Asklemmy

Damn, op is 31 but at 35 you're one foot in the grave. Nah jk. Listen don't worry about meeting someone. Just go out and make friends in person. Literally you can just go to the same public place every day and meet all the regulars. Helps if it's some kind of group activity or knowledge sharing activity. Get into something and make some friends; if you keep at it you'll meet someone that makes each other's parts will tingle. And if not you'll have a bunch of friends.

All life is suffering. You can suffer the discomfort of loneliness or the discomfort of rejection. Probably at the end of the day they are equally uncomfortable but one of these options has the advantage of solving itself over time.

Another pro tip is to fill your head with positive, affirmative thoughts. Spend ten minutes in the morning repeating a lot of statements such as "I have conquered my fear of public speaking many times over; I love how I feel after a day of hard work; everywhere I go people smile at me."

Use someone else's list or write your own. Any thoughts you have that makes you feel empowered, write them down. If you spend some time on this in the morning, when your brain inevitably starts talking shit later in the day, it's going to have these positive affirmations right at its finger tips. You WILL find that two things start to happen: you have fewer, negative, intrusive thoughts, and when you do have them, they won't be as disruptive to whatever your plans and goals are. It really works. If you follow along with a premade positive affirmations video on YouTube, I guarantee you will notice results the same day. 10 to 30 minutes every morning. Will change your life.