the point is that 1) The daughter has no sense of identity except for who her dad might be, and she's going to base her opinion and goals based on whoever he turns out to be, which is weak as shit, and 2) If you're going to fuck around, at least be a responsible adult about it, which the mother was not. They had the pill and condoms back then, use them for fucks sake.

[–] outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

Seems like you're projecting some wound here.

[–] Skullgrid@lemmy.world -1 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

No, I never ended up on an island to try to figure out if the woman I banged (and turned out fucked a bunch of other dudes right before/after) gave birth to my daughter or if it was one of the other guys.

[–] outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

I don't see the problem with that. Depending on what 'island' means, that could be a really nice time. Like, even if its a 'we must find water' situation, someone i have fond (if blurry) memories and a little intimacy with is a plus. If it's a luxury island, i probably want someone confirmed cute around.

but the idea of her being 'yours' is kinda weird, possessive; especially if you didn't do the work of making the person.

[–] Skullgrid@lemmy.world 2 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

. Depending on what ‘island’ means

The island that the topic of this part of the conversation is about, the one that the film "mamma mia" takes place on.

but the idea of her being ‘yours’ is kinda weird, possessive; especially if you didn’t do the work of making the person.

it's a semantic indicator of a relationship of a generic word. Jesus fucking christ, not everything is a freudian slip that indicates someone is a patriachal nazi.

[–] outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago)

patriarchal nazi

Okay but im in america right now so that's kind of a reasobable null hypothesis.

island

Could totally chill there with anyone I've ever had sex with who hasn't already tried to kill me, and sometimes thats pretty fun, so not an absolute deal breaker.

thing you didn't say

Still feels projectiony.