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Holy internalized misogyny, Batman!
This is truly wild and the exact opposite of what women actually need.
Who gets to define the best version of themselves? They don't get input on that? Only you? Only men?
Coupled with your previous post on narcissism where you said this:
It's not tough love. This is abusive language and behavior.
I understand getting frustrated with people if they've failed to make positive changes for themselves for a long time... but unless you're their partner who lives with them, most of it doesn't and shouldn't have a direct impact on your life. Meaning it's up to them to make choices for how they live and what they feel is comfortable. It's up to you to be their friend and respect their choices being different than yours. If you can't do that, you're not actually their friend. You're just a rude domineering person who thinks they know best for everyone else (Pro tip: you don't, actually).
"Tough love" almost never results in people suddenly respecting your opinion. No, if anything it makes them resent your opinion.
Even if it is a partner you live with. Guess what? It's healthier to just dump them and move on if you're so disappointed with them than trying to bully them into the person you want them to be. Try spending less time justifying your own actions with your reasoning and try spending more time considering their actions and their reasoning with intent to focus on charitable interpretations.
Look, I've had anger problems myself. The worst habit I picked up from my shitty parents was resorting to hurtful and abusive language when I've been pushed pushed pushed into anger. Even if the things I am saying have root in valid critiques of the people and the situation the abusive language does not help anything, ever, at all! I know this from experience. What you probably need is some therapy to help you find more healthy ways to express yourself and more healthy ways to help yourself disconnect from these situations as they do not impact you personally most of the time. (I can see a perpetually late friend impacting you, but that's small potatoes, get over it or stop being their friend: problem solved.) I promise you, therapy helps.
All you're doing is making people hate you.
From what I’ve read, she seems to think everyone will always be worse than her no matter how hard they try. They’ll never be good enough for her, so she’ll always find someone to be disappointed in and something to be disappointed in everyone for.
Also, this is unrelated, but as a panromantic woman, I don’t understand why she keeps insisting she is pansexual or whatever.
I won’t judge but this reads like she is not interested in women? Perhaps bicurious like this current post says.
Seems like she's just collecting adjectives at this point.
I do like women. Women are beautiful.
I, in fact, tried dating one at 16, but I was also dating this dude and trying to break up. She didn’t know I was dating him, though (she never even asked) and caught me with him. She was very upset, so I told my homophobic asshole friend to go F herself for telling her I have a boyfriend :(
So yeah, my big-mouthed friend ruined that for me, sadly. I told her to never speak to me again and she couldn’t sit with me for the rest of sophomore year, but since I’m quite sweet, I forgave her. i know she was devoted to me.
It sounds like you ruined it for yourself. Judging from all of your replies and especially this one in particular, you seem to lack the ability to take basic accountability for your own actions. I would suggest reflecting on the cause-and-effect in the anecdotes you've shared and try to visualize how they might played out were the roles reversed and other people spoke to/treated you the way that you describe treating them. Even if you have some degree of sociopathy (I'm not a mental health professional by any means), you should still be able to reflect on these situations on an intellectual and objective level and consider that you might be the cause of these conflicts.