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I hate to be an albatross around your neck, but it would serve you well to seek out opportunities to practice and hone your social skills. There's definitely a wide variety of neurodivergence in the IT groups in my workplace, but you may have screwed yourself in terms of an opportunity to further build coping/masking skills that are sadly necessary in the workplace.
A commom refrain in many online spaces for experienced software devs and IT workers is that the job requires significantly more soft/social skills than most people are adequately prepared for by their studies. This also matches my personal experience coming up towards year 10 in IT, year 5 as a Systems Engineer/Admin/Scripting Monkey.
I worked as a cashier for about two years, so I do have some social skills, but too much noise and activity tires me out quickly. I chose online college partly because I can do it in an environment that's comfortable to me since I can't do that with work, it helps me get somewhat of a break. I have a friend I made at work who's also autistic and doing an online CS degree. I find them easy to talk to and they are more outgoing than me, and they have helped me figure out how to better socialize. I have been experiencing autistic burnout the past few months though, so lately I have been regressing on some things. I don't know if I'm going to make it, but atm I feel like I will eventually.