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Some toilets have a perfectly round bowl so they don't stick out as far and take up less bathroom floor space - and they work fine, but only in bathrooms that anticipate the vast majority of its occupants to be equipped with a vagina. For those of us rocking a penis, those fucking toilets are horrible - sitting on that damn thing requires you to contort your junk around like some sausage-Houdini as you're sitting, so that you can guide it through the remaining 2 square inches of open space not occupied by your legs or ass. Then when you're actually seated, you still have to sit there and awkwardly hold the thing so it stays pointed straight down.
Fuck up any part of that, and the tip of your dick hits the seat or the inside of the bowl.
...and they must be like $3 cheaper than an oval toilet or something, cuz 99% of US apartments seem to be equipped with the round, vagina-only toilets.
Oval bowls are the way. No matter what's in your pants, it gets the job done without the significantly increased biohazard risk.
I guess in fairness, the problem isn't with their design, it's with the people who purchase the toilets treating them as sex-neutral when no the fuck they aren't!
I never really considered it was because the toilet might be rounder and less oval but I have definitely noticed those toilets because for some reason they're ALL like that in every workplace and commercial building in this one suburb of my city. I have no idea why just that suburb decided they really enjoyed the idea of everyone having their penis touch the toilet bowl. I work freelance and because of agglomeration, most companies in my industry all set up shop in that particular suburb so I got to experience a wide gamut of different buildings who all made this same bizarre and infuriating choice.
I had to get a stupid round one because it was the only one with a 10" rough-in (distance from wall to toilet drain), standard is 12". House is from 1925.
I am a vagina owner from birth, I never imagined the toilet bowl shape would pose an issue to penis owners. From reading your comment I'm still unsure of which toilet bowls you're talking about, I would appreciate if you (or anyone, really) could point to images of both so I, and potentially others, can compare. TIA
How pronounced the difference is feels like it varies but the rounded ones are frequently just way too tiny.
I knew about different bowl / seat shapes, but I never thought about the issues for folks who have a penis.
Very enlightening. Thank you for bringing it up! It's very interesting.
Thanks for those! Clear as day.
I just measured my usual toilet and while the hole is more squarish than the round one in the picture, the 16.5 length is about right. I don't have any problem. I've got average sized junk, and have maybe a slender to medium build.
Maybe weight, whether one is a 'shower' vs a 'grower', or some particular anatomical proportion play into it, I don't know. Maybe how far back one sits is key. Maybe people vary in their butthole to junk measurement. But I don't think this is as universal a problem as OP thinks. But, hey I'm all in favor of a longer toilet standard for those for whom it is.
Round bowls with larger circumference is the clear winner. Elongated bowls also leave stains easier.
Tape a dildo to your vulva now sit down on a round bowl and see if it touches the rim. Now imagine you have to pee while taking a poop and you now have to shove the end down so it pees into the bowl. Do this without touching the rim.
It was the shape of the toilet what I couldn't picture, not the usage
When your dick hits the bowl and you wonder what STD you just picked up.
STDs would be fairly difficult to get, most stuff requires blood or semen to transfer, or sustained skin on skin contact. STDs die pretty quickly once they leave the heat and wetness of the human body.
UTIs would be probably more likely, haha.
Just a little related PSA- you can get tested for STDs for cheap at wellness centers, university clinics, and planned parenthood clinics. The vast majority of STDs are curable, and even the more tenacious ones can be prevented via oral pills or shots like PrEP, whose pills give extremely high resistance to HIV, and whose vaccine has made people immune in trials (needed twice a year to maintain immunity).
At the end of the day, you want to catch STDs quickly, because they can do damage to your organs. Medicines can cure them. And if you are with a new partner, get tested, or wear condoms (or both!)
I hate those.
Sit where it is comfortable and you touch the front, fucken gross, or sit back far enough and stain the bowl.
TIL!
In my parent home there's a octagonal toilet badly shaped so is uncomfortable to sit parallel(the same way you sit in a oval one) because the seat is too long and is uncomfortable to sit crossing the seat because is too narrow, you need to sit diagonally but because is octagonal your dick hits the bowl. Extremely annoying design.