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You have to do the heavy lifting, not them IMO.
For example the why should we help lazy people?!! I wonder what should we actuallydo with them then? Like you're too lazy to work should we let them die because of their "stupidness" and errors they made?
Never changed anyone's mind right away but you get to talk about the underlying reasons why they hate "lazy" people, and it's often something (shocker) that has nothing to do with "lazy" people.
For example.
Edit: I use the rightwing trope here just as an example. I'm the laziest person I know!
I'm not convinced 'lazy' people exist. Everyone I've ever known to be lazy is either ADHD, depressed, or anxious. It's a symptom of an unhealthy mind, not an inherent trait anyone possesses.
This is my experience as well. Anecdotally, at least. Lately I've been slowly putting together a community of friends, and my anxiety and depression have been dropping like crazy. Between that and the self-esteem boost I've been getting from finally starting hrt, I'm actually starting to feel competent enough to tackle things like getting a job, moving out (I'm gonna go looking at rental properties with a friend tomorrow), going grocery shopping, things like that.
God, I've always wanted to be able to just do something so plain as going grocery shopping for myself.
I can also tell that the anxiety causes a lot of issues with my motivation from the fact that my wonderful mom always throws worst-case scenarios at me whenever I try to become more independent. She's been throwing the entire warehouse at me lately because I've been talking about how I'm moving out with a friend. My excitement has been turning to dread despite my friend's reassurance that they'll catch me if I fall; and as a result my motivation and ability to get out of bed has been plummeting.
But... Yeah. Anecdotally, it's not laziness, it's being anxious, overwhelmed, overstimmed, depressed, feeling lonely (I mean, what's the point in doing anything if no one cares?) and so forth.
Totally!
I just used the classic "lazy beggar don't want to work" rightwing trope here.
For sure. From my experience of having kid on spectrum, dealing with it and learning about how to help him (ok, the wife did most of the work there), we came to conclusion that almost all people have either ADHD or autistic traits, some even both. People we know that have ADHD traits are almost all a mess, add some shitty parenting or being prone to addiction and you have a recipe for disaster.