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I only speak cantonese at home, for most of contact with society, it was English, when in the US, or during the few early years of my life in China, it was Mandarin. (But now it's just English, since its the US)

And my parents are... not very nice parents...

Emotionally abusive for my entire life, and, during the early years of my life, used "corporal punishment", but only stopped because I got older and can defend myself.

But still constantly being emotionally abusive.

And deny that my (diagnosed) depression exists, while accusing me of "faking" it. While simultaneously threatening to hospitalize me.

Also my (older) brother (who also speaks cantonese at home) is a major douchbag, very abusive to me, especially when I was younger.

grandparents are passive agressive

Like, I kinda just hate Cantonese. I mean, almost every interaction in Cantonese is with an abusive person. And with how closely related Mandarin is to Cantonese, I kinda hate Mandarin too. There's just so much conservative culture that's attached to Chinese languages, everytime I hear someone talk in Chinese, especially Cantonese, I kinda feel fear, I feel like my parents are nearby and are yelling at me.

I mean, with English interactions, there's like half good half bad interactions

With cantonese, its like almost 100% bad interactions

So like... 🤷‍♂️

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[–] hendrik@palaver.p3x.de 10 points 3 days ago

Understandable. We all have memories and triggers. Can be pretty much anything. Question is, whether you need to overcome it for some reason, for example to be more happy in your life. That might or might not be important. On it's own it's just you having a past.