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Let's say your mom needs chemo treatments and can't drive herself. You wanna be good to your mom and drive her, but she's recently developed a behavior from the stress and medication that when she's in a car with someone, she fights with the driver trying to grab the steering wheel and aim the car at pedestrians.
It's not her fault that she's developed this behavior, but you'd think she could at least control herself and stop trying to run over pedestrians, but she says she doesn't want to. Technically, since you're driving, you could convince the police that you're actually the one trying to commit vehicular manslaughter, so while you could deflect the blame, you really know it's her own fault.
You could also physically restrain your mom, except for all those pesky elder-abuse laws and what kind of person would do that to their mother anyway?
So, what are you gonna do? Will you be a complicit party to your mom's desire to see pedestrians run over, or will you stop letting her into your car and let her ride the train and bus like an adult? Remember, she's dying from cancer, but lots of other people experience intrusive thoughts without acting on them and lots of other people don't have family to support them but still manage just fine.
So, what's your answer? Support your mom and tell her it's okay to try killing/hurting people, or let her figure things out for herself and hope that she comes to her senses? She could always prove to you that she realized her behavior was wrong and that she's ready to ride in the car with you.
And don't worry, no matter what you answer, I'm still going to call you an asshole, because that's how reductive internet trolls work. Cuz "fuck you, this is your mom, damn," and "it's just simple defensive driving."