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I rarely feel attacked when I talk with people in person. And we all take people feelings into consideration enough so no one is trying to attack anyone.

I was not actively commenting on social media since I was 13. But when I joined Lemmy i saw the statistics only 1% of people are actively posting and commenting on social media. And since I knew I was in 99% of people who are only consuming and really wanted Lemmy to take off I tried to be more active.

But now I find myself way too often attacked and attacking. And I always judged people that are attacking others on Xitter or Facebook.

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[–] GetOffMyLan@programming.dev 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

A big problem is that it's just text. In real life tone and body language go a huge way to determining how someone means to make you feel.

If someone is disagreeing with you in real life it's much easier to tell if they just have a different opinion and respect yours or are being a dick.

Often when someone comes across really rude it's meant in a half joking way which again would be easy to tell in an actual conversation.

These misunderstandings lead to things heating up real quick.