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It's been a long ol time since I've known any lesbians well enough to ask such things, but I followed my brain down a weird line of inquiry, and got to wondering about the current state of the art for the gay gals. I guess I had always assumed it was similar to the dynamics of a gay guy relationship, but then I realized that since men have both an input and an output, they can choose, but it's mechanically a bit different for cis women. Is there any relationship between that, and the slightly more masculine versus feminine flavors? Asking for a friend, who is me. I want to know. Thanks.

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[โ€“] AlternateRoute@lemmy.ca 2 points 6 days ago (2 children)

If you do a little googling it is easy to confirm but there is the sexual definition like you where referring to and then there is just the more general relationship definition which is basically the Top is the more dominate / assertive partner and the bottom is the more passive partner.

[โ€“] stoicmaverick@lemmy.world 18 points 6 days ago (2 children)

If you "do a little googling" you can confirm anything you want wether it's true or not. That's why I came here to ask actual lesbian, and lesbian adjacent people.

[โ€“] Wahots@pawb.social 3 points 6 days ago

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