Ask Lemmy

OkCupid used to be the best for finding matching people: they crowdsourced thousands of relevant multiple choice questions from which you built your search filter: which answers you accept, how important each is to you, and a voluntary explanation. The questions and match results were factored into friendship, dating, and sex.

Then Match Group bought it. First they let it be, but then they:

• removed the factoring - no more looking for friends or sex, only complete packages
• removed search - no more finding the best matches anywhere on the planet, now you just swipe like Tinder
• removed keyword search - no more finding rare interests not included in the questions, like "furry"
• removed the search filter - now everything has to be the same to match: both of you must have or not have tattoos for example, never mind what you like - one of my likes went from 95% to 50% match
• deleted the voluntary explanations without warning, so no one could back theirs up
• deleted ~95% of the match questions without warning
• deleted all accumulated likes, which were my best matching people around the world with the maximum couple/friend/sex partner potential except location for now. I had the links saved, but they broke all of them.
• they delete matches (mutual likes) if they haven't been messaging in a while, as if that meant they're not a match - no, we're just distant for now
• they police inconvenient statements in the users' introductions as the political situation evolves - the day after the mass murderer CEO got shot, the section in my profile containing "fuck the healthcare system - make a better one" was deleted without sending me a copy to edit

Avoid the whole Match Group.

Now that I think of it, the destruction of OkCupid looks like a politically motivated attack against the minorities and intellectual power users who used to flock there.