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What does someone have to do that means no amount of remorse or effort to fix things will get you to forgive them? I don't mean forgive and forget to the point where they can hurt you again. If someone repeatedly steals from you, forgiveness doesn't mean putting them in a position where they can steal again.

I'm asking this purely out of curiosity. I'm just wondering what the attitude in my corner of the internet is.

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[–] Spaniard@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

That time my cousin and aunt made a scene the first night in the funeral home after my mom died. That's irreparable because

  1. My mom died that fucking day, 2 years after my dad and they were supposed to all be close.
  2. It was due to my personal life (my soon-to-be-wife). To add some context: she is a foreigner so there is a lot of racism and a bit of classism.
  3. Her only living sister.
  4. It's been 6 months and they haven't contacted me, apologized or anything,

Don't get me wrong. They are forgiven, but it hurts and it will hurt for the rest of my life so I don't be able to ever open the door for them to come back into my life.