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I used to be very wrong about trans people until I talked to a trans person for about 3 minutes
When I realized it had nothing to do with sexualization and all about identity I stopped, apologized and asked a bunch of questions
My interlocutor kind of didn't know how to handle it and it took a moment for them to defuse, as I'm sure they were expecting shouting or worse. After that we had a real meaningful conversation that gave me a lot to think about.
That's exactly the outcome we need in the world. Thank you for sharing this.
What really sucks is how many times this conversation has started, only for the trans person to (very logically and understandably) react internally with “Ohhh boy, here we go, another one of these backwards bigots. I’m just going to yell to make myself feel better.”
Then the ignorant individual feels attacked, gets defensive, and feels satisfied in their belief that trans people are hysterical or something.
I don’t even blame anyone so much for that. Being patient with every single transphobe just in case they’re a reasonable person takes far more energy than I have.
I think many social "issues" can be resolved with empathy after speaking to an individual on a human level instead of grappling with an abstract "issue".
The first is good but it is a bandaid, the second is an attempt to keep others from needing bandaids too