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Here's a weird one:
Don't offer advice unless its something you have some experience with.
Googling someone's issues and giving them a boilerplate answer from the first thing you find isn't helpful and can actually be a hinderance more than anything.
I also hate when people get angry you didn’t follow their advice. Sometimes their advice was horse shit to begin with anyway. Just because someone seeks advice doesn’t mean they’re obligated to follow it. At least in my case, thank God I didn’t.
Or their advice might be fine in general, but doesn't apply to your specific situation.
I had a friend who's latest and greatest dating advice was to go back and hangout at the college I graduated from (at the time already) several years ago.
I thought it was an incredibly disingenuous and creepy suggestion.
Him and his partner were like "it's totally fine..."
Not a single female friend disagreed with me that, that would be very creepy and I absolutely should not do that.
He got mad that I would never listen to his (terrible) dating advice.
I do remember from college there were women who were into this. It may be a successful strategy if you have no shame or morals
You've got my vote for president.
Something I've learned to practice with friends. When people call me I try to make sure I ask "do you want advice or do you just want someone to listen?"
I have to disagree honestly. So many times someone tells me about some question they're pondering, and when I offer some suggestion about what may be going on or how to fix it, they're like "Why are you talking about something you know nothing about? You don't have to have an opinion."
But am I allowed to? I'm a curious person. If something interesting or strange or problematic is happening in your life, the first thing my brain is going to do is start trying to explain it. So I could keep it to myself, but then since my mind is on something I'm not allowed to talk about, I'm going to sit there and be silent and then they'll be like "What? Do you have any reaction at all or are you going to just sit there in silence?"
And then I pull out my beretta...
I think it's fine to have an opinion, just qualify it with "I've not been in that situation before, but ... I think bla ... because bla."
It's just about being honest.
I had someone do the same but with fucking AI in my field of expertise
Absolutely. And be open that you don't have experience with it!!
I feel like boomers are the worst about this (as a young business owner I get tons of random dumb business advice from that age group) but that could just be bias
That is partially what inspired me to post this. A lot of business advice I have gotten has been staggeringly bad.
I realize most people have worked at a business and should know a thing or two about how it works, but I don't think many consider the huge differences between their workplace and how a small business operates.